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Posted: 12 years ago
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No, the world goes around because of some courageous people like your dad. Every little step in the right direction is important, no matter how tough.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: showviewer

No, the world goes around because of some courageous people like your dad. Every little step in the right direction is important, no matter how tough.

It is tough to swim against the current. After that incident lot of people made fun of my father saying that his military rules (he is retired fm army)cannot be practiced in this small town. My father is a strong man he will raise his voice against injustice but after this incidence my mother always discourages him fm reacting instantly.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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That is one of life's tragedies that when we stand up, or support a person being wronged, the person themselves will become the first to turn around and say 'mind your own business'.

My firm belief is goodness never goes unrewarded & I would never hesitate to do my part.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ramyarn

It is tough to swim against the current. After that incident lot of people made fun of my father saying that his military rules (he is retired fm army)cannot be practiced in this small town. My father is a strong man he will raise his voice against injustice but after this incidence my mother always discourages him fm reacting instantly.


Your family looking out for your dad is understandable, but what he did was praiseworthy.

Think of all the terrible practices we as human race have overcome because there were the few among us who were brave enough to raise their voice against them.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ramyarn

I think the society and the socialisation are to blamed. If we take the example of RR when maithali expresses her opinion to her MIL.mohini makes fun of her son for allowing his wife to speak. Our socialization is not proper,it makes us believe that in family life woman don't have the right to express her opinion.


How can Mohini make fun of her son for allowing his wife to speak when herself never let her husband to speak. She said whether samrat need her or suneri's bangles. If Samrat needs them then Mohini's husband also needs them. Then nobody mentioned that to her. That's what happened when we allow people walk on us. When Mohini has a right to speak then why can not Maithili? At first Paro did not involve or Rudra did not let her involve but Mailthily was the one who said what Paro told her. So she was one the one who made Paro interfere in her matters then why she was angry on Paro?
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ramyarn

The behavior of Maithali to Paro in yesterday's episode reminded me about a bitter experience my family had from our neighbour. Ever since they came to our neighborhood we lost our peaceful evening and night, because the husband is fond of abusing his wife whenever he consume alcohol. We felt pity for the wife and the kids who used to scream when the cruel person torches them. One day my father questioned the husband and suddenly his wife came in between and asked my father that Who is he to interfere in their family matters? She explained to us that it is her husband's right to beat her and it is his way of showing love.I was bit confused then in deciding who deserve my sympathy , my father, the woman who consider herself as a slave or the society who made the woman think that husband has every right to use her like a thrash.

anyway after this experience my father will think twice before interfering in others life.


Your father is an amazing person and I commend him for standing up for another individual even if the other person did not appreciate it. But from the wife's perspective even if she is a high school teacher, she has been culturally socialized to believe that her husband is right and dominant over her and her rights; she also may have tried to stop the violence when it first started but she probably did not get necessary support from her family and community to help make decisions regarding her marital life. Also if the abuse has been going on for a few years, the abuse has been become normalized so much that although she fears the abuse, she expects nothing else from her husband other than being abused in many forms. In many ways it is not her fault for choosing to stay because if she leaves she has to think about where will she go, who will support her cause and safety, will she be allowed to take her kids, can she support her kids on just her income, and will she be safe from her husband after she leaves him? These questions and so much more may have come up in the wife's mind if she did consider leaving; and your father's protest against the abuse experienced by the neighbour's wife by the neighbour was great, but it failed to secure her against the abuse and remove her from the normalized situation. My thinking is, is that if she would not have said for your father to leave and not interfere, she would have been beaten further that day or if the matter escalated the police may have been called; so her protest against your father was wrong in our minds but in her mind it may have been the safest choice for her and her children. This is just my opinion based on my experience as a counselor and how important it is not to judge in situations where an abused woman has decided to leave her abuser but then decides to go back because of many external social factors.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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i didn't think maithili was angry at paro. what i understood of her expressions was she was thankful but just couldn't say it. she pushed paro away because she knows the outcome, mohini already attempted to slap paro twice. don't know what she might do next time. like paro said she's had to face mohini from the beginning. i think she knows she'll make life a hell for paro and herself. plus, she'll lose her spinless husband who loves her but fears to protect her. after all the reason she has relations to the rest of her house is because of/through samrat.
I don't know, I may be completely wrong.
but yes, i definitely think she needs to build the courage and bigaad samrat and mohini's mausam now.

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