Nandini ....

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anonee

@anonee

Sparkler

Posted: 10 years ago

Nandini ...

Kudos to the CVs for handling another sensitive issue - and that is the story of Nandini.

As I see it Nandini has not been able to emotionally break free from her x-husband. She still loves the man who cheated on her, humiliated her, lies to her, and uses her to kill and get money.

One would think it is easy to hate a man who breaks your heart. Think again ... we had Pakhi who put up with Anshuman flaunting Tanya in front of her, and now we have Nandini who is struggling to accept her situation.

The problem is with our minds - one has to stop obsessive thoughts about one's ex. Nandini thinks that she is so in love with her ex that she is willing to go to the extreme to get him back. Her emotional state is a wreck, her inner critic probably tells her she is worthless, and she is unable to overcome the shame of being jilted. Her self esteem is shot (pun intended). All she wants is to get him back and gain some respect in her own eyes and in society!

I do not think anyone can force somebody from loving another (Veer and Pakhi are examples). But she needs emotional support to pull herself together, so that she can learn how to live a happy, fulfilled strong life without him. It won't be easy. It will take time and effort - Veer is aware of that. But she CAN move on and re-create her own life!

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payal7

@payal7

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Posted: 10 years ago

You know Anonee this story line has given me a fresh perspective on this issue.

In the past whenever I have seen such an issue it has always resulted in the girl/woman being sent back to her parents home and is then more often than not treated as a burden by her S-I-Ls. And I have always felt that it was not fair to send the girl/woman back.

Here Jiji chose to do the opposite but standing back that was not the right thing either because Nadnini has been trapped in a time warp whereby she has all the trapping of being a married woman but none of the benefits - no husband to support her or defend her, no family, no real respect from society. This has left her feeling worthless and therefore desperate for any kind of affection.

So with hindsight I think in these situations it would be better if the person affected is supported in making the decisions about their life (I am not sure this happens in India at present except in the big cities) and if they chose to marry again they are not stigmatised.

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anonee

@anonee

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Posted: 10 years ago

Payal - I do not believe in generalizing comments to India. I live outside of India and I know this occurs in several countries through out the world.

I prefer to keep my comments related to the serial.

As far as Nandini is concerned - she did not have to put on the trappings of a married woman and stay at home. Given how forward thinking Jiji and Veer are she could have chosen to volunteer her time to some cause, educate herself further, or find meaningful and self-satisfying work.

It is up to Nandini to get herself out of the mental block that is holding her back. She has to reach out - so that the helping hands of Veer and Jiji can pull her out of her emotional shackles.

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