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I wonder if any of the CVs have witnessed a broken marriage and its effects, at close hand. The episode seemed very personal.
The episode -
It was bound to happen ... Rudra's instant reaction. From hating his mother, to hating his father ... one extreme to the other.
She left ... Rudra hated her for that.
Dilsher lied about why she left, allowed him to hate her ... Rudra hated Dilsher for that. Between the two and their troubles, no one seemed to remember the child who got battered and bashed in the middle. Did anybody ever love him at all?!
Including Paro ... who seems to be only worried about his parents. But what about him?! He doesn't want anything to do with his parents ... they both betrayed him ... he only wants Paro. His world begins and ends with her ... but it seems her world isn't the same.
Paro encourages him to ask ... ask his father ... why did he lie? Ask the questions which have been bothering him, eating away at him ... for so long? Ask ... get the answers ... put an end to this uncertainty, this fear of the unknown ... and move on. What hurt him the most was thinking that his loving mother found it so easy to leave him. Well, now he knows ... she didn't find it easy at all. It might not help that shattered child ... but it gives the adult Rudra some peace, some solace now ... she didn't leave because she didn't love him ... she left despite loving him. She stayed for thirteen years in a private hell because she loved him.
Now he wants to know why his father lied about it ... why he spoiled his life with lies.
Poor Rudra ... he still has so much growing up to do! It's still all about him, his misfortune, his shattered childhood. A child's world is self-centred ... he believes that his parents' world should revolve around him and only him ... it comes as a shock sometimes to realise that they are also individuals in their own right ... that they were husband and wife before they became mother and father, and remain husband and wife, even after they become parents ... he ignores their feelings, if they don't involve him. Rudra is still at that stage emotionally. And today just brought that hurt child back in full force. They had their problems ... but what about him?! Shouldn't they have thought about him at all?! They brought him into the world ... wasn't it their duty to take care of him?
Poor Rudra is shattered all over again. Betrayed by not one, but both parents ... he feels all alone. Except for Paro, of course ... even in this darkness, he knows that she, at least, is with him ... despite what he said to her earlier. Maybe she can make sense out of all this mess.
And so she tries ... sits with him in the dark ... he finds solace in her as always ... one person he now counts on, trusts absolutely ...
She senses his broken state ... looks at the shared doll and laughs ... what if she didn't have the doll that day? What if she had a stone?
No ... she could never hurt him ... even in jest.
What if she had imli?
No ... the imli would have spoiled and rotted by now ... or worse, he would have eaten it, polished it off ... then how would he have remembered her?
Good thing she had that doll. It was fated that she had that doll ... that she would throw it to him ... that it would comfort him when he needed it ...
Some things are just meant to be.
He smiles too, as she meant him to ... at her silly nonsense .. finds comfort in it, in the solace of her smile.
What was that Paro said? There are two ways to face troubles ... either sit and cry over them ... or laugh at them so that they are forced to cry and flee.
And the next step for Paro now, is to reassure that hurt child that his parents' problems were independent of their love for him ... both co-existed in the same space, jostled for space ... and finally the first pushed the second out. Yes, it was unfair on him, very unfair ... sadly, life isn't always fair. But the love was there ... hidden, buried under their other troubles maybe ... but never buried too deep. And if he scratches the surface, pushes away the troubled thoughts, he will find the love.
Including Paro ... who seems to be only worried about his parents. But what about him?! He doesn't want anything to do with his parents ... they both betrayed him ... he only wants Paro. His world begins and ends with her ... but it seems her world isn't the same.
Paro encourages him to ask ... ask his father ... why did he lie? Ask the questions which have been bothering him, eating away at him ... for so long? Ask ... get the answers ... put an end to this uncertainty, this fear of the unknown ... and move on. What hurt him the most was thinking that his loving mother found it so easy to leave him. Well, now he knows ... she didn't find it easy at all. It might not help that shattered child ... but it gives the adult Rudra some peace, some solace now ... she didn't leave because she didn't love him ... she left despite loving him. She stayed for thirteen years in a private hell because she loved him.
Now he wants to know why his father lied about it ... why he spoiled his life with lies.
Poor Rudra ... he still has so much growing up to do! It's still all about him, his misfortune, his shattered childhood. A child's world is self-centred ... he believes that his parents' world should revolve around him and only him ... it comes as a shock sometimes to realise that they are also individuals in their own right ... that they were husband and wife before they became mother and father, and remain husband and wife, even after they become parents ... he ignores their feelings, if they don't involve him. Rudra is still at that stage emotionally. And today just brought that hurt child back in full force. They had their problems ... but what about him?! Shouldn't they have thought about him at all?! They brought him into the world ... wasn't it their duty to take care of him?
Poor Rudra is shattered all over again. Betrayed by not one, but both parents ... he feels all alone. Except for Paro, of course ... even in this darkness, he knows that she, at least, is with him ... despite what he said to her earlier. Maybe she can make sense out of all this mess.
And so she tries ... sits with him in the dark ... he finds solace in her as always ... one person he now counts on, trusts absolutely ...
She senses his broken state ... looks at the shared doll and laughs ... what if she didn't have the doll that day? What if she had a stone?
No ... she could never hurt him ... even in jest.
What if she had imli?
No ... the imli would have spoiled and rotted by now ... or worse, he would have eaten it, polished it off ... then how would he have remembered her?
Good thing she had that doll. It was fated that she had that doll ... that she would throw it to him ... that it would comfort him when he needed it ...
Some things are just meant to be.
He smiles too, as she meant him to ... at her silly nonsense .. finds comfort in it, in the solace of her smile.
What was that Paro said? There are two ways to face troubles ... either sit and cry over them ... or laugh at them so that they are forced to cry and flee.
And the next step for Paro now, is to reassure that hurt child that his parents' problems were independent of their love for him ... both co-existed in the same space, jostled for space ... and finally the first pushed the second out. Yes, it was unfair on him, very unfair ... sadly, life isn't always fair. But the love was there ... hidden, buried under their other troubles maybe ... but never buried too deep. And if he scratches the surface, pushes away the troubled thoughts, he will find the love.
Paro is nothing if not obstinate ... she will not stop till she has banished every last vestige of shadow from his life.
A good many lessons today for people in troubled marriages ... what NOT to do with your children. If a marriage is in trouble, the first priority for husband and wife should be to ensure that their children are protected from the effects. It's not always easy ... but then, they are the adults, the parents ... it's their responsibility.
Precap ... what on earth???!!! Paro!!!! đ˛đ˛đ
A good many lessons today for people in troubled marriages ... what NOT to do with your children. If a marriage is in trouble, the first priority for husband and wife should be to ensure that their children are protected from the effects. It's not always easy ... but then, they are the adults, the parents ... it's their responsibility.
Precap ... what on earth???!!! Paro!!!! đ˛đ˛đ
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