Biological parents? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

You know there is a lot of dynamic in humane acts and possible gains.. Why do people adopt and how they adopt makes a difference.... Foster parents may do it more for the cash in-flow from the state rather than anything else..

I just feel blood relations weigh slightly more than others...And this is a matter of the unknown... they have done some foetal studies for pre-natal experiences and I am not sure how that whole thing factors in to build our psyche...

What you owe to your birth parents can never be repaid but in other cases you can payback...one way or the other.. but thats just my thinking...and in this matter i am not 100% sure..😊

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

You know there is a lot of dynamic in humane acts and possible gains.. Why do people adopt and how they adopt makes a difference.... Foster parents may do it more for the cash in-flow from the state rather than anything else..

For me, foster parents are akin to orphanages because most of them are doing foster care for money inflow. Foster care is nor permanent either unless they end up adopting the kid which, again, is very hard to do as biological parents are very much in the picture all the time (if not dead already). So, comparing foster parents with adopting parents will not be an apple to apple comparison.

I just feel blood relations weigh slightly more than others...And this is a matter of the unknown... they have done some foetal studies for pre-natal experiences and I am not sure how that whole thing factors in to build our psyche...

I agree that there are certain reflexes that the fetus experiences when in womb but most of them are due to the fact that it is connected to the mom throygh umblical chord. A new born baby doesn't know who his mom is and will eventually respond to whoever is caring for the baby and loving him.

There's no such thing as yeh cheez toh iss key khoon mein hai. Genes mein hai...I can understand...khoon mein hai..i don't think so. We grow up to reflect the sum of all external influences on us throughout our life.....not what we felt when we were in the womb. If a couple adopts a baby within couple of months after baby's birth and bring him up with TLC, I doubt the baby will miss his blood parents at all. He might be curious to know why he was given up for adoption and what the biological parents look like but besides this, I don't think any other factor affects the child...least of all aakhir khoon ney zor maar hee diya.

What you owe to your birth parents can never be repaid but in other cases you can payback...one way or the other.. but thats just my thinking...and in this matter i am not 100% sure..😊

I agree that we can never repay our parents.....and I hold this for both biological and adopting parents provided they are responsible parents. Why would someone even think about being grateful to a mom who threw him out in a gutter two hours after giving birth! And how would such a child ever repay the loving couple who adopted him and raised him like his own!!!.....that's my thinking😊

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

What you owe to your birth parents can never be repaid but in other cases you can payback...one way or the other.. but thats just my thinking...and in this matter i am not 100% sure..😊

sure if it wasn't for your birth parents you wouldnt be in this world....but if you didn't have loving parents to raise you, you wouldn't have survived. i have two kids of my own and i can honestly say giving birth was the easy part of my whole experience of being a mother. 😉

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

What you owe to your birth parents can never be repaid but in other cases you can payback...one way or the other..

So, are you saying that whatever owe to your parents is due to the sole fact of them giving birth to you? What followed after has no importance whatsoever? I don't know how you can possible return the selfless upbringing the parents give you, the sleepless nights and what not!

IMO parents who raised the kids are much more important than biological parents. And as everyone said, mothers as well, giving birth is just the easy part!

Originally posted by: sonp

i think it would have to be ones that reared you.
you cannot become a parent just by giving birth.
sure there will always be a curiosity about where one came from which will have to be satisfied at some point
but it is difficult to form a bond of child-parent if you have never lived with your biological parents

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agree with you😊

Originally posted by: raj5000

Say after 15 years when the child grows up and learns the fact that he/she is biologically kiddo of someone else, has more liking towards them as compared to folks who raised him/her last 15 years. No personal experience but based of what I heard and seen in one distant friend's case.

I have seen this on chat shows and it is heart-wrenching to see the pain on the face of the adoptive parents upon their adoptive child finding their biological parents. However, in some cases finding biological parents can answer lot of questions as well as generic diseases for the child. I feel if the adoptive parents have raised the child with much love and affection then the child will never forget that. Whether its your own child or adopted child........ a parent's love is always unconditional love. I would hope that in majority of cases the child feels blessed to have two sets of parents and loves them equally.😊

I agree with you guys. Just giving birth to a child does not make anyone a parent in the true sense. Taking care of a child when he's sick, teaching him right from wrong, always being there for him...that's what makes a person worthy of being called a parent.