Originally posted by: sonarikan
whoa Love is about loving the person and lust is about loving the looks. great line.
now come out of your ideal world.
lets talk about the real world. every established guy wants to marry a beautiful girl. every good looking girls get the most attention. even in fb pages they gets the most likes. in arrange marriage every guy/girl checks the picture to see their spouse beautiful or not.
Now you can call it lust horny or whatever. but at the end of the day most of the established guys want a fair wife. And why should not they?
they have dreamt all their life about this moment all their life they have worked hard for this. And I have no problem with this.Its the law of the jungle and thats how it should be.
you can talk about the personality all you want and your great religious love does not care about looks.
but in reality
the first thing a guy checks about a girl is her look.And people check google about hot actresses to masturbate and thats fact.
I know some " wanna be god " guys will disagree but who cares the majority rules.
And about the love at first sight i think its 100% normal and happens most of the time. I fell in love with a girl at first sight and I love her more than anything in the world. now is this also only attraction ?
Same goes for yuvraj and soumya.
yuvraj fell in love in first sight.and thats no attraction or lust. Its called first love.And first love rules.I know that the show will try desperately to establish that yuvrajs first love was a mistake and he will move on with suhani.And they wil try their hardest to portray that soumya was a bad girl and she was a wrong choice.
but who cares love was never about choices.and as I said before about the first love. it is truly the unconditional one. sure you can move on and move on and make 10 bf/gfs. but the first one will always be the truest because you can not forget about it no matter how much you try.it will just grow more and more with time.
you say the looks do not matter.
well I say it does matter and trust me when i tell you it takes matter of seconds to fall in love.
One split second of those angelic eyes and innocent face of the girl is enough to fall in love at first sight.
So IMO looks do matter. atleast it happened to me at my love at first sight.
First I would like to say, I hope you dont think I am arguing with you. I am just stating my opinion. So please don't take it personally. Honestly I dont think you really understand the actually means of my post because I never said looks dont matter. To me, it seems like you are writing with that in mind. I am just saying love shouldnt solely be based on looks.
Before I go any further, I would just like to say that my post has no religious base to it if any kind. It was just a simple line of my belief. I believe God gave me what I have and I work with it, that is all. I am not the religious type, I go and pray when I can. So lets just leave that sentence as is and move forward.
Like I mentioned before I am just stating my opinion and I dont believe in love at first site, I consider that to be called attraction. But if you believe in it that is great, I am no one to say anything about it. Thanks for giving your personal experience as an example but again I am no one to comment on it. But if you do not mind me asking, after you first saw her did you not try and get to know her. Other then that I dont want to discuss your personal life.
I have agreed with you before on the sexual drive of both female and male. Yes people do want a handsome wife and husband but sometimes you dont get what you want, for whatever reason, that does not mean or its not right for someone to forget they wife and husband or go out and have an affair. Looks do matter, I never said it didnt, if I did I would have never mentioned that Suhani need to start dressing up and try to look attractive because it does matter. All I am saying that it shouldn't hold much value. Many people dont look like supermodel, there born the way they are or have had some sort of tragedy, which they dont look so appealing, does that mean they shouldnt be loved. If we all look at the people physically then we would be half the population we are now, maybe less.
In regards to the show, I believe yuvraj is attracted to Soumya, an his heart beats when she walks by but when it came to her personality, I alway found him discouraged. Yuvraj honestly never really got a chance to really get to know soumya, I cant even name more then three times they even had a discussion. That cooking scene, when he tried the food, he felt like it was the Somuya he fell in love with. He didnt even know she didnt know how to cook. Yuvraj only had an ideal image of her, poor guy didnt even get to know her. If he did get a chance to know her then I would say yes he is in love but as of now I would just say he is really attracted to her. Suhani is to leave the house soon so maybe this Is the chance where Yuvraj gets to know Soumya and my opinion might change but right now for me he is in love but a image he holds of souyma.
Looks do matter because it attracts you to one another but ones personality could make or break the relationship. Yuvraj is attracted to soumya but her lying personality makes it hard for him to pursue her at the moment, he gets discourage. All I am saying, is I have noticed that many people favor Soumya because she is pretty, they dont care see her negativity. Many people dislike Suhani cause she is dusky and they refuse to look at her positivity. I honestly wont be able to live with a selfish person like Soumya because when her beauty goes away with age or whatever, I have to live with her. That is why I said Beauty is short lived, personality lives forever.
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