Originally posted by: raj5000
Who bears the marraige expenses? Girls folks / Guy'd folk OR marrying individuals?
👏👏Great topic Anshu. Up until few years back the girl's family used to bear expenses. However, I see increasingly it is the marrying individuals who decide about expenses and share the cost in some way. I think we are now following the western society and modern day expenses.
We have also seen that in lieu of presents, the couple ask for money. A lot of times they have showers or "socials". The socials are a big thing here in my Province. The couple sell tickets for such events and provide food. There is also a raffle sometimes. It is a way of having some extra cash to pay for wedding expenses.
Well, have apart from debateable question above few more questions
1. Getting married in court and throwing a party for loved ones justifiable as compared to big shaow shaa thng?
Some couples do indeed just get married in Court and then just throwing a party to immediate family and friends.
2, Getting married as per societal norms - doesn't it is, more of soceital obligations rather personal commitments..
Yes it is more of a social obligation for a lot of times the couple donot even know all the guests as they are friends of family etc. I feel some couples would prefer a small traditional wedding and save the money towards a home and appliances etc. Big weddings are obligations because the parents feel they have to invite so and so as they had gone to someone else's son or daughter's wedding.
3. Why parents have to pay for marraiges?
The parents still pay for the major part but they donot have to. I know few close friends who already are planning their own wedding and if the parents insist they have asked for help towards a home or something else. It is not fair that parents have to pay for the entire wedding but they can help out, both sides, for paying part of the cost i.e. reception.
Once again, great topic Anshu.👏👏