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The Mantra: Tumhari Paakhi
This was the mantra that was dinned into Paakhi's head ever since she was forced into marrying Anshuman as a child.
A child bride does not have choice - she is brain washed into believing that the groom she married as a child is her only future - she BELONGS to him. And so strong is the mantra 'tumhari paakhi' - that Paakhi lived in an illusion that she actually loved the groom she married as a child and waited 18 years for him to come and get her to live with him.
Anshuman - the child groom, on the other hand, was brought up with the belief that he had the choice to reject the bride he had wedded as a child.
He was told that he could do the criminal act of bigamy - because the society he lives in permits males to choose whom they want to marry. He would be protected from the law simply because he is a man. And so he rejected Pakhi, wedded another woman and begot Ayaan. This second wife of Anshuman died.
Now Anshuman was again free to reject Pakhi a second time and wed a ultra modern woman with whom he had fallen in love. But the media got to know that Anshuman was married as a kid and Paakhi was his legal wife.
It became difficult for Anshuman to commit the criminal act of bigamy a second time without the risk of being put in jail. And so reluctantly and with the intention of a quick divorce he accepted that Pakhi as wife.
Message: Men are not committed to the woman they marry - the mantra "Tumhara Anshuman' was not dinned into his head. There is no such brain washing whatsoever. And, Anshuman did not feel a twinge of regret or guilt re: his behavior to Pakhi.
Woman are brain washed into fidelity and the "tumhari Pakhi" mantra. In this particular case Pakhi repeating it even after Anshuman's death indicates the extreme brain washing she has been subjected to as a child - because Anshuman was not a good husband to her and (like his fake brother Aryamaan) was a criminal - totally unworthy of Pakhi.
Arjun
Anupamaa
