Child and mother/father relationship

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skydome

@skydome

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Posted: 11 years ago

Gustakh Dil is a serial (my pov) that deals with human psychology and family relations. While Nikhil and Laajo's relations for now have been sorted, the story enters into a new phase to explore the complicated relations parents (mother and father) may have on a child, and what impact that complication may have on the child mental health during his/her lifetime.

It will be interesting to watch and learn from what GD has to show about Nikhil's thoughts about his mother and father. At the moment it looks that Nikhil does have very strong negative emotions about his mother, and on the other hand- it looks he has no emotions about his father (even at times it seems that his father does not exist). So far in Nikhil's life his father has simply played a "watch and wait" game with little or no involvement. In Nikhil's life a man role model is his uncle and his grandfather. His father remains a very weak person, terribly shaky and scared , and has very little to do to protect his son. This is the first time that Inder has shown signs of a fatherly presence in the house. Let us see whether Inder will move any further, or will again go back to sleep.

There is a lot to learn for the new parents- how to deal with their children in the 21st century, as one watches this serial.👏

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londonkababu

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Posted: 11 years ago

Hey Skydome,

You have some interesting points. I too like how relationships are probed in GD, agree that a new and very interesting phase change is happening. I am not at all happy about Laajo's decision to cut

off all links with Nikhil until a time somewhere in the future when she will have reached an acceptable standard so high that Barkha will be happy to welcome Laajo in her life. Laajo,it could be said that ,she is putting her marriage in jeopardy. But hey, GD is produced for mass audiences so I suppose we have to learnt to suspend reality

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@sami01

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Posted: 11 years ago

thank you for opening this most wonderful topic, I will reply to this post after watching today's episode. but amazing thoughts.

@jatinder I agree with u about Laajo and I would share my thoughts after today's episode.

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Uditi

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Posted: 11 years ago

I love this topic

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This is what got me attracted to the show in the first the complex play of emotions and thoughts.. each character her has their own thinking process and it can be seen the way the lead their lives.

Nikhil I feel is very close to Baba and Samraat I am sure as a child whenever he faced any problems more than going to his dad he must have gone to his uncle, it does as though Inder is a good father but maybe he couldn't be ideal role model but he is good because he does try to understand his son. As for Barkha her emotional scars have left scars on her son too, he never really had any motherly figure to look upto.. Parents do influence their kids at every step, infants itself start favoring their parents more especially their mother as for Nikhil he stopped receiving that crucial love when he was child he lost everything and he still feels haunted because of it.. If Barkha would have been there for him as mother I am sure Nikhil as a young adult would have been self-confident and more secure

This show clearly highlights the difference in parenting styles. Laajo's parents have showered her with all the love and support and thus she can rely on them anytime while Nikhil relies on his uncle or Baba

This is such a good discussion topic 👏

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@sami01

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: skydome
Gustakh Dil is a serial (my pov) that deals with human psychology and family relations. While Nikhil and Laajo's relations for now have been sorted, the story enters into a new phase to explore the complicated relations parents (mother and father) may have on a child, and what impact that complication may have on the child mental health during his/her lifetime.

It will be interesting to watch and learn from what GD has to show about Nikhil's thoughts about his mother and father. At the moment it looks that Nikhil does have very strong negative emotions about his mother, and on the other hand- it looks he has no emotions about his father (even at times it seems that his father does not exist). So far in Nikhil's life his father has simply played a "watch and wait" game with little or no involvement. In Nikhil's life a man role model is his uncle and his grandfather. His father remains a very weak person, terribly shaky and scared , and has very little to do to protect his son. This is the first time that Inder has shown signs of a fatherly presence in the house. Let us see whether Inder will move any further, or will again go back to sleep.

There is a lot to learn for the new parents- how to deal with their children in the 21st century, as one watches this serial.👏

Wonderful topic and I agree ,this serial shows the canvas of human emotions at full spectrum of life, it shows wheel of life at its full spins with ups and downs of destiny and our own actions.

I specially like this mother son equation, I have seen favoritism in real life and it can be for stupid reason like one child being better looking than other. But it does destroy a child's spirit and we have seen in Gustakh Dil that how Nikhil has been affected with this even before his brother's death, he has always been insecure about his mom. It makes a parent think twice before doing some actions as a matter of fact. about Nikhil you are right he has no emotions about his dad, good or bad, I feel he feels deep down that his dad did not protect him against his mother's brutality, there was no one to shade him from barkha's wrath. So Nikhil grew up in house full of comfort and loads of loneliness and came out across as emotionally insecure, deep down his sense of responsibility is there but still he is full of scars and needs healing while Laajo had everything in form of her parents and their love, her parents did make mistakes but their love for her is above every thing and it made her confident and ready to face any thing in world... and I too want to think about inder and his actions, how would he behave from now onwards.

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skydome

@skydome

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Posted: 11 years ago

@londonkababu, deshigirl and sami01- Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I am glad that GD fans have found this child/parent relationship interesting, and food for thought.

Thanks for pointing out Lajo and her parents relationship- Lajo may on the surface look poor financially, but she is rich with true love from a loving family (parents and the siblings). There is so... much love, happiness and peace in their family. A family which may not have the luxuries of life, but "less is more" - they have the happiness and peace - a very rare thing now-a-days in the urban rich society.

To Nikhil, Baba represents Wisdom and Fair Justice. His uncle, and his cousins represent the family love, security - which normally a child would look upto their parents. His Nani too has a special place in his heart.

Another relation that is coming up soon is- daughter-mother/father relations, and what happens when a rich spoilt girl falls for a guy outside their society - it will be very interesting to watch this relationship.

GD is a wonderful serial, and I applaud the entire team of thought about this story, and taking all the initiative to show it also in Hindi to cover the maximum population.👏

I hope sometimes, we get to read an article or an interview by the author of this story, to hear her thoughts about why she wrote GD.