Bollywood at War!!!! Article - Page 5

wow they didnt invite so many people!
the question shudn't be who they didn't invite...it shud be who did they invite... 😛

Originally posted by: simtara

I'm rather interested in discussing what "other people" are doing for the wedding.. It's a welcome break from the routine of my life and it's a topic I have opinions on. I find the atmosphere generally amicable and am able to vent or express my opinions on the topic with others who also have something to say about it.

And to be more pointed, I had meant if you have nothing to say towards the topic itself, feel free to ignore the post... you are more than welcome to use the PM feature so that we neither digress from the topic, nor criticize a particular member or group of members for their thoughts and opinions and therefore go against the code of conduct of this forum.

So, to state it clearly, feel free to ignore our posts or use the PM feature if anything offends you.

i don't think it was a matter being offended. payal99 was just stating her opinion. everyone else was all for making negative comments about the wedding and all and there were a couple who were not. so i don't think its right for us to tell people to ignore posts.....they should feel free to express what they feel.

also, no need for anyone to take it so personally. hell, we don't even know who these ppl are.....why worry so much about them.

Originally posted by: roopasatish

Abhishek is miffed with Sanjay for not letting him know about the kissing scene between Hrithik and Ash in Dhoom 2,"

HOW COME THEY DID NOT BREAK RELATIONSHIP WITH ASH??
AND IS SHE DUMB, IS IT NOT HER RESPONSIBILITY??
DISGUSTING THIS WHOLE WEDDING WAS.........

what in the world are you talking about. no need to make such comments about her or her wedding. nothing was disgusting about this wedding.

Actually..some of the wardrobe choices were rather horrendous 😕 😆

If this is what top-designers are giving celebrities to wear at functions and such, I'll stick to my tailor master and good old department stores 😆

..and without dragging the issue further, i don't have a problem with others disagreeing and commenting as long as it's geared towards the topic and not memebers and their posts...as was clearly done by Payalji. Please refer to the PM I sent you for my thoughts on the topic. And as our Mod *preity.zinta* has said..let's move on past that point.

Originally posted by: payal99

yes and i'm sure you were there to witness this whole thing. 😆 if wife is invited then the husband is automatically invited.

Just an fyi,

It is an understood norm in weddings to explicity state the invitees by name especially if you are not interested in everyone from the invitee's family to attend.
For example, on the wedding card, where you address the invitee you can write:

"Twinkle and Akshay Khanna" or, you could write

"Twinkle Khanna" or "Twinkle and family"

They all mean different things and the invitee is supposed to understand by that who is being invited. You dont explicity have to say "Twinkle and not akshay khanna".

The first example invites husband and wife twinkle and akshay and NOT the kids, or t & a's parents, the second example only invites Twinkle and the third one invites their entire family. They could potentially show up with their kids and both sets of parents and siblings also in the third case.

In my wedding also, my parents wanted to invite one of their very close friends whose son I absolutely dont care for. So we made the invite out to "Mrs and Mrs xyz". They definitely came to the wedding, minus the son.(But the son also dint care to attend my wedding .. so no hard feelings.. he was happy he didnt have to make an excuse to not come)

Bottom line, is that in weddings people can selectively invite individuals from families without inviting the entire family. At the same time, invitees can also take offense to things like this depending on their proximity to the wedding party and their lack of understanding of reasons behind such tough-handed decisions. If people take offense they make excuses and keep away from the wedding, if they dont take offense they attend. This is exactly what we have seen in the bachchan wedding. This is truly how wedding etiquette works.. and nothing anyone should hold onto long term.

Im sure after the bachchan wedding is old news, things will get back to normal. Who now remembers that Akshay and Twinkle Khanna got married in the back of abu jani and sandeep khosla's designer studio and had NO guests at the wedding, twinkle wearing a lehenga that abu-sandeep ended up gifting to her since her mom didnt pay the final bill for the wedding dress!

Amitabh and Jaya's wedding was also VERY low key, the only person attending from Jaya;'s side was her sister, no one else. Jaya's sister also was not invited to Bachchan Jr wedding though. AB and Jaya got married at a private residence after each one came back from a hectic day of shooting.

Hema and Dharamji got married absolutely filmy style. Even the guests attending did not know that she would eventually marry Dharamji. Dharamji crashed into the wedding mandap of Hema and Jeetendra and convinced Hema and her dad that he was the right person for Hema. Again, no bollywood guests there.

The problem with the Bachchan wedding was that the entire bachchan family and would be daughter in law work in the same industry. Thus, it is obvious that they will each have their own allies, enemies, rivals etc. Even if they all make independent lists and sit down to vote on who is "in" who is "out" chances are so many friends, and allies will get knocked out due to their Ash, Abhi, Amitabh or Jaya's choices. The only way you could get most people on your list is if you make one out of uncontroversial people like Karan Johar, Rishi Kapoor, Ambanis who are not in any controversies with any of the bachchans or ash.

Ok, now Im tired of typing, and seems like what started out to become a two line fyi has become a big bhashan. Sorry about that. This was (and is) intended to be a neutral observation. I dont care for any of the bachchans or anyone else who is crying or not crying about the wedding.

However, my personal opinion is this:

Marriages are special and are a ONE time thing in our culture, so the Bachchans should have been smarter and used this happy occasion to actually bury all hatchets and throw open their doors to everyone in the industry. they shoudl have also released some official photos at the end of each day to the media "with love" so that all their fans would have felt like a part of the wedding and would have looked forward to the next day. Thats how I would have done it (Though I couldnt get myself to invite uncle and aunty xyz's lechy eyed son)

Originally posted by: mittijalebi

thanks for the essay.

A bit too long I know....

<sigh> I tend to get very verbose sometimes....😊

cheers!

and for everyone who has questions as to why certain ppl weren't invited please read amitabh's interview. this will answer why the doors were opened to everyone in the industry as has been suggested.