Can Sandhya be inspirational? - Page 2

awesome post!!

Hi Shruthi,

Here are my two cents after reading the questions your little ones pose 😊

timepass ji perfect answer👏.totally agree with u.

@Shant Paaji:- Palabras de sabiduria.(Words of wisdom). Perfecto reply!⭐️!

Nice discussions by everyone!

I don't feel like to associate word "inspirational" for Sandhya?😕. It's seems like the insult of word "inspiration" itself.

I inspired from someone who fight against all thick and thin shades of the life and emerge as a victor. No matter what they never give up from their dreams, never sacrificed with ethics/morals/values what they believe is right.

I'm yet to find out single woman who led happy/blissful marriage life after she got married to mama's boy. I'm coming from joint family background and my uncle/dad both used to be mama's boys and it ruined life of my aunty and mom. However, good thing my mom and aunt did when they learned from their mistake and allowed enough space, freedom to my bhabhi. Both of them are very cooperative to her. Even my cousin bro helps her in household.

For your cousins,
- Why they are thinking about marriage at such a young age? They should focus on to build solid career first over anything else.

- Ain't they matured enough to interpret between real and reel life? As you pointed out, inspirational women are present in your family/relatives then why they're seeking for an inspiration outside your family? It's good to question everything/anything but same time guide them how to question properly.

- Kindly encourage them to build their own independent thinking, Do some self-introspection and improve self-awareness by asking queries like who am I, what is the purpose of my life, what I want it from my life. Involve modern science in day-to-day decision making and don't follow anyone blindly.

- For marriage : Ask them to think about where you can compromise in your life/where not, kinda traits looking in life partner. I never believe to do sacrifices in the life. We always have choices to make in our life. We're living in the world of digitization + globalization. Communication mediums are very cheap. Anyone can utilize it before taking vital decision of the life. Try to know your future prospect partner via email/chatting/talking over phone. If he/she living in same state/city as you're then meet 2-3times @ public places. I don't find anything wrong with this. Be a part of "Progressive family" rather than "Regressive family".

*Best wishes* to your cousins and all the youngistan out here. Let's hope you all develop "Honesty in character like a satin flower, Purity in heart, Pellucidity in mind and Dynamism in action".

Shant thanks a lot. Yours is one of the perfect reply for the queries I raised. Ami thanks to you also for putting your thoughts on the topic.

Originally posted by: timepass

Here are my two cents after reading the questions your little ones pose 😊

First, never marry a Mama's boy because Mama's boy will always put mother first and wife second. ALWAYS! Wife's ideas, suggestions and feedback will be redundant and in this process wife will develop inferiority complex. So never marry a Mama's boy.😉

Second, marriage in joint family will deprive a wife of her own space, independence, and motivation to improve quality of life. Romance, Care for each other etc is lost in the huddle and daily routine

If a girl gets married to a forward thinking, hard working, independent personality, rationale man then it will definitely rub on the girl's attitude and personality as well. An educated girl will make not only her life and daily routine worth living but also her OWN family as well. She can live her dreams as well as support the dream of her soulmate.

Sandy is inspiration only from one angle, that is...she is trying to realize her dreams against ALL ODDS. You can tell your little angels that the motto of DABH is NEVER STOP WORKING TOWARDS YOUR DREAMS...NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION IS, NO MATTER HOW TOUGH THE BARRIERS ARE, NO MATTER HOW MUCH OPPOSITION IS, KEEP WORKING AND ONE DAY DREAMS WILL BE REALIZED.

One can gain independence by being dependent on husband's support provided the husband is not Mama's boy and does not live in joint family.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Shant thanks a lot. Yours is one of the perfect reply for the queries I raised. Ami thanks to you also for putting your thoughts on the topic.

If you ask me why my cousins are thinking about marriage and all at this age let me put this way. Mine is not a very progressive community. Even now very few girls from my community have a career. Even now the community lives on lot of fear about sending their daughters outside certain accepted jobs. I mean you can say an evolving community and they see a lot of importance still given to marriage over girls aspirations even now in my community. They both are aspirational. So they are questioning. I mean though I am working my mom is not very interested to get a working bahu for my brother. Neither is my aunt who is looking for a wife for my cousin. Brother is ok either way. Cousin would prefer a lady who will be with him as he is transferred around. I mean more or less a house wife. So even in the current generation within my family itself there is contrast.

So they are confused naturally and questions arise 😃