Why caring hurts always ??? - Page 3

Agree with part of your post, just two thought i wanted to share :

A good heart means doing good to others, even if they do you bad.

I also believe that relationships are hard to maintain for people who are not genuinely good at heart. People changes themselves to please the other one, they become the nicest/funniest/happiest person but after some years they can't maintain that avatar and so they realize that's not who they are. Then the common mistakes they do is to blame the other one for having changed them, when in fact, they did it themselves.

When someone is truly good at heart and really mean good, they are like that before and after wedding and if their husband/wife is the same, then there is no problem to a life long relationship.

Nice post Schweta , I agree but I have different POVS .

No one is born god or bad person . Our genes environment , upbringing ,experiences makes us what we are .Many good hearted people want to be treated good and they are disappointed more then others .Well, let's review history for example Mahatma Gandhi, President Kennedy, the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Sen. Robert F. Kennedy, and Jesus Christ . They have something in common? they all wanted a world with love, and peace. But,they have something else in common too . They all hoped for peace and love in this world, and they were all murdered for their efforts. So it's universal .and very common .Being good doesn't mean that world will be good to you , wrong expectation ( someone has made this point )

Bad people get hurt just as much as good people. It's just that bad people don't feel the pain as much, because they have a harder shell..example is Ashok , Shgoon Aadi and Parmeet in YHM . Viewer don't like them so we don't feel there pain. May be we don't want do and it's Okay .

Raman and Ishita are very complex characters . They are what they have experienced in their past . Both victims of rejections from their lovers and a child .Rejections send us on a mission to seek and destroy our self-esteem. We often respond to romantic rejections by finding fault in ourselves, bemoaning all our inadequacies, kicking ourselves when we're already down, and smacking our self-esteem into a pulp.And it feels terrible because it communicates the sense to somebody that they're not loved or not wanted, or not in some way valued.

Shagoon rejected Raman for not providing what she needed and Shboo did the same . They both are rejected by kids . Addi and Ishita's infertility . This made them in to exactly opposite personalities and very lovable people . Ramen as a man and he is afraid to come close to any one and he does that with his anger and nasty comments , he loves many people but his way of showing love is very different .on the other hand Inshita as a women who wants everyone closer to her and she bends over backwards to keep everyone close to her . Same pain , expression of pain is different .I've experienced it. You've experienced it. Yet every time it happens, we're reminded again how not fun it is to be rejected.

So in conclusion we all feel the same pain but we handle it differently . Good hearted people suffer and show it's agony and try to improve it by being nicer and Bad people ( I hate to use this term ) very good at hiding pain and they seek revenge to get even .

I think we should lower expectations from others and behave the way pleases us not others . It's impossible to please everyone around us.

Nice post

@ Heema

Wise words indeed.