Ideal indian kids

So, I was just wondering the other day about how almost every Indian parent wants the "ideal" kid. Okay, I know every parent does; But Indian parents take it to a whole new level. While I sit around and listen to boring rant of uncles and aunties, well usually it's about how great their boy/girl is.

Do you encounter parents who talk always about how great their kids are?And do you feel that they're lieing sometimes?

Why do Indian parents feel the need to lie about how great their kids or how bad they are? (In my case, my mother goes around and tells every1 what a burden I am and how I don't do crap)

Do today's Indian kids feel pressured to be something they are not by the parents?

Should you live your life in your own way or should you fulfill your parents dreams?

p.s. I know these questions are very biased. But I just want to know how people feel about this, because I am personally sick of hearing how 'mahaan' someones' child is.

guesswho 😛 , dont know your name sounds strange saying guesswho , anyways, very nice post first of all 👏 👏 👏, if you encounter these kids from subcontinents, more than half of these do it becoz their parents wants them to do it. i guess its more of a cultural pressure. when you ask them something in most cases, their answer will be becoz my parents want it. its good to listen to parents but at some point they should be left on their own to make decisions. the problem is most of the kids parents seems to be criticizing them even after they get married 😆 😆 😆. i feel sorry for such kids.

Originally posted by: *guesswho*

Why do Indian parents feel the need to lie about how great their kids or how bad they are? (In my case, my mother goes around and tells every1 what a burden I am and how I don't do crap)

i kno how u feel😭... my mum tells all my realatives EVERYTHING😡 wrong i do or say!

very nice post manish and i can almost hear the uncles and aunts you mentioned in you post - the annoying variety! 😆😆 These are my random thoughts-

It is natural for parents to feel proud of children and tell their stories. 😳 I find it adorable when they share those.
However, some parents lose control and I see why one could complain about them 😆 😆
As far as dominating children's lives, their career decisions, I won't say anythng, since I am not a parent yet. In spite of being a perfectionist and a rather strict woman, who expected certain things from her children in terms of their curricular and extra-curricular achievements, I have never seen my mom pressurizing me till I broke / rebelled.. neither have I seen her making a fool of herself praising me. I am sure many parents here on DM would relate to her, in terms of helping their kids thrive yet not choke them 😆

These are individual patterns of behaviour. A friend of mine lies a lot about her son, her best being "he started writing english alphabets when he was 13 months old". i just ignore 😆 that doesn;t stop me from enjoying cute kid-stories of other moms 😳

nice post again manish (guess who).. post more often gal!

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

very nice post manish and i can almost hear the uncles and aunts you mentioned in you post - the annoying variety! 😆😆 These are my random thoughts-

It is natural for parents to feel proud of children and tell their stories. 😳 I find it adorable when they share those.
However, some parents lose control and I see why one could complain about them 😆 😆
As far as dominating children's lives, their career decisions, I won't say anythng, since I am not a parent yet. In spite of being a perfectionist and a rather strict woman, who expected certain things from her children in terms of their curricular and extra-curricular achievements, I have never seen my mom pressurizing me till I broke / rebelled.. neither have I seen her making a fool of herself praising me. I am sure many parents here on DM would relate to her, in terms of helping their kids thrive yet not choke them 😆 ....that's the kind of parent I am..and Mr. Gauri too😳

These are individual patterns of behaviour. A friend of mine lies a lot about her son, her best being "he started writing english alphabets when he was 13 months old". i just ignore 😆 that doesn;t stop me from enjoying cute kid-stories of other moms 😳

nice post again manish (guess who).. post more often gal!

😳😳 I am glad you think that...warna iss thread per toh meri bolti bilkul bund thhee😳

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

very nice post manish and i can almost hear the uncles and aunts you mentioned in you post - the annoying variety! 😆😆 These are my random thoughts-

It is natural for parents to feel proud of children and tell their stories. 😳 I find it adorable when they share those.
However, some parents lose control and I see why one could complain about them 😆 😆
As far as dominating children's lives, their career decisions, I won't say anythng, since I am not a parent yet. In spite of being a perfectionist and a rather strict woman, who expected certain things from her children in terms of their curricular and extra-curricular achievements, I have never seen my mom pressurizing me till I broke / rebelled.. neither have I seen her making a fool of herself praising me. I am sure many parents here on DM would relate to her, in terms of helping their kids thrive yet not choke them 😆

These are individual patterns of behaviour. A friend of mine lies a lot about her son, her best being "he started writing english alphabets when he was 13 months old". i just ignore 😆 that doesn;t stop me from enjoying cute kid-stories of other moms 😳

nice post again manish (guess who).. post more often gal!

True, QT! My parents maintained that balance, too. They never went overboard either ways. My mum always said that it's better to hear others praising one's kids than doing it oneself. Cute kid stories are a different matter - I have no kids of my own yet, but I have five nieces of assorted ages and I love to relate their stories, or listen to those of other kids. I must admit I have seen parents of all nationalities pressurising kids, overloading them with expectations, praising them to the skies and then complaining bitterly when they either rebel, or just crumble under all the pressure. When I had just started teaching at a school, two incidents shook me. The first one involved this 10 year old girl who was crying her eyes out during the break time because she had got 24/25 in her weekly maths test. She was scared that her dad was going to hit her. 🤢 The second incident involved a PTA meeting when a teacher complained to a parent that their son was not working hard enough. The father just slammed the kid's head against the whiteboard 😡. I wanted to strangle him there and then. The poor teacher who made the remark looked like she was going to die. I bet the same father would sit among his friends and brag about his kid's academic excellence.

My other pet peeve is parents comparing their kids to their kids' friends, but that would be another thread!!!😛

@ Gauri,
I will miss hearing your cute stories if you ever stopped. You know that! 😳
In fact, I did remember you and certain other DM members here and my own brother and few friends when while this post 😊 So all you cewl parents were an inspiration there along with mommy-dearest!

@ SB,
Yepp, I hear you @ ur PTA stories... some parents can be out of wack.. I also share that pet peeve of yours.
I am not a psychologist myself, but studied some at one point. Parents comparing their kids to their kids' friends / friends' kids is a strict NO NO in terms of child pshychology. Inspiring them with examples of others and comparing them is not one and the same 😳
But chunk of population thinking-
"bachche kya hai.. badhh jaate hai, humne bahut bachconko badaa kiya hai, doctor bakwaas hote hai, aajkal psychology ka FAD chalaa hai, science bakwaas hai".. yada yada.. will never get it 😛

Originally posted by: *guesswho*

While I sit around and listen to boring rant of uncles and aunties, well usually it's about how great their boy/girl is.

That is the most annoying part of our so called close knit Indian families. Everyone has an opinion on how to run your life. They advice you to pop babies as soon as you are married, then have one more to give the first one company. Then......Oh! I can go on 😆

Originally posted by: SholaJoBhadkey

My other pet peeve is parents comparing their kids to their kids' friends, but that would be another thread!!!😛

Bansali, That really is annoying. I steer clear of such parents and they get my point. Some of them are so busy discussing about which ABC book or Einstein CD to buy for a 2 year old and I on the other hand hose down my baby😆, do crazy dance with her and everything else which according to them is unlike Indian mommyish😃

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

These are individual patterns of behaviour. A friend of mine lies a lot about her son, her best being "he started writing english alphabets when he was 13 months old". i just ignore 😆 that doesn;t stop me from enjoying cute kid-stories of other moms 😳

those kind of parents irk me. we just keep on listening to them, they vaunt their kids too much, i ignore such parents there are parents who go on and on, there is a limit to something 🤢 🤢 🤢