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Originally posted by: princessunara

<font color="#0066cc" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2"> Evie, here i agree with Swati. cz all we r attributing to Rudra is assumed pain and suffering and justifying him to a certain extent.
But Paro is truly suffering at THIS moment!

His suffering was never that bad that dying as preferable to living. Hers was, is and will be!

Rudra the child faced a loss, and after his dad took him away we can safely assume that maybe the home atmosphere wasn't the best, but he had a normal upbringing in the outside world where no1 knew anything to humiliate him further and rake his wounds. So the emotionally disconnected man is a grown up. Ya issues r there, but nothing that is so devastating as with Paro's case..
So I won't for the foreseeable future feel sorry for Rudra as opposed to Paro and what he puts her through.

I won't crucify him either as long as I feel its his duty. I just won't empathize of sympathize with him and his brand of behavior.

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Originally posted by: princessunara

Evie, here i agree with Swati. cz all we r attributing to Rudra is assumed pain and suffering and justifying him to a certain extent.
But Paro is truly suffering at THIS moment!

His suffering was never that bad that dying as preferable to living. Hers was, is and will be!

Rudra the child faced a loss, and after his dad took him away we can safely assume that maybe the home atmosphere wasn't the best, but he had a normal upbringing in the outside world where no1 knew anything to humiliate him further and rake his wounds. So the emotionally disconnected man is a grown up. Ya issues r there, but nothing that is so devastating as with Paro's case..
So I won't for the foreseeable future feel sorry for Rudra as opposed to Paro and what he puts her through.

I won't crucify him either as long as I feel its his duty. I just won't empathize of sympathize with him and his brand of behavior.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

God, I'm disagreeing with all my favorite females today! Does she have to be headstrong and defiant to win her dreams, to win, though? I for one really had no problem watching an almost silent, dreamy, gentle Paro the first few weeks. I wonder, honestly, how much of our expectation for some dhamaka and talking back is actually KKG flashbacks--we see that face, and we almost subconsciously expect fireworks, anger, passion, a girl standing up for herself no matter what the odds.

But I like this Paro. If the story holds to Othello, Desdemona was the flower to Otherllo's thornys stem--truly soft, gentle, kind, naive. And I'm a little tired of spunky heroines who conquer the world with their spirit. There are so many other kinds of women who's strength is not necessarily in being tough cookies. There are other ways to get the man!

Paro, the introverted girl who speaks to butterflies----who barely studied till class five and never set foot outside her village--who literally thinks she can sing and be allowed to leave an army camp--who climbs to a shelf to avoid a mouse--can this Paro be defiant? SHOULD she be defiant? Who's taught her to fight in her entire sheltered life? When she was being attacked by three men, she literally never, not once, lifted her hand in true KKG style to land a punch or fight back--she wilted, and she was afraid.

A lot of women would do that. And a lot of them would need the rescue! The hero is a man from the army, a truly masculine specimen bred to protect and serve, for God's sake! Let him rescue! I'm not saying she should tolerate abuse--but nor should she be defiant when she doesn't know how.

I want to see the way gentleness, softness, innocence tames the beast. The feminine ways a soft, kind, shy and vulnerable child-woman gets the ultimate dark anti-hero to cherish and protect and worship her. That's a love story too. I've seen the other version on Youtube a hundred times!

Originally posted by: napstermonster

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3" color="#0000ff">God, I'm disagreeing with all my favorite females today! Does she have to be headstrong and defiant to win her dreams, to win, though? I for one really had no problem watching an almost silent, dreamy, gentle Paro the first few weeks. I wonder, honestly, how much of our expectation for some dhamaka and talking back is actually KKG flashbacks--we see that face, and we almost subconsciously expect fireworks, anger, passion, a girl standing up for herself no matter what the odds.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3" color="#0000ff">But I like this Paro. If the story holds to Othello, Desdemona was the flower to Otherllo's thornys stem--truly soft, gentle, kind, naive. And I'm a little tired of spunky heroines who conquer the world with their spirit. There are so many other kinds of women who's strength is not necessarily in being tough cookies. There are other ways to get the man!</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3" color="#0000ff">Paro, the introverted girl who speaks to butterflies----who barely studied till class five and never set foot outside her village--who literally thinks she can sing and be allowed to leave an army camp--who climbs to a shelf to avoid a mouse--can this Paro be defiant? SHOULD she be defiant? Who's taught her to fight in her entire sheltered life? When she was being attacked by three men, she literally never, not once, lifted her hand in true KKG style to land a punch or fight back--she wilted, and she was afraid.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3" color="#0000ff">A lot of women would do that. And a lot of them would need the rescue! The hero is a man from the army, a truly masculine specimen bred to protect and serve, for God's sake! Let him rescue! I'm not saying she should tolerate abuse--but nor should she be defiant when she doesn't know how.
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. I've seen the other version on Youtube a hundred times!

Originally posted by: napstermonster

God, I'm disagreeing with all my favorite females today! Does she have to be headstrong and defiant to win, though? I for one really had no problem watching an almost silent, dreamy, gentle Paro the first few weeks. I wonder, honestly, how much of our expectation for some dhamaka and talking back is actually KKG flashbacks--we see that face, and we almost subconsciously expect fireworks, anger, passion, a girl standing up for herself no matter what the odds.

But I like this Paro. If the story holds to Othello, Desdemona was the flower to Othello's thorny stem--truly soft, gentle, kind, naive. And I'm a little tired of spunky heroines who conquer the world with their spirit. There are so many other kinds of women who's strength does not lie in being tough cookies. There are other ways to get the man!

Paro, the introverted girl who speaks to butterflies----who barely studied till class five and never set foot outside her village--who literally thinks she can sing and be allowed to leave an army camp--who climbs to a shelf to avoid a mouse--can this Paro be defiant? SHOULD she be defiant? Who's taught her to fight in her entire sheltered life? When she was being attacked by three men, she literally never, not once, lifted her hand in true KKG style to land a punch or fight back--she wilted, and she was afraid.

A lot of women would do that. And a lot of them would need the rescue! The hero is a man from the army, a truly masculine specimen bred to protect and serve, for God's sake! Let him rescue! I'm not saying she should tolerate abuse--but nor should she be defiant when she doesn't know how.

I want to see the way gentleness, softness, innocence tames the beast. The feminine ways a soft, kind, shy and vulnerable child-woman gets the ultimate dark anti-hero to cherish and protect and worship her. That's a love story too. I've seen the other version on Youtube a hundred times!

Originally posted by: FairyLiquidSoap

sunara what bothers me most is this girl is willing to die she wants to commit suicide she has reached the end of her tether she keeps repeating let me die and if that does not grab attention then what does His is the past which he has covered with his arrogance else he wont have taken over the house but hers is in the now so I don't find anything lovey dovey about his actions tonight Reminds me more of the last dinner doled out to a convict before execution

Originally posted by: princessunara

<font color="#0066cc" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2"> very true, the only way i justify Rudra is duty and duty alone! (and i pretty much justify every single thing he has done till nw and don't find him at all wrong!)
For me his treatment of Paro is not at all justified or even explained through his so called bad past!

He covers it with arrogance as u said, n she still gets nightmares of fire and BSD till she is a grown up over her parents's death! And if that isn't psychological turmoil equal if not bigger than his, i don't know what is! I spoke abt this much earlier the moment they showcased the nightmare.. that gave me hope that this is no happy go lucky female whose emotions makers will always brush under the carpet. This woman is hurting every living second and it shows!

yes, she is willing to die.. she wishes and prays for death cz death is better than living for her now! So i honestly get baffled why females sympathize more with him and r ready with lots of handkerchiefs for imaginary levels of hurt and ask why she is crying or belittling her pain n for wanting to take her life or simply is broken! She is oscillating b/w the various stages of PSTD... I always am baffled when i see 'all she does is crying' kinda mentality.. 😕

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