EMA; Love, Success or Money

This topic is inspired from Diane's topic on Money vs Love. It got me thinking of many posts that urged Kalpi to forget Raghav (love) and concentrate on fulfilling her dream of becoming a memsab (success-status-money) because that is her EMA. And today again we saw Kamla advising Kalpi to get on with her (Kamla's) dream to make her a memsab. But isn't it supposed to be something that gives you happiness and immense joy?

Love fills every moment with happiness.

It gives strength to take on any problem ,

even poverty.

Money makes life comfortable but it cannot buy happiness.

Love is what makes life worth living.

I've seen people who have all the money in the world and success but still feel empty inside

because they never gave time to themselves to experience the more meaningful things in life that cannot be counted but felt within, love and relationships being one of them.

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Raghav lost the love of his family when he was separated from them in his childhood. His mistrust in people and revenge fuelled his drive for achievement in terms of career and financial status. At that time, although he would have felt the emptiness in his life, love didn't have a potent value in his life because he had no taste of it. The memory of his father or mother and their love was overpowered by his loss of his parents and the knowledge of his mother's betrayal. Without doubt, if he received the love of his family, he would have understood people and emotions better. Then perhaps he would have more control over his anger and not have chosen such a path for revenge. When he realized his love for Kalpi, he was awakened. He learned its value and let her teach him what he'd missed in his alienation from people and the pursuit of success and revenge.

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Kalpana has been surrounded by love especially her father's love but always yearned for her mother's love. Seeing her mother always run away from her to Pooki made her feel inferior to Pooki. This deprivation and loss didn't let her experience the love around her to its fullest and as she could have.

She always felt lacking the feeling of being the world to someone. Still, being denied of her mother's love didn't make her revengeful like Raghav because she knew love and understood and valued emotions. She wanted to retaliate for being mistreated by achieving a financial position enough to buy the Kapoor mansion.

Now that she has found that love in Raghav, it will be difficult to let go or erase that feeling. If you observe, when she had Raghavs love, her attitude towards her problems improved. She wasn't bitter anymore and wasn't negatively affected by her mother's attitude like she was before. It her situation and state it is not easy to just pack up all the memories of her time with Rags and push towards achieving success. Even if Raghav had cheated her in the true sense, she could at least hate him and try to put everything behind her and move forward. Because hate is an intense emotion, it can drive her towards the path of success. But here, she can't hate him, because somehow she does understand him. Even today she admitted that she can't get him out of her heart. The love is there between them, holding them together, but he's someone else's husband.

Achieving the success her mother wishes won't give her back her happiness. The central reason to her dream of becoming successful is to win her mother's love. And I think it is becoming more evident that as long as Paakhi is in the equation, that will never happen.

Love is what brought happiness and colour to RAGNA life, hence I too believe Love is their EMA, just like Diane stated in her post. They both became a better person with their LOVE for each other. Despite being so successful Raghav wasn't happy and neither Kalpana would be without Raghav and their love.

Awesome post dear!! What your name? You explained it so well!! I guess you understand what I was trying to say!

Originally posted by: Yellowdiamond

Awesome post dear!! What your name? You explained it so well!! I guess you understand what I was trying to say!

Originally posted by: Syama_Luna

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Thank you Diane. Yes, guess we share same perspective on this.

I go by Syama but you can also call me Syam, Akshara or Luna. Whichever you'd like 😊

Luna it is 😉

Lovely post 😊

Also,another aspect...

Beautiful Post!!

Originally posted by: pads23

Also,another aspect...

Pakhi got Kamla's love as a mother which should have actually gone to kalpi.Now, Raghav's love is for kalpi which rightfully sould have gone to Paakhi!

You have a valid point, but the marriage turned everything upside down and we don't know what the cvs will do.

Originally posted by: Syama_Luna

Achieving the success her mother wishes won't give her back her happiness. The central reason to her dream of becoming successful is to win her mother's love. And I think it is becoming more evident that as long as Paakhi is in the equation, that will never happen.

Love is what brought happiness and colour to RAGNA life, hence I too believe Love is their EMA, just like Diane stated in her post. They both became a better person with their LOVE for each other. Despite being so successful Raghav wasn't happy and neither Kalpana would be without Raghav and their love.

Such a beautifully written post. They fell in love with each other and found their Ek Mutthi Aasmaan in each other too. The ek mutthi aasmaan Kamla wants Kalpi to acquire are hers which Kalpi wanted to fulfill her mother's love. As you rightly said, no amount of success will give Kalpi the peace or happiness she found in Raghav's arms.

Bunch of us had several discussions on the forum why they never showed Raghav wonder at the close relationship Pakhi and Kamla shared with each other and the impact it might have had on Kalpi. There was that one moment after saving the chawl from Kapoors where Raghav observed Kalpi cry when Kamla hugged Pakhi while she waited with arms outstretched. He was wondering about it in the gym next day but it was never dwelt upon later sadly. Besides her results issue Kalpi didnt discuss anything with Raghav about her life.
If she had mentioned it to Raghav, he might not have taken such an impulsive decision. Like Hilly said, he can never comprehend the damage he has done to Kalpi's self respect, self worth, confidence among other things. It hurts to just think about it 😳

May I rant a little over here? I understand this is a soap so obviously there will be drama. But this Rakhi marriage, the butchering of characters and story done for this marriage to take place was a huge slap in the face and stab in the back for me, viewers. A huge letdown. The rushed tracks and poor execution, loopholes and blunders just adds to the disappointments. I dont know if I can ever feel the same enthusiasm for the show again.