Should we try fitting in with the crowd?

When we move into a new country, we try to be like everyone else. If we don't then we are considered to be somewhat strange. There is some sort of 'code' which governs what we should wear, whom we should befriend,what we should believe, what kind of life we should lead. To question these or not to adhere to them is to be bizarre. We see a large group of teenagers all wearing the same clothes, same style of hair etc. They were all goths I guess and trying to show that they are that little bit unconventional.

Not many people who are strong enough or willing to question this so called 'code'. Most likely because they are scared of the ridicule they will face and the possible unpopularity. These people tend just to believe the opinion of the majority without giving it any real thought (and why should they, surely if most people believe it then it must be right …. wrong).

So my question to you is should we try fitting in with the crowd? Can it always give us what we really want or just a bunch of fake friends?..Would love to know your thoughts on this.😊

Im sure a lot face this issue, I've faced it too at times when I moved to UK few years ago.

There is no rule whether you should be like them or not. I think as long as you dont start feeling uncomfortable with yourself, as long as you dont change the 'real' you inside you...it shouldn't matter if you try being a part of them to make some new friends, get to know new cultures n traditions. You are always a fair judge for yourself, the moment you feel weird, you can always duck out. I personally believe, no one can force you to become someone you dont want to.

Goths scare me frankly 😛 but I do have close friends who have goth friends n they say that they are social nice people. Its jus that their rules of dressing n some other stuff go into the 'bhayankar' category acc to moi 😛 Everyone always has other choices.


When its not my cuppa tea, I stay off. Or else...as Saif says in Salaam Namaste..."When in Rome, do the Romans! erm hmm. I know this is getting edited 😛

fitting in would mean understand their customs and respect them. it doesn't mean you change yourself totally in to someone even you are not comfortable with 😆

If and when the crowd teaches you to be a better person why not?

I would love several FOBs (not used in a deregatory way, apologies if misconstrued that way ) to be more professional, more punctual, less interfering, less loud in public places, more disciplinary when it comes to children screaming in public places.
I think becoming part of a culture or society is essential component of being COMFORTABLE as well as WELCOME.
Pick your crowd though. Don't hang out with druggies :)

Individuality and IDENTITY should never be compromised with regards to likeable, respectable, justifiable and positive traits. We must retain them and not lose them just for the crowd's sake 😊

Like QT already said, If there are good habits to be picked up, I dont see reason for not learning or fitting in with other people. BUT, you should always set your own limits. Going out of your comfort zone just to be a part of anything, is not a smart thing to do, because not only do you look out of place, but your inner conscious doesn't want to do it, hence there is no personal satisfaction in the matter either.

V.T. I disagree. There is alot of peer pressure and influence in society and all of us are persuaded to be someone else from time to time. Only strong-willed people have the gut to stick to themselves in the tackiest situations, hence not very easy to achieve being yourself. I think it takes alot of understanding and time for one to realize that being someone else is not a good make of the time you have.