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Posted: 10 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: shelly_08
I'd STILL say that sacrifices don't happen in real life.

I will go ahead with the guy I love if he loves me as well. Why give my BFF false hopes? I have always been honest with her coz THAT'S exactly how two friends function!

We are 'friends' not 'mother-hens' or 'chickens'.

Yes it will be a bit awkward, a bit painful, but what are BFF's for?

sacrifice for friend- maybe,.,,but for family -100%

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Posted: 10 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: .GrangerMalfoy.

And I got my answer 😆

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Posted: 10 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: charminggenie
Manik is flawed. This action seems like an escape and the easier option .It's Manik going back to his old self and not taking a "grown-up" mature decision.
Since Nandu and Manik have already confessed , it became something very serious. If Manik wanted to step back for his friend, he should have let Nandu be aware that there are certain circumstances which is stopping him from loving her or asked for more time to get a clearer perspective.If revealing all to her is breaking his friendship code, then he should have always cared for the sanctity of his bond with Nandu. But I do understand that Manik is impulsive, he feels safe , when things are like status quo.

If it was me, I would never give up on my love because that is a betrayal. Would have sorted it out with my bff and made him clear to where I stand with the my love. Rather than hide it , i would give respect to both relationships.

But as they have shown in the show that Manik would destroy himself for his friends..that has been his nature till now. But self-destruction at Nandu's happiness cost, whether he would be able to pay that price is the question. In real life, people go through quite a couple of relationships, they get over, they move on..because noone can stay unhappy for life waiting for the one love they can't have while their love is happily settled with someone..that would be wasting life..but would not like to see that happening here.,,i mean the moving on coz ultimately they have to be the together. When you are certain of an outcome..all the hurdles the pain are worth the wait of the union.

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Posted: 10 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: myvoiz

But as they have shown in the show that Manik would destroy himself for his friends..that has been his nature till now. But self-destruction at Nandu's happiness cost, whether he would be able to pay that price is the question. In real life, people go through quite a couple of relationships, they get over, they move on..because noone can stay unhappy for life waiting for the one love they can't have while their love is happily settled with someone..that would be wasting life..but would not like to see that happening here.,,i mean the moving on coz ultimately they have to be the together. When you are certain of an outcome..all the hurdles the pain are worth the wait of the union.

Yes - he would destroy himself for his friends and that is part of who he really is. But the point is- this makes for his greatest flaw. He cannot decide or be the shield always, there are some pains which are inevitable. He needs to learn how to stop. Otherwise it's unhealthy and suffocating.

Depends, sometimes moving on is not easy if it's true love. Especially when the person is aware that his feelings are reciprocated and have completed their life in an irreplaceable manner.

Manik is impulsive hence he went to his usual option but it's physically and emotionally impossible for him to be away from here. And knowing that she loved him too will kill him always. Hence his fight to reclaim his lost self to be worthy of her.

Nandu's forgiveness has to be fought hard. She is rational though might not approve or forgive him for his decision but she has gone all out emotionally. She will carry his essence even in the form of hate for a long time. It takes ages to get over love of this kind.

This is a different situation, friend shouldn't back off just for his BFF because the love is mutual.

Moving on will be Manik fighting for her attention and acceptance . They are too much part of each others lives at this point. So no moving on, until they have sorted it out themselves. But since there is no major conflict except Manik's assy impulsiveness , it will be conclusive that both will seek each other again.

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rope_and_anchor

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Aaand, this has happened to me, and I was the Dhruv there. I started off as being the matchmaker between my two best friends, and I fell for him HARD, enroute. You know what happened?
She figured out, and supported me. No, she didn't sacrifice, she helped me deal with it. She didn't force me to get over him, nor did she give me any false hopes. And then, he figured out. And boy! Was he understanding or what! They both stood by me throughout till the time I got over it, which did take a long time-it was my first, and I continued being there biggest supporter, and that made the three of us the closest friends there ever have been. This happened some 7 years ago, and we are still topmost on our speed dials.
What I'm saying is, it all depends on the people involved. There is no rule per se, that this is the right thing to do. For us three, this was the best thing to have happened to us. For someone else, this could have been the end of it all. Where forgetting him would have been the wrong choice for us, it could be perfect for someone els. Maybe I was able to back off because I knew how much in love they were. e. Or maybe, this all worked out because the THREE of us were bestfriends, I don't know. But you get my point. :D

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Posted: 10 years ago

#26

Having said that, I can't blame Manik. His decision is not the right one, but I can't blame him for choosing it.

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Esha Singh

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Posted: 10 years ago

#27

Honesty is the best policy !!!! Manik can take any decision he likes but only for HIMSELF !!!
He has no right to play with other ppls emotions. He loves Dhruv more than anything right, doesn't Dhruv deserve to know the real truth ?! Doesn't he deserve some honesty here from his bff ? Did Manik take in consideration what will happen when he discovers the truth later...did Manik consider the pain Dhruv will go through when Nandini rejects him, after keeping his hopes so high ?
And what abt Nandini ??? Manik supposedly loves her right ? Than what happened now, makes me wonder if Manik has ever really cared abt her ! He is willing to satisfy his bff even if that means emotionally killing the one you supposedly love...well what kind of love is tht
At the end of the day all 3 will end up heartbroken. I think Nandeni should reject both Manik and Dhruv and move on with her life

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