Arzoo just wants the good in Sahir ... - Page 2

Originally posted by: sam123_0

Funny thing she stayed back in his house to understand his pain.. Because she there was no one to understand his pain... But now she does not want that side of him... Strange

Originally posted by: harshu.sundas

love is unconditional, and then there are no strings attached, you do accept your partner with their flaws, and not boast about your self righteous qualities and demean them...

i dont understand one thing, how does arzoo even deserve sahir if she wants him like how zaki or any random lover is ? Sahir is sahir, his flaws, his life, his mistakes, his qualities, if arzoo wants him, she has to deal with all his traits ...

Originally posted by: -Ms.Wildcherry-

in this case it is right to side aarzoo actually, because she does not know completely yet that he's betrayed and even married,she does know yes, that there's some pain in his life,maybe aarzoo enjoys sahir's company and all the attention he is giving to her and she might think that slowly he will open up to her and she will ask him to tell the whole story of his life but the thing is,for now this day is far ahead because aarzoo is unaware of sahir's love confession plan.

Mallu

Originally posted by: Soaps1

I seriously feel arzoo is not yet in love after today ... she is yet to fall in love ... she is attracted to him may be ... where she dreams of his goodness ... because if she loved him how come she is always thinking about the bad in him and never the good? How come by her own standards of trust and reading eyes ... she can't see his pain?

but then now they have projected her feelings as love, and even confirmed it several times.. moreover they will make sahir change for arzoo.. one thing i dont understand is sahir can even destroy himself in zeenat's love and that is indeed true worshipping and here arzoo cannot handle his one single rant ? he is handling and living a betrayal for 7 years and arzoo has already given up, so how will she heal him ? this is so absurd granny ..

It is not that she wants to see good side of sahir it's his way of reaction to each different situation that his confused arzoo .

Originally posted by: dakshaavi

It is not that she wants to see good side of sahir it's his way of reaction to each different situation that his confused arzoo .

The man who says he respect her and her strength doesn't trust her when the whole family accuses her . He needs proof at that time why?

Arzoo was equally wrong there when sahir himself asked for clarification she brushes him off and doesn't let him know the truth.

They are equally at fault .

It isn't just that she wants to only see the nice side of him. That's the assumption that he has made from her speech. What she said the other day when he came to apologize to her, was she wants to know all of him so she can know the true him, not just one face and then another. She knows he's in pain and when he his she wants so desperately to help him be there for him but he always pushes her away. What is she supposed to make of that? She wants a true partner one that shares everything with her. He knows about her past and her problems but she has no rights on his pain on his problems...wasn't that what they've been fighting about for the last couple of weeks. Now he's made the assumption that the extremes in his attitude are what is driving her away from him when in reality it's the fact that she can't see the entire whole. It's like the blind men that examine the elephant. Each come to their own conclusions based on what part they touched but not one could explain the whole. That's what Aarzoo's experience with Sahir has been like, hot one minute, cold the next, She sees bits and pieces of him but the most important part of him he hides away along with his pain and that is what she really wants to know.

Originally posted by: elizyscott

It isn't just that she wants to only see the nice side of him. That's the assumption that he has made from her speech. What she said the other day when he came to apologize to her, was she wants to know all of him so she can know the true him, not just one face and then another. She knows he's in pain and when he his she wants so desperately to help him be there for him but he always pushes her away. What is she supposed to make of that? She wants a true partner one that shares everything with her. He knows about her past and her problems but she has no rights on his pain on his problems...wasn't that what they've been fighting about for the last couple of weeks. Now he's made the assumption that the extremes in his attitude are what is driving her away from him when in reality it's the fact that she can't see the entire whole. It's like the blind men that examine the elephant. Each come to their own conclusions based on what part they touched but not one could explain the whole. That's what Aarzoo's experience with Sahir has been like, hot one minute, cold the next, She sees bits and pieces of him but the most important part of him he hides away along with his pain and that is what she really wants to know.

His plan for Aarzoo to admit her feelings for him is going to cost him a lot more than what he thinks and I think a part of him has realized that. He might have been okay with the one time grand gesture, thinking she'd fall quickly but when he came across her actual reasons for not being able to do so he's realized that he's going to have to gain her trust. I'm hoping the real reason why he said he won't tell her he loves her again is because he's realized the real weight of those words.

Very well said. Agree with you 100%

No, its not that she wants only his good side, she wants him to be more open and frank with her.
She wants a relationship of trust . See its like this...an abuser can abuse his wife , and when she complains..he can throw it on her and say.."hey you wanted only my good side? If you love me you should tolerate my bad side too.."..and continue to abuse her. Does that sound right? No.

We should wholly love our partner, does not mean we will encourage rude, offensive behaviour in them and say its okay. Sahir 's attitude of never truly opening upto her is whats killing her...you cannot blindly commit to a man without knowing anything about him just because you are attracted to him.
Who knows what kind of jerk he is?

In fact I loved Arzoo's frank talk...she told him clearly...aap pyar karne chale...you dont even understand yourself...you don't know which facet of you is going to surface next moment...and you are talking about love. She told him she liked the evening and wooing and all...but that does not build a relationship. Its trust. I loved it that she did not go all shy and overwhelmed that such a big shot is proposing to her. I am glad she stood her ground, but only to be overcome by emotional manipulation next day. Lets see what the CVs have planned.