Originally posted by: farru786
I agree aahil's reaction was justified.but don't u think aahil is also at fault in some places.firstly he outrightly rejected sanam' s explanation about her disappeareance from marriage I dono wat explanation sanam would have provided but he must have given her a fair chance.fine his reactions were justified as seher was always distanced from him while the swap but the main ingredient of trust is lacking in their relationship.aahil himself too never tried to know the reason nd oly keeps taunting her .accepting sanam 2 nd giving her a place in his room nd infront of entire Bhopal wasn't wrong??.just to avenge sanam he did this is it k to very easily give ur wife' s place to someone else in a blink of an eye??sorry love cannot be that shallow.if sanam is behaving idiotic atleast aahil could have showen some commonsense.nd I really dint understand Wats the use of hiding seher now as tanveer has already come to know about the twins.a relationship crumbles oly when both people are inadequate in making their relations successful.in sanam' s case its her keeping everyone before her husband nd married life nd in aahil' s case its his mistrust which had even made him agree to send his wife to jail the sane women he proclaims to love madly.
I am quoting you and answering, but this post is going to be pretty long and will address various posts in one reply.
You are right Aahil is at fault. But many of us are acknowledging that fault, and also saying, you know what, he is at fault but so is Sanam.
Here's what I wonder: what exactly was Sanam going to explain to Aahil? Was she going to talk about her sister, or go straight into talking to him about his mother? Because Sanam's focus seems to be not on first fixing the relationship or what was actually wrong with the relationship, but revenge and revealing Tanveer to Aahil.
Aahil gave the place to someone else, yes. But what about Sanam. As I say, all she had to do was show up in front of him with her sister and boom...that will lead to an explanation. He would definitely listen.
Instead, what does she do? She hides her sister, lets her sister continue to impersonate her, and puts 'revenge' and revealing of Tanveer above getting back her relationship. It's as if she thinks revealing Tanveer is what will also fix the relationship, not bothering with the little problematic detail that the problem in the relationship is something else. Maybe she hoped that reveal of Tanveer will trump everything else, and the little problem of her sister won't have to be dealt with or focused on too much. Sort of like how all of Seher's actions conveniently were brushed over and everything put on Razia. I don't know.
If Sanam decides she doesn't want Aahil anymore okay, fine. If she decides she can forgive her sister, but not Aahil, okay, it's her choice. If she decided revenge of bringing down Tanveer is more important and she is no longer interested in him due to this new marriage, or even because a relationship with him is just too much work and filled with too many troubles and problems. Also fine.
But that's not it. She wants Aahil, yet doesn't address the main issue keeping her from Aahil. And she is trying to get Aahil back while she puts her sister and revenge over him. If it wasn't the case, she would have cleared it with Aahil. Instead she does nothing to assert her right, doesn't make much of an effort to explain to Aahil, and accepts the Sanam2 marriage--probably figuring that once Tanveer is revealed Aahil will come back to her and Sanam2 would would leave. Sanam2 can carry on in this charade of a marriage until either Aahil gives into his love over anger/hurt/betrayal (with no explanation) or until Tanveer is revealed, which Sanam ties in with getting back Aahil. So basically in her mind, Sanam2 can be her sauten and carry on being his wife until he gets back with her.
She didn't need to stay on as servant to win back Aahil. She just had to say the truth. But her focus is not on that. Her focus is on bringing down Tanveer, while at the same time trying to get back Aahil, She accepts and continues with the whole situation--servant, polygamous marriage, etc etc--because they thought it would lead to revealing Tanveer.
So she continues to keep the one thing that can first get Aahil back, and also continues playing the swapping game because their game with Tanveer is more important. I have said this before. If it were a female in Aahil's position where a male conned her and then continued to swap with the knowledge of her husband, there would be no end in the bashing that the husband and his twin would receive.
I do not object at all that the situation, atmosphere and dynamics right now is an unhealthy situation and troubling, one which Sanam ideally should get out of--whether it be by taking a stand and asserting her rights, or by making a choice and leaving. But Aahil is not only the guilty party for this--or even the one most to blame--yet he gets all the blame. Yes, Aahil is guilty for acting rashly and done so with the intent to hurt. But Sanam too is guilty. If her relationship with Aahil is important, she should've told him the one thing which would've put them back on the right track. Which she didn't, when she had plenty of chances to do so.
I don't see why Sanam's actions or lack of actions are blamed on the CVs while Aahil's actions mean he is the guilty one and at fault and to blame. And even if the twins reveal themselves to Aahil now, it's too late. It doesn't absolve them for what they did till now, and how they played a part in how it reached this point.
Edited by KhatamKahani - 11 years ago
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