Blast from the Past Thread #24 ** Golgappa Times ** p 113, ep 246 - Page 40

Originally posted by: DurgaS

Indu, here is the poem. 😊

Baat karni hai

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/96989642

Originally posted by: indi52

episode 234

the scene that touched me most today involved a curiously life like situation. when a wealthy son in law visits his far less economically favoured in laws, that too for the very first time, there's always anxiety and tension in the air mixed with a fragile sort of happiness.

what if damad ji is not comfortable... let's lug out our ancient cooler, we can make do without it, but he needs special care... khatir. what does he like to eat, how should we make him feel at home... thoughts rifle through the mind and the whole household, even if it is made of the elders essentially, runs about getting things ready. here it is two women, a mother and an aunt, both devoted, both not rich, both terribly loving in their own way who are getting into a tizzy over his visit.

what's more, both are aware that damad ji is not really a gentle soul. they have seen his gussa, they have witnessed his excess the night he married their daughter and didn't think it was necessary to explain to them the exigencies that brought about the situation. I was seeing these Gupta women and actually wishing everyone could have family members like this. And the 2 sister in law are always extremely nice to each other. garima the more submissive one of course but still they function as a team.

what's more, buaji has seen him is pretty nasty imbroglios right here in this house. he has come and slapped money on the table before her eyes... she is large hearted and loving and wants only the best for khushi, she may even forgive the unforgivable but something of that rough arrogance lingers in the mind, colours your thoughts, never lets you be absolutely comfortable. And Khushi never told buaji or Payal of the good deeds he did. She found it easy to call him a rakshas but guarded all the dhak dhaks. Quite natural in a girl I would say.

both the ladies are determined to make this stay as good as possible. where they come from the damad is almost deity... pati parameshwar we say, a patriarchal society quite out of control in its veneration of one gender.

and then comes the airconditioner fiasco.

the whys and wherefores of it may be whatever they are... but for these two ladies it is really painful, hurting... and for their daughter too. though i do wonder, when khushi decided on the spur of the moment to drag him to her middle class home, that too not hers, her aunt's, just to teach him a lesson angered by his class talk on the back of her ittr antic, did she perhaps show a certain insensitivity herself. i know we take our families for granted, and we should, but if he is in such a terrible mood and so scathing of khushi, what was the guarantee he'd behave well with her aunt and mother?

but kkg never thinks about such things, especially when all are people she loves... she is angry and he is going to suffer.

sadly, she miscalculates and pushes him a bit too much... somewhere around that hurry to eat hot poori, he loses it and decides to do things his way. Grrr..

the ac arrives, the neighbours are giggling and talking of how the son in law takes care of the family. is there innuendo in that of a girl "catching" a good guy? "phassana" or trapping is how one would refer to it in hindi.

Interesting

bua ji is horrified, garima is shocked but in a placatory frame of mind. khushi is angry beyond words, especially when she picks on her aunt and mother's feelings.

i really liked the way this scene was directed and crafted, so much was said through looks and little gestures, the actors got the moment so well.

as bua ji looked on perplexed, the son in law who is a guest, went ahead to the ac guys and started giving instructions about where to fix a machine in her house without so much as a by your leave. then noticing everyone's expression, he said,

"khushi dekho... main ek ac laga raha hoon ussme itna bada issue, i mean..."

khushi, see... i am getting an ac fixed, why is it becoming such an issue.

to him an ac is a minor thing, plus he is a problem solver type... the heat is getting to him, okay, let's get a solution. yet it is not so simple. is it ever? had he been feeling comfortable and at peace with everything he would have put up with it, he puts up with many things for his family, including regular puja attendance, etc., but he is mad at her, that makes things a bit different.

she expects the worst of him, but even she is taken aback at this thoughtless behaviour.

and the poor ladies. fluttering around him. bua ji almost showing her real feelings, garima trying to make her understand and calm things down... it was interesting how camera recorded emotions through a series of close ups, bua ji's always i felt a bit bigger than the others. it is her house, her self respect that is being bruised.

at garima's "nahin nahin, the wall is strong, it will take the weight..." something seems to register with him...he knows this is not quite ok.

listen, the house may be old, but is it strong like me, says bua ji. perhaps a reference to the guptas... they may be old and not wealthy, but they can bear a lot and still remain standing. i felt really bad for the woman who had lost her husband, had no child, only this house was something of her own, and along comes a rich kid exposing it to this unkind scrutiny.

bua ji speaks of the cooler again... he grimaces.

"jiji, theek hai na, ooka humri rahan sahan ki aadat nahin hai..." jiji, it's okay, he is not used to living like us.mother like, garima swiftly ofers an explanation that will give her young son in law an out and pacify the moment.

bua ji is a sensitive person... maybe he is beginning to sense things and feling a tad ashamed of his hasty action.

for when his personal effects and towels arrive, bua ji and amma look so flummoxed, he decides to give an explanation, he who had marries their daughter in the dark one night and never felt the need to explain himself.. in fact had refused to.

"woh, actually mujhe apni cheezen use karne ki thodi aadat hai toh..." he is used to these things, that's why... he says in a quiet sort of way, not at all tycoon in tone. yes he seemed so apologetic and helpless with how things had sort of spiralled out of control

again looks are exchanged. would like to say once more, i liked the close ups that were used to show feelings, the camera went really close to bua ji this episode, and abha parmar did not disappoint... layered expressions despite their "bua ji" quality of slight exaggeration. in fact the actors used silence, looks and body language really well i felt to convey the darkening, troubled atmosphere. and at a point when amma pointed out to khushi that many changes must have been made to his home at her advent, khushi remembers only the night when he through her out of the room... deep deep hurt had been inflicted on her by the one who had given her chooris and bindi and a bas karni hai... how her heart must have have been riven by that wedding and its aftermath, a poignant reminder. and that hurt makes her fly into a vengeful anger masked by the ott behaviour perhaps. she is knocked around inside, not quite herself. if the writing at some point had addressed this, would have been great. 💔 heartbreakingly well written indi di!

bua ji gives in... whatever makes you happy, if you're happy we are very happy...

the first time with the in laws is often awkward, even tough, and the peculiar accent on the son in law makes everything a bit bizarre, especially in communities such as the guptas. and a lot of nonsense is often taken from damad ji. perhaps there's tension on both sides and that causes this abnormal air. usually things ease up gradually... which si exactly what we will see here in the coming days as asr becomes completely a part of the family.

which is why too perhaps this scene had traction. an understanding of a social milieu in it.

in khushi's words that becomes so clear..."aaj din bhar aap yeh jata chuke hain ki aap iss ghar ke dammaad hain..."

you've let us know through out the day that you are the son in law of this house.

before i move on, a request... did you notice the carry bag in which the wealthy young businessman's expensive amenities arrived? it had floral patterns. oh how we need a thread devoted to ipk's bad props... pillleejh. 😆😆 we should come up with a list. I think barundiwani has a post of things associated to IPK. You can make one for bad props of IPK.

watch out... she'll be coming round the mohalla when she comes, she'll be asking many questions when she comes, she'll be inquisitive beyond belief when she comes... Oh I know this song..

and she'll pinch your cheek and kiss you wet and wild on the forehead before she goes. 🤣

oh that was a fun encounter. of course all punch line fantastic... my favourite: yeah, you're good looking but are you educated? a question usually asked of girls... and then his irritated alpha male type extremely irritated and slightly snobbish... have done mba, from harvard. My favourite too

ah haridwar!

the face of the man, the slightest change of expression in the eyes on cue, and the lips...

"bijnech hai," he has a business... bua ji leaps into the fray to defend her damad... he works in bahut barey phactory (a very big factory) and below him work thousands of people.

old lady is not to be outdone. arre even below lalan has so many people work and he has such a big dukan.

so lalan one is here already i am thinking.

"ji dukan nahin... chain of industries hai meri..." not a shop, i have chain of industries... my hero can't take it.

"chain!!!" in unison say the three devis... what's it with this three women thing in ipk. again and again we see it. just a while back it was khushi, bua ji, amma serving. now three friends visit. at rm, it's nani ji, mami ji, anjali. and once it was la, pam and sim.

"chain ki dukan hai???" you have a chain shop?

one eyebrow goes up though mouth remains open in disbelief... uff the imagery you manage to weave with your words..

"nahin nahin, dukanon ki chain..." no, no, a chain of many shops says khushi quickly.

at this old lady can't contain her excitement and goes for some action. echoing the sentiments of half the world's female population she says he is very good looking, bahut sundar. and goes for his cheek.

after her kiss on forehead, she blesses him, "jug jug jiyo, beta..."

great scene... and there's a happy jar of pickle on the table now...

money for damad ji's ittr is passed to khushi.

the man is losing it...

"ittr? inhen toh ittr bahut pasand hai..." khushi is gleeful, oh he loves ittr, she lies.

"whatever," comes a gruff one.

"whatever?" says old lady of sharp ears.

"whatever kya hai beta..." what's that, she asks khushi. of course, she had also wanted to know the meaning of "what the!" and had been given an english lesson by sanka devi.

"matlab, janam janmantar..." means for this life and beyond... he will keep me happy, so happy the whole world would be left gaping... comes khushi's creative take on her husband's much used word.

and to that, old lady blesses them... may you have saaton janam rishta... a relationship that last through seven lifetimes.

bitiya is struck...

bitwa looks at her.

and in an instant a pure ipk flip... the mood has become warm, intense, no ha ha in it...

saaton janam tak tumhara rishta bana rahe bitiya, a look on his face, on hers and a hey hey rising in the air.

never know where it will come from, what will trigger it. that sudden moment which says you are connected... always. no matter what... the deed is done, no going back...

hey hey..

she looks at him, a funny pain somewhere.

a dard...

rabba vey...

an awkwardness an awareness, they cross each other and go their own way... I term this as essential IPK and this is something which you write so so so well about.. Lovely

going back to the top of the episode...

the tycoon is feeling the heat literally. he toils away at his laptop, looking disgruntled almost woebegone.

he's looking a dish with that loosened tie and unhappy air, yet a concentration in the eyes... something interesting about workaholics.

a bead of sweat drips down from temple to eyelid and below, obstructing vision. he looks around seeking a fan, some respite...

gets up to do something and that's when he notices the other man.

salman. khushi's fave poster boy.

suffer, baby, i think... you have been the other man in my husband's life for too long, it's time you got a dose of it yourself. so this is your biwi's fantasy man... and trust me if she knew about fan fic, she'd be writing them too. 100 secrets of chulbul pandey by kkg...sr. Hahahaha and some more hahaha . I always think how actors would actually react to fanfiction..

er, she is the dulhan in the palki, and her he man is carrying it. this scene was daft and funny... the poster loving just past her teens khushi.

yes yes raise the eyebrow, dear man... so cutely amused is he, a little superior air too in it. Amazing how Barun manages to convey all that

i almost heard him think "pagal". i bet she came to mind and in a jiffy his ire was gone, he was smiling. that's the effect this crazy girl has on him.

he however has made her mad with his actions. she decides he is doing an "occupy" on her room much like her little take over of his. lovely mingling of their things, especially when mr finicky does it something so sexy in that...

she is resolved now to teach him zindagi ka path. life's lessons.

she was also contemplating destroying his nose with her mosquito killing racquet. remember her dashing against his cheek months ago in a fit of loveria? even the mosquito gives an excuse to get on with the lovin', of course asr kkgsr way, slap, whack, what the, get out shut up i hate you included. 🤣 glad you added in this paragraph..love it

he was quite sure he wasn't sharing a bed with her.

in the meantime the lights went off.

an episode with laughter, fun, sadness, pain, love and sexiness... all so well balanced.

edit: posted in a sleepy haze. added a couple of thoughts in the morning, they are in blue.

DL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phCrpFpFlTk

Originally posted by: aarwen

Episode 234

A disgruntled cute ASR. I never thought I would see him in this disheveled state. Messy hair, tie askew, sleeves rolled up, salty droplets travelling down the sharp lines of his face brushed away with impatience. While we stare at him, he looks around the room. Finally the meeting with his arch nemesis.. the man he can never measure upto or so Khushi thought. One fine day she will replace the photo with a man much dearer to her. For now .. Salman khanji. Aah the eye roll.. He averts his eyes. Does he get a feeling it is personal to Khushi? But then again this is his khushi. He has all the right to see. Strange that after all that these two have been through together this is the first time he can take respite and get a glimpse of the girl and how she lived. Eyes travel to another wall and this time try as he might he can't control, the now legendary, sinful curving of those lips. i believe in extreme sinning, beautiful note on how this is the first time he is really getting a glimpse into his girl's life before that fateful night. Again looks away but something has registered the innocent dreams of love that this girl had. Maybe the poster on the wall in his room now holds a significance much dearer than before.

While the distracted tycoon struggles to turn his attention back to work, buaji and aunty peep into their daughter's room. Hesitant to approach the still distant and almost fearful son-in-law. But his insistent "buaji" ? Not sure what it is all about yet considerate or plain curious? Somewhere deep down he experiences the love these people are showing him and that brings out the politeness. It will take some eye opening words from Khushi to make his conscious self realize how hard and earnestly the Gupta family is trying to embrace him with open arms, but for now his subconscious self feels it for sure.

Carefully laid out comedy of errors in play. nice... i had this same thought when the rigmarole got going.,.. abs comedy of errors structure here and how neatly they used that same technique to flip from ha ha to hey hey... just when you wondered where is all this going. Unsuspecting he walks out to meet the AC wala, but what the? The smiling women waiting for the muh dikhayi of Khushi bitiya's extremely good looking pati. Khushi in her best loving new wife behaviour starts the introductions. He looks up at "ye humare wo hai" .. kishan kanhaiya..sakshat nand kishore.. Vimala mausi, Taiji, pata nai Lata getting to let our favourite man know what all the taiji's, bahu's, saheliyan all over the world feel for him. 🤣 Did Arnav bitwa just get shy with all the compliments? Is that why he wants to leave? "ye thore sharmile kisim ke hai".. never thought i would hear these words for the dashing ruthless handsome ASR..

"Roop toh hai par parha likha hai ki nai?".. a lot like us saying, it not just the striking face but the sheer unimaginable qualities of talent that make us crazy about this actor who makes this character come alive.. oh Barun Sobti how did you manage that look? That inflection while saying, "MBA kiya hai.. Harvard se", in a voice as if he is explaining something to a 2 year old. Definitely not the usual ASR voice. Can never ever be the voice of just another guy yet somehow more down to earth. "Haridwar!". Defintiely not the reaction he was aiming for. He can't take the comparison to some nobody ha ha ha ha our laad governor he is after all. these ladies are talking about. A quick glance at his wife. Will she come to save the day for him today? No you are on your own Harvard boy. This whole situation hysterically funny yet the Harvard bitwa (I so love this name !) returned trying his best to sort it our with his usual common sense. "Chain of industries". Alas there are some things which even Harvard doesn't prepare you for.

Neat camera trick while the happy old lady advances towards the boy whose expression borders on alarm with each passing microsecond. The super lucky old woman gets to kiss him. umm on the forehead. Very real this giving of money by elder. It happens in my house all the time. And we also come to know the actual person who taught Khushi all about charming husbands with Chandni chowk ka best itr 😆. "bitiya ko khush rakhoge na?" In answer a grumbling adorable "never" or "whatever" I couldn't be sure. Khushi steps in firmly. "itna khush ki sab dekhte reh jayenge" Already a foreshadowing of the touching scene between the mother and her daughter. "satho janam" leads to beguiling panic on both faces. They had forgotten all this is temporary. When did it all become so much fun? When did it all become so easy? When did it all become perfect? When did it all become just the way they would want to live their life hamesha? 👏

Now familiar beautiful music is heard. Their steps towards each other. Crossing. Stopping. Turning. Rabba ve whirling. Their expressions talking. Essential IPK..

Akash and Payal's scene gets me thinking.. Just one month into the marriage for both the couples.. unbelievable! While one continues with the expected notions of gifts and smiles the other continue like they have. From the first day they set eyes on each other there were insults .. there were tears .. wild emotions .. unrestrained love .. and the unparalleled sense of belonging.

For once IPk has a side actor who is acting well... the lucky old lady who got to pull the beloved damadji's cheek gleefully exclaims seeing the new AC. 5 year purana Cooler dev soon to be threatened by the brand new AC devi. Another new loves story in the making..hehehe hyuk hyuk, maybe here the tables will be turned and ac devi will say "get out" to cooler dev who will fume at the insult, shake his buttons and say, "aap get out..."

Maybe it is the feeling of owning the other person that causes Arnav the oversight. Overstepping of boundaries because there haven't been any ever between these two. On teej when his hand had risen on his own accord to wipe away the irritation. On janmashtami she would trick him to bring laad governor to nand kishore. He will pay her father's hospital bill. His boring party is where she will add her chatpata flavors. Always this disregard of personal space. lovely... neither cared about teh other's opersonal space you are right, and oh how i fumed when khushi ruined his party... but love and war, strange states of the mind. A simple action as standing together and you couldn't help not notice how impossibly close they would stand. How deeply and for unnatural lengths of time would they stare at each other. There was never a question of tumhara or mera.. long back it had become humara..

So when Khushi asks him about his new purchase he does not catch on why she is upset. Maybe a vague thought that they may mind him spending. But he is wilting in the heat so decided to get an AC. As simple as that. "bas karni hai" had said our man of action he is so essentially that... that day. It is just an AC whats the big deal are his thoughts today. But he forgot these are self respecting people. Not just Khushi but there are other members in this house. Buaji with her crystal clear conscience will not pretend like everything is fine when she is hurt. And Arnav immediately understands that they are upset. Asks the workers to mind their own business and stands there with an air of helplessness. He hadn't meant for things to go this way. i think the friction with khushi also contributed to his taking this action without thinking, he is otherwise fairly sensitive to people and their needs.

Amma tries to be understanding "Unka humare rehen sehen ki aadat nai hai".. But the over smart worked speaks again.. "Apke sabun aur towel." Bubua tries damage control but all three women in the room are definitely hurt by this. And then buaji with her magnanimous heart says a very very sweet line "tum jaise khush raho humko toh usmi mein khushi hoi" ..

Khushi follows her family. Feeling all their hurt not sure what to do about it. Wise Garima reminds Khushi about changes in the Raizada household for their own bahuriya. Inadvertently it opens up another much deeper hurt. The night he unceremoniously for no valid reason discernible discarded her from his life. She returns to the room still upset, deep in reverie of the awful night. All the chot she has been trying so hard to fight. The sadness which tended to throttle her had been painstakingly pushed away in the attempts to disrupt Arnav's life. And just like that I am sympathizing with Khushi again. so did i... it needed the writer to bring this up at some point later, her realisation why she was so out of control, his shrug, it's okay... i know. just as they made him ponder and reach an apology in his mind... same with her... hota hai, pyaar is never easy, but to leave this thread alone as though it never happened that was silly. gah, they said story has run its course, while discussing here we find so many many things that could have been delved into and handled, not in a boring serial way but with the freshness of ipk. at least a year more of solid story was there within these tracks alone.

Arnav still stands looking concerned and fretful. His ill-humor, frustration was all for his wife not her family. Again IPK depicts this very normal real life problem and depicts it with heartwarming clarity and sincerity as well. Such is the delicate relation of a new son-in-law or daughter-in-law and the in-laws that it doesn't take to much to disbalance it. The relationship when new is extremely fragile, but as you get closer the bond strengthens. As a result of all these moments we' ll see Arnav and these mother like figures in his life share an unmistakable bond. The people and the place will bring him respite and a strong sense of belonging. The gupta house will soon become his favourite vacation spot. It is a journey in its own right worth making for Arnav bitwa.

Only days earlier had the feisty girl insisted that everything belonged in equal share to her as her husband. Now the sudden realisation that the same is true vice versa as well. His toiletries, laptop, files, Ac (and somewhere the handy bluetooth) all part of her little world now. These are mere material possessions, the entire ASR aura has infiltrated Khushi's being. Even her own song has a little what the in it.. 👏 👏 👏

So much misunderstanding.. how can she not see he has nothing but respect for elders? And worse how can he not see the pure heart she has.. hai re nand kishore ab ka kari inka. She wants to teach the common ways of life to the boy who lost everything on one tragic night. To a boy who must have battled god knows what to provide for his only remaining family. And the boy who after all that struggle emerged victorious or did he? Doesn't every war pass on its burden to the soldiers who fought in it? Has Arnav Singh Raizada ever been free from the turmoil of that night and its repurcursions? Isn't everything he does an attempt to not fall into the mediocrity of a common man's life or maybe even worse. His insistence that paisa is everything is because he has lived a life where paisa was important because of how hard it must have been been to obtain. absolutely... 👏 👏 👏 that fear stalks you forever. i have seen it in my life... people like asr never ever want history to be repeated, they do everything they can to keep things, life in order, they work so hard, they give all of themselves, they ask for essentially one thing, that life should feel "normal", in control... a terrible need for control, some control, for their life has been torn asunder cruelly. by that fate... no wonder he does not trust it, he will make his own life. that snapped pearl string was him, his life... and he was running around all the time trying to set it right, string it back. even marrying khushi comes from that desperate need to restore calm, peace...

he was thrown out of his mahal, his life was robbed of him, love was gone in a shattering moment, he decided not to let it ruin him, but get up and fight... to mistake his striding, dominant personality as arrogant for the sake of being arrogant is not to see the man at all. the first time he speaks of his lack of faith in god or any destiny maker... and his belief in paisa... he also clearly says why... this world is as bedard as it has always been. to think he has seen nothing of life, of real life... is to be very very short sighted. and as i always noticed, he had a special kindness, a feeling for someone who came from a humble background and was essentially a decent person... mami ji, shyam... he judged neither for their lower social status. khushi made this mistake just as he made his mistakes regarding her, but because the audience is predominantly female and making us feel we are better than everybody is a subliminal lollipop in every serial, there was no need for kkg to realise her folly...

ipk would have been so much stronger for a little bit of honest writing.

Few strings of new lively music herald the arrival of the night we have all been waiting for. Obviously he can't sleep on the same bed as his wife. Too much self control needed 😆. Funny that the boy objects and the girl still hasn't given it much thought. Uff ye comfort ko kya naam de? Never have I liked those filthy sneaky animals so much as this night. Did Khushi mention all this to have him near? Will we ever know? Can we only dream?

Greedy mosquitoes only wanting the sweet Raizada boy's blood. Oh the cute completely baffled Arnav and the over zealous kartavya pura karne wali Khushi. Why is she trying so hard to kill the damn mosquitoes feasting on her mouth watering Arnavji. The faithful AC has been switched on and the less faithful electricity has decided to leave these two crazy ajeeb lovers alone.. can't wait for the ambrosial bedtime to arrive..