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I noticed that so many people in this forum keep expressing their desire to see Ishita walk out of her marriage with Ruhi. Is that the only solution to deal with marital conflict? Walking out?
I agree that staying in abusive relationships is not healthy, but at the same time, the other end of the extreme is also not healthy - walking out of a marriage or relationship every time there is some form of conflict.
Marriage is not a bed of roses. There will be many disagreements, arguments and fights. Couples will raise their voices or isolate themselves from their partners for a while. None of that matters if they are able to come together after a point and clear their differences, as Raman and Ishita did in recent episodes.
Granted, this show has shown many stupid scenes that would simply not happen in real relationships, but at the end of the day, it is a show and we need to look at the big picture.
I agree that the Bhallas don't always treat Ishita well, but no one divorces their partner for the mistakes of their in-laws. There is always the choice to live separately if the problem gets out of hand. However, arguments with in-laws are also normal, and Toshiji did apologize to Ishita later which I think was a big step. Not many MILs admit their mistakes and apologize to their DIL, but Toshij did apologize to Ishita and I think that reflects very well on her. I don't remember seeing a contrite MIL in any other show. Usually it's the DILs continuously asking for forgiveness.
Also, I agree that Raman is not always the perfect husband, but neither is Ishita the perfect wife. Both of them have made their fair share of mistakes and treated each other unfairly, but at the end of the day, they are still husband and wife and love each other. They have come a far way in their relationship and there is definitely room for improvement, but that is what marriage is. No marriage is perfect, no husband/wife is perfect, and marriages keep improving and become stronger until the couple grows old. The perfect marriage is that marriage in which a couple grows old together, looks back at their long life, and can think of the past with pleasure and happiness.
Raman and Ishita are nowhere near having a perfect marriage, but neither is their marriage doomed or abusive. Both of them still need to improve in their communication and understanding of each other, but their bond is also very strong. Ishita will not walk out of her marriage, because she has no need to. Raman is a good husband, and she is a good wife. They are not perfect, but they are perfect for each other.
Anupamaa
