Rudra'll Never Love Paro as much...

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Oyster

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Posted: 11 years ago

... as she loves him. I've explained this to many of my married friends but on Thursday it just broke my heart when I saw a girl I had seen years ago totally transformed post marriage. She belongs to a wealthy and modern family. However, she had no ambitions post high school because one guy happened to be the central force in her life. She did everything just to be with him and finally she achieved that goal when they got married against all odds.

I met her over lunch probably 10 years later. And I felt that she has this profound emptiness within her. She's nothing like the person I had once seen. All her fantasies of a married life with the love of her life had evaporated. You can associate so many factors as the cause behind this change. However, I believe, like I told her, the problem lies in the fact that her husband happens to be the only central force in her life but not vice versa. Her world begins and ends with him. But he has a world outside his home. A world equally important. So it's impossible for him to give her all his attention. But since she gives him all her attention, she expects the same degree of attention. When she doesn't receive that for practical reasons, disappointment takes place.

Paro happens to be in the same boat. Rudra's her only goal, desire, and dream in life. She has no life past Rudra. Whatever little she has is also connected to Rudra. For instance, her bonding with Kakusa, Sunehri, Maithali, and Babusa. Rudra is basically her entire world. So it's going to be just Rudra in Paro's life. Take Rudra out of it, and she's left with no life as her world crumbles to dust in front of her eyes.

But is she all that Rudra has in his life? Nope. Eventually, she'll be the most important relation in his life. He'll feel for no other the kind of love, affection, bonding, companionship, and desire that he feels for Paro. But then he has the world of BSD too that's going to be as much important to him. So Paro won't be the only central force in Rudra's life. Hence, it would be practically impossible for him to return her love with an equal force. As sad or unfair as it may sound, it is one unavoidable, acceptable, and valid truth.

Just one of my other unfettered rumblings on this RR-less weekend.

Edited by Oyster - 11 years ago

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Sunara

@princessunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Sonya as usual a thought provoking post.. And before getting to the serial.. sigh, i felt sad hearing about ur friend.. specially cz she seemed disappointed with her lot according to u..

But with Paro I take a different POV.
Your friend - as u said came from a modern, wealthy family - and all I felt honestly was 'what a waste!' - and this is not being judgemental. Just being honest about the thought that crossed my head.
She would see EVERYONE around her from her husband to her siblings to her siblings' spouces to her own parents having more in life than she has. cz the world ur friend comes is our world. A world where a girl's value is more than that of a wife and a mother's...
cz I remember just after school ended my mom got a few proposals for me. And she rejected it all and what she told me was that - study, study further and even if u get married on the day after that and never work even for a day its fine. But qualify urself and be ready so that u have options in life..

Now coming to Paro.
She comes from that old world where women stayed home, a world where from the time a girl was old enough to understand she was prepared to one day leave to her sasuraal, and to tend to the needs of her husband, to mould herself to suit him, to give children to him, to nurture a family and to hold that small family together..

So those are the expectations of Paro's out of this life. And the one thing this orphan prayed for was a husband who would love her, and in laws who would become the family she never had.. and give her the rights over a home that she never had till then...And a small family with a loving husband and 2 sons as she once told... that was what her every untold prayer was for..

So it seems strange to be content with so little.. But the thing is its a way of life too.. And if that is your life, the only way of life u have ever known.. she will be deliriously happy to get a husband who loves her to the brink of madness, to get 2 sisters and to get the father she had never expected to gain..
Its not comparative.. cz her little world will indeed revolve around Rudra, but that will be all she will know.. She was taught to stay home till ur husband went out and worked hard to provide to her, so that she can do her part and do the part at home and hold them together...

Its not that he will love her less, and her more... The love will be just as strong.. She isn't gonna be disappointed about having to share her husband with her job.. she will spend that time he is out on the little family they will have one day and that will keep her busy and happy..

Anyway, so i think its not at all possible to think of the 2 situations as similar...

Anyway it was nice to think of this on the dull Saturday night 🤗

Edited by princessunara - 11 years ago

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aashna_30

@Faerydae

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Posted: 11 years ago

Nice post lets wait and watch.

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.GrangerMalfoy.

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Posted: 11 years ago

I have seen that happen with a friend. He was her everything but for him she was not his world. She was a very important part for him but wasn't his everything.

I believe Paro is at fault there, you need to have a life beyond just one person.

Vaise I don't think the makers will ever go that deep 😆

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ChandniAdvay

@ChandniAdvay

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Posted: 11 years ago

Yea u right, For Rudra is BSD his life and later Paro will be also his life, but for Paro is only Rudra her life, so Paro will always love Rudra more thn Rudra loves her!!! But i hope if he have to choose between Paro and BSD he always Choose Paro withoud taking time!!!!

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Jasmin

@Jaz1990

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Posted: 11 years ago

You know what I don't know in PaRud's r-ship who would love more. I tink rudra will be da more obsessed type ones.

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BillyJean.

@BillyJean.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Very thought provoking post.
That usually happens with women who do not have a life outside the boundaries of their home.
But it depends on how much the man is willing to give to that relationship.

RR being fiction, I think Rudra will do his part in loving Paro as much.😛

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SanzBarbie

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Posted: 11 years ago

Very logical and apt post !!!
Completely agreed
Paro should build up a life of her own besides Rudra , like she is a pro in embroidery and can make profit from it ...
On a lighter note she is a one HOT chick with the sexiest Kamariya so she can think of modeling as a career ROFL :D

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ChandniAdvay

@ChandniAdvay

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: NicklausBarbie
Very logical and apt post !!!
Completely agreed
Paro should build up a life of her own besides Rudra , like she is a pro in embroidery and can make profit from it ...
On a lighter note she is a one HOT chick with the sexiest Kamariya so she can think of modeling as a career ROFL :D

hahha i dont think Rudra will let her do that, he dont like if someone look to her or tast her