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From what I have seen in my quick glance of the posts today, the majority seems to be against Mala- what she did and what she represents. Mostly repeating what I said in reply to another post, but I just thought Mala deserved a thread in her defense😆
Here are some of the grievances against this lady-
1. Leaving her husband- She probably has not got a divorce from Dilsher and so in an adulteress.
Mala has not till now been shown to be the kind of woman who just leaves her husband of almost 10 years, just because the grass seemed greener on the other side. And Dilsher is far far from being an ideal husband. Although a large part of his bitterness towards beautiful women is post Mala ditching him, ha most likely did have a complex even before. He is a lame, not very good looking man, who is married to a very beautiful woman. In such marriages its quite common for the person with the inferiority complex to take it out on the partner. The relationship between Mala and Dilsher was strained with or without Tejawat.
I dont think her leaving Dilsher requires much defense at all, except the moral outrage, for which all I can say is I applaud her courage for daring to get out of a relationship that was harming her.
2. Leaving her son- The grave and unpardonable offence.
Stated in plain words it does appear so. But before condemning her lets see some facts before us-
Is there anything to say she was an unloving mother before she left? NO. On the contrary even after she left, even with all the poisonous words from Mohini and Dilsher, the child Rudra had faith in her, her love for him.
Did she just leave him to Dilsher's mercies? Even before she left with the man she loved, she mae sure her son was acceptable to him and its hinted she came back for him. What were the circumstances that prevented her from doing this- whether accidental or intentional (on the part of Thakur or Mohini) is yet to be revealed.
All this does not absolve her of her deeds but attempts to look at the intentions behind the actions.
Now, why would a woman do such a thing.
That is for the future track to explore, but I surely hope they dont spoil it by showing Mala as a grasping conniving woman who just left in search of greener pastures.
From what we have seen of her, as the benevolent thakurain for the villagers, as the thakurain maasa for Paro, as a friend to Paro's mother, in the memories of Rudra- she is not a bad person, but a victim of her circumstances. Just what drove her to take such a drastic measure, there are so many possibilities. Life with Dilsher would not be easy as it is, add dear Mohini to the equation to create misunderstandings and conflicts and lack of support from any side- it is a miserable life for a woman. Into this picture enters the Thakur- who at that time appears all that is perfect to her- loving,caring, kind to everyone, willing to rescue her and her son. Is it so much of a crime for a woman to try and hold onto the one hope she has? To look for a better life for herself and her son, away from a torturing family.
Most of us would not think twice before criticizing the ever crying bahus in various shows who put up with all kinds of cruelty from MILs, husbands and go on shedding tears at alarming rates but never daring to take a step away from it.. In a way isn't that what Mala has done? She was a bad judge of character when it came to Tejawat but is that so much of a crime to hold against her.
