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Education or no-education I hardly found any of the BVian girls with a solid career. Be it Anandi, Sugna, choti Maa, Ira or Sanchi; all have little fate in this area. Ganga might be the only one who has freshly started a career. Let's see how long she can sustain this. The only one different might be Ashima, and Gauri however they have been sent away long back with bag and baggage. Though different in personalities, the only common factor among all of them is never forgetting the "Sholah Shringar".
Why is it so, have we ever thought?
Who are the real viewers of BV afterall?
The handful indiaforum and other forum writers?
No people, had it been so,
1. Pratyusha never would have quit the show, (considering the number of forum members opposed this)
2. Sanchi would have left for ever, (the same)
3. Sanchi should have been given some room to herself after rape rather than thinking of marriage,
4. Gauri would have been shown even if replaced by another actress (many of us requested this)
5. Anandi could have been an MLA or IAS officer by now (again many of us dreamed it and wrote it to colors)
I think the massive amount of viewers of BV, live not in abroad, nor in metros but in rural India, where for people it's really tough to imagine a girl manage her career along with home; where doing Seva of her in-laws is the biggest Dharma of a Naree and at every step the female is supposed to seek permission of her in-laws.
The second reson which comes to my mind is, the writers are good at sketching the life of a Bahu, a taunting sister-in-law, mother-in-law blah blah blah. However may be it's tougher for them to portray the life of a lady as a leader, an IAS officer, a doctor or someone with extra-odinary personality.
What you say people?
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Edited on 17th March
People,
I take back my second assumption that writers of the daily shows find it tough to portray an extra-odinary woman with a solid career. Last night I read a novel "The Edge of Desire" (http://www.amazon.in/The-Edge-Desire-Tuhin-Sinha/dp/9350094436?tag=googinhydr13049-21) a best-seller novel by Tuhin Sinha. The story depicts the journey of Shruti Rajan, a journalist who after her recent marriage to an IAS officer has been gang-raped by few goons and with some twists and turns enters into politics. The lady transforms her curse to her identity, she first becomes a member of Lok Sabha and then becomes deputy home minister. The story has been narrated so beautifully, I did not know how the whole night passed without a break from me. Just have a go though the teaser promo and you would feel it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWRDXaGDP4s
To my surprise this writer who has also been the writer to great scripts for movies and TV; also is the writer of the show "Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai" which focuses on the daily happenings within the household of an Udaipur family. So finally it's the TRP and not the skill of the writer which works on the tele serials. All their charishma and creativity takes a back seat before the evergreen SAS-BAHU tamasha.
love
D.
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Edited 19th March 2014
What an IAS's wife do!
I can see loads of debates on glorification of home-makers as well as working women. One thing I must say, that we are all grown ups and we see the world as per our own experiences. We see only things that our brain perceives. We see the world through our own eyes and not through others.
At the same time I must tell you something interesting. Have any of you come in contact with I.A.S officers? Do you know what their wives do? Well in my past I have worked in many Govt. projects and in the processed visited the Parliament and north block in Delhi. I have also met many I.A.S officers at work and known their wives in parties. Most of them, rather all the ones that I know are house-wives. Mostly they are extremely goodlooking and convent educated females usually educated in Arts with literature or political science as their main subjects; they are the ones whom the man can accompany and showcase to the world proudly.
An IAS like SRS would be allocated a two bedroom flat in the central Delhi and are provided with official help too. The wife does not have to cook or do anything apart may be looking after the kid for homework and wait for husband's arrival from work. Some of them whose children are big enough and need no more assistance, watch tele or attend clubs and gossip around, few of them associate themshelves into NGOs and charity too.
I.A.S and I.F.S. officers mostly marry home-makers due to the transferable nature of their job. For I.A.S officers it could be anywhere in India and for I.F.S.(Indian foreign service) officers it's anywhere in the world.
So considering this, Shiv's choice was not bad after all. If he had married the much enthusiastic Sanchi, she might have been deligted for few weeks/months. However after the honeymoon period, would have felt bored to death after knowing her prospects in a small town or village that her husband is posted.
Earnings of a Civil servant
Even if we forget the self-esteem stuff for few minutes; I really wonder how a well-educated intelligent lady would prefer to be a pure home-maker for ever. Life comes with strange surprises. Even if we are blessed with a loving, caring husband with good source of income, we would never know the future. I have heard few very horrible stories during my stay in U.K.
There the young ladies never quit their work, come what may. They have seen their mothers who used to be pure housewives up to 70s and then their men quit them for another woman by their late 40s and 50s. The divorce laws then were not strong enough to protect housewives then. Also after a shock of lifetime, not always a woman is left with guts to fight back.
Later some 10 years back I had read this in papers that a well-known billionaire in USA divorced his wife in his 50s and went for a girl as young as his daughter. They had been in a marriage for 25 years and had grown-up children to consider. The wife was always a home-maker. The court ordered the guy for a compensation of 50% of his assets. Yes, its true as per laws, even a housewife is entitled to 50% of the money that the husband earns.
Coming to the salary part of a husband, let me brief you an incident which happened to me few years back. I was working for a Govt project in "Ministry of External affairs" in central Delhi and during those days I met an I.F.S. officer(diplomat) who was similar to my age. The guy was extremely handsome, spoke English with an accent just as an Angrej and had an outstanding personality. However one day I was surprised with what he told me. It was an official meeting where I had to discuss the status of the project and I said that even if we are bit behind the schedule we would definitely finish it off within the specified timeline. We are working till 8.30 PM everyday.
The officer said
"Miss Debbie, I really am surprised. You IT people earn so much, you must be getting a salary more than double that I get. See you come to office in a sedan and you got a driver too whereas I have only a small Santro. For whatever I get as compensation, I work for 7-8 hours . You all should work at least 12-14 hours a day and leave by 11 pm"
Then I realised how frustrated he was. If a civil servant lives an honest life of no-bribe, that to with a housewife, life would be a bare minimum in a place like Delhi. His wife was non-working and he had a small kid too. Before joining the current job, he was working for an USA based IT MNC and earned big money.
