merging ideal wife and ideal bahu

Can an ideal wife be necessarily an ideal bahu?

Can an ideal bahu be necessarily an ideal wife?

Are they contradictory or not?

In tv serials they merge an ideal wife and an ideal bahu.

In tv serials husband approves an ideal bahu and considers it a qualification to be an ideal wife.

An ideal wife who is not an ideal bahu is an anchronism in tv serials.

Watch any serial. You will get the same drift.

The so called progressive tv serials also has bahus doing everything to earn the tag of ideal bahu inspite of shouting now and then. The day the bahu really starts to stop being an ideal bahu, she also becomes a bad wife.

Who is an ideal bahu?

Who saves her nanand and devar frequently. Who cooks, carries trays and wins the heart of saas and sasur. Who goes to any lengths to please everyone in the in laws house even if they have murderous intentions. Who does all the housework, other work, yet remains fresh with not a hair out of place.Who welcomes even a very distant mosquito if it is related with open arms and open heart.
Whose motto is that her arthi will go from her sasural only. Who is a multi tasker. Who can be a office goer and also home maker with not a frown. Never badmouths anyone especially if they belong to her sasural. ready to slap her own brother or her own sister if they try to show the mirror. Who can forgive easily.

Anything else I have forgotten?

A non ideal bahu will be the one who will mind her own business and allows her nanand and devar to mind their own businesses. A non ideal bahu can drink her coffee when she gets a headache even when others are waiting for their own cuppa.
A non ideal bahu wont mind looking a bit dishevelled occasionally. Can crack jokes when she is with her husband and can laugh at jokes.
Can ask for some help in housework. Appoint a help too independently.
Can go to films or parties with her office friends and not feel guilty about it.
Can have some silly habits like going on a shopping spree as a stress buster.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Who is an ideal bahu?

Who saves her nanand and devar frequently. Who cooks, carries trays and wins the heart of saas and sasur. Who goes to any lengths to please everyone in the in laws house even if they have murderous intentions. Who does all the housework, other work, yet remains fresh with not a hair out of place.Who welcomes even a very distant mosquito if it is related with open arms and open heart.
Whose motto is that her arthi will go from her sasural only. Who is a multi tasker. Who can be a office goer and also home maker with not a frown. Never badmouths anyone especially if they belong to her sasural. ready to slap her own brother or her own sister if they try to show the mirror. Who can forgive easily.

Anything else I have forgotten?

I dint get u in this"ready to slap own brother if they try to show the mirror"
from where u got this point?

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

A non ideal bahu will be the one who will mind her own business and allows her nanand and devar to mind their own businesses. A non ideal bahu can drink her coffee when she gets a headache even when others are waiting for their own cuppa.
A non ideal bahu wont mind looking a bit unshevelled occasionally. Can crack jokes when she is with her husband and can laugh at jokes.
Can ask for some help in housework. Appoint a help too independently.
Can go to films or parties with her office friends and not feel guilty about it.
Can have some silly habits like going on a shopping spree as a stress buster.

I like this as this is realistic! This is how it should be.

I dint get u in this"ready to slap own brother if they try to show the mirror"
from where u got this point?

In case her own brother or sister says leave your husband who is torturing you or if they say dont tolerate you inlawas cruelty, the ideal bahu slaps them to prove that her loyalty lies with the inlaws even if they are torturing her like hell. She will rather die there than come out and breathe freedom.