Question re Vastra Haran

A question from the MB that my 21st century brain cannot process: IF a lady has the will to choose her husband at a swayamvar and whether to elope and Kanha says its the coconut's will and destiny as to where it chooses to grow once it falls from the palm tree, THEN how can a LADY be staked as gamble? where does the lady's free will go then? or once she has chosen her fate then she has to live by that choice?So Kanha did not agree with betting DPadi and THAT is why Yudi had to spend twelve years in penance?

Very good post.👏

I will look at it more humanly, I guess it was because of the heat of the moment that Yudistheer did that. He had lost every thing by then but Shakuni present him with a chance to win everything again and he fell in the gambler dilemma and no, it was not right in anyway that's why it has been condemned.

@ Amrita: I do not want to even acknowledge what is said on some FB pages. NO lady whether in this century or back then deserves to be assaulted because she rejects a guy.

Perhaps then, my query needs to be--WHY did Arjun not stand up and save his love? It is said that even though he was deeply devoted to Subhi, he still loved DPadi the most from the depths of his heart? So WHY did he not stand up? was he not ready then? he did not have the pashupatastra or the divyastras then? or was it no the right time? or was he following protocol?? what protocol lets such brave warriors not save their beloved queen? the fact that they were slaves??then how is that dharma?or is it??or did he too believe Kanha would help? and what IF (and thats a BIG IF) Kanha would not have come to help??It is said he ALWAYS comes to help, but that was then in that yug? for that specific lady who it is said was shakti (the same shakti who vasudev swapped his 8th son with and who wen Kansa tried to kill shot up in the sky as ma durga. It is said that that girl was born from the fire as DPadi to help the Lord in saving the earth from the immoral Kshatriyas)

Completely agree with u.

staking a women is and was wrong for ever ..

It is said that the time Yudi spent in the forest, he did penance for staking DPadi and his brothers and atoned for his sins. He apparently gained a lot of spiritual merit during this time.

yup, i agree with you guys, but, if that event wouldn't had happened then what would have made pandavas especialy yudhisthir angry on kauravs.

k ket me try.yudi did his first mistake by accepting invitation and then went on betting everything he had.may b when he realized that he had gone too far he yearned to get everything back but he had only him and his bros.if he left the game he would not have had anything (not his kingdom) .so he tried to make up for that by betting his bros and himself. when he lost himself he did not have any right to protest.if he did then technically he would b breaking rules so two options b a matryr or get arrested for violating rules.drau too represented a possible escape from this situation so he took that bait.nw when that disgusting situation arised there were two ways before him:he defies his king and accept the consequences because technically he had lost by rules so he didnot have any right,then whole hastinapur as well as his indraprastha against him.anybody would not stand for him because technically kauravas were right. or accept everything
now let us analyse his bros situation :if they protested and went against his bros on this,kauravas would have gotten their long lost wish.their strength was they always stood together whatever situation was.their protests would have further weakened yudi political position.so general message to everybody would have been"are iske to bhai bhi iske sath ni h to hum iska sath de".
yep I know this everything sounds disgusting but I think in this whole scenario the mind played a crucial role than heart and conscience