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So I read negative AND positive posts on this forum regarding today's episode, and then I went to make myself some food and I often think deeply when I make food so I thought a lot about what happened in today's episode and these are just some of the things that I have come to understand:
People are saying Paro is a doormat and that she had no reaction today to what Rudra has done, she has just accepted it and said nothing. I agree with this somewhat. But then what if she barely said anything because she was so shocked she went numb? Some people's minds don't work when they are faced with conflict...this could be it with Paro. Because I don't understand why else she would not speak up...and we all know she CAN speak up. Just this week when she asked Rudra something and he wouldn't reply, she firmly asked him again and said she had asked him something so expected an answer. Now this is our strong, but soft Paro. I have no defense for why Paro didn't refuse to get married today, but I expect it's because the CVs need the marriage to happen SOMEHOW, because according to ST that is when the real love story will begin. (And marriage is necessary, because otherwise it would be really difficult to keep the two leads in the same frame - this is an Indian drama not an American one, so in order to be together and properly fall in love the two leads need to be married).
People are ranting about how Paro has no self-respect because she did not defend or speak up for herself. While I am a feminist to an extent, I think 'self-respect' is not always existent in love. If Paro did not love Rudra but yet succumbed to his rude behaviour simply because he was a man, THEN I would say Paro has no self-respect. But Paro loves Rudra...and so self-respect is not something she even thinks about. She will do anything for Rudra, and she understands where he's coming from, she understands his soul so much, she can see through all his natak and therefore knows the smartest way to deal with him. To others this may look like she is compromising her self-respect, but I don't think so. Rudra himself will behave the same way after he falls in love with Paro...and no it won't be because he doesn't have self-respect but because when in love two souls are intertwined and self-respect becomes a worldly, superficial issue.
Many think Paro should not let Rudra disrespect her, but like I mentioned above, Paro can see through Rudra's soul...she has a long-term goal (attaining Rudra's love) and she knows short-term conflicts will arise in her journey to the end of the road. She is so strong because she puts aside HER pride for Rudra. From personal experience I can say that it is very difficult for me to let go of my pride easily. But Paro has no ego, no pride; and therefore it is not an issue for her to prioritize Rudra's feelings before hers. To us this may be wrong...but from her perspective, is it? Is she wrong? She is doing this out of love for Rudra...but is it at the expense of love for herself? I would just like to say that marriage is not something one should enter into to make themselves happy, but to make their partner happy. Marriage/love is always about the other person - Paro understands this, even though Rudra does not (yet). Just wait and watch and enjoy the ride, Rudra will come to understand this too.
Lastly, some are saying that Paro is selfish - that it seemed like it did not matter to her at all that because of her Rudra was suspended by the BSD. I have to disagree here. I think Paro is selfless. Like I said before, she has no ego or pride, and it is really selfless of her to stop crying about her own condition (being the victim of a hate marriage) and get up to make sure Rudra is okay. I don't think I can explain my thoughts properly...but basically...Paro being angry at Rudra for what he has done to HER would be SELFISH. Because she is concerned about what has just happened to HER. But no. Paro baisa only - at the moment - cares about what is happening to HIM (Rudra). She is thinking about Rudra, and although she is in shock over what has just happened, she understands what Rudra is going through and so does not hold his actions against him. Paro goes to get milk for Rudra not because she has no self-respect but because, like always, Paro is selfless and only wants to make the man she loves better.
Paro has always been selfless and loyal. When she tolerated pain in order to defend Thakur sa, when she stood up for her jeeja, even her goal of attaining Rudra had to do with the fact that she wants to make him smile again. The problem is just that our Paro is very naive and so does not understand that her refusal to leave Rudra is only making him frown...or maybe she DOES understand. Maybe Paro sees the end of the road and so understands that she will need to endure short-term pain or/and cause short-term pain to Rudra during the road/journey because at the end of the road/journey Rudra will emerge smiling, and so will she.
These are just my opinions, and I understand that some will agree with me, and some will disagree. I just tried to view Paro's situation from a very objective, out-of-this-world, philosophical perspective and this is what I came up with. If you agree with me, great; but if you disagree with me and you wish to reply to my opinions with your own rebuttal, please do so but keep it civil and friendly. I respect your opinion and you should respect mine. 😊
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