Originally posted by: monika_RK
well ram also raised Kush and also Rishabh They are much better Human beings than all the others even Kady
So Ram also raised Kids lIke a good parent
Dont balme parents for immaturity of kids
Pihu isnt a kid she should know what is right or wrong
and every Dad pampers his daugter including my dad but i wont ask to choose him betweeen me and mom coz i have that maturity and sense unlike pihu
Kush is a different type of kid. We don't know too much about his upbringing because he wasn't a main character before. All we know is that Ayesha raised him with help from Saamya and Ram. I don't think that Ayesha really raised him because she was preoccupied with herself and her body. She only focused on herself. Saamya gave him attention. I remember there was scene where Ayesha said something rude and Saamya got angry at Ayesha and tried to console Kush. Ram also seemed to be reasonably present in Kush's life. And then luckily Priya came into his life and things were good. She loved him and treated him as his own and he never forgot. I think Kush has serious issues regarding love and attachment. The reason he loves Priya so much I think is because he was able to differentiate between the way Ayesha treated him and Priya treated him. Kush was always a second thought to Priya (behind Pihu) yet she still loved him. Whereas Kush wasn't really in Ayesha's mind. At 5 years old, kids can generally differentiate between people's behaviours toward them. That's why Kush loved Priya so much and never forgot her. Because she was one person who was there for him when she could be. Remember she used to call him her "special kid." Kush could recognize that Priya wasn't obligated to love him, after all, his own biological mother didn't. But Priya did and he loved her in return. Their bond was special in its own way. That's why he called her "Priya angel" because she really did come into his life like an angel and transformed it by her love. But even then, Kush isn't perfect. He often has the tendency to overreact and always likes to have things be happy. Doesn't like it when things aren't and can't really stand it thus he overcompensates. Has issues with love, that's why he left with Priya because he wanted to be with her to a) repay all that she had done for him b) didn't want to have to live without her love and presence. Comparitively Kush is one of the better characters, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have emotional issues. The twins are more emotionally together than him. So he's not bad, but he's not perfect either.
Rishab also has problems. He's spoiled as well LOL. Wasn't he about to divorce Saamya over something?
I'm not blaming parents for everything. But parents do impact their kids personalities.
I was arguing that Ram and Priya don't parent very well together as a team because they have different ideologies/ techniques for parenting. Priya is about knowing about her kid at all times and being a present force in their life no matter what. But she also believes in hard work because she herself realizes that its important. Ram cares more about his kids being provided for and having everything they think they need, hence the spoiling. He's always busy with business thus he isn't able to be there for them all the time. Due to these differences, I think that alone, they probably could've raised a better Pihu specifically, but even then aren't the perfect parental figures they're marketed as, especially Priya.
And Pihu's predicament is actually to a large extent, a by product of Priya and Ram's parenting differences. Young Pihu raised by her mom alone = good kid. Teenager Pihu raised by both parents = problem. Both Ram and Priya went wrong with the teenage Pihu. Priya went insane with spying and then turning a blind eye. Extremes are never good for parenting. And Ram was just so busy with work, didn't Priya say once that she felt like a single mother? And then Ram gave the stupid advice of telling Priya to lie. Seriously, 15 year old isn't a baby anymore. The truth would've come out soon enough. I agree that Pihu didn't need to be told the entire Ashwin-Priya story, but even a small summary would've sufficed. By lying to her, Priya broke Pihu's trust totally. Priya always preached about telling the truth and then she goes ahead and lies to her own teenage daughter? I mean come on, any person would be angry. Ram and Priya put the foundation in place. On top of that, when her mother went into a coma, Ram brings in another mother (not a bad idea) and then proceeds to fill the sorrow with material things (like seriously). She continually got everything she wanted, she was never denied anything. Obviously that would make a person immature. Ram should've put his foot down when Pihu tried to commit suicide. Put her in rehab to get over Sammy. And he should've never listened to Pihu's demand. Again, just spoiling her by giving in to her demands.
Ram and Priya have been shown to be great character and thus obviously people assume that they would have great kids as well. But no, their kids are ordinary.
And anyways, its just a drama LOL. Ekta is notorious for being not logical.
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