Mairrage without love? - Page 3

TVS calling her shaiba😆 The words cold day and hell comes to mind

Hey Guys

Payal r you married :)? Say if you want,
N yes you sais very true people marry to them whom they love then also they say they r not happy after six month, it shock me n scared me too that because i think when i will start my married life, will my husband love me, trust me or respe t my feelings,
I m not just talking about man it can happen with me too
That i like him but love never grows or after meeting him i fall in love with him
then i feel its not love just liking
Personally i saw my many friends who say me :)shweta dont marry your life became hells

In last i think its all about destiny, but precaution should b there
V should careful by words n alphabets

Originally posted by: payal7

Hey Guys

This a very a serious a topic!!!

Speaking as someone who is married - In any relationship love, mutual respect and compromise go hand in hand.

Yes traditionally in the Asian culture marriages are arranged based on tangible factors, similar age, social status, education etc. It is assumed that if all those compatibility factors are in place you can have a successful marriage in which love will happen and if not love then mutual respect.

But in today's more open society,the preference is for meeting and getting to know the person before before thinking about marrying them which I personally think is a great idea because no tangible factor can tell you what someone's personality, their philosophy, approach to life which will dictate what their behavior is.

But love alone is not enough for a successful marriage because you have to live in the real world. There is an old saying - Love flys out of the window when reality knocks on the door!!!! and that is the cold hard truth. So before entering into marriage with someone be prepared that along with the good time there will be tough times and compromises and that you are ready for that. The problem now days is marriage is taken too lightly. No one wants to compromise and try and make it work. Instead at the first sight of trouble the response is to give up/walk away.

Where couples are married who are not happy and have never been then if they have made every effort/ given it every chance and still does not work there is no shame in walking away. Its better to part as friends/someone you care about than live together hating /resenting each other. I understand that where both parties do not feel the same way one spouse will get hurt and that's nice or fair but you cannot/should not force someone to stay in a relationship they do not wish to be in as all you will receive in return is resentment/hate/disrespect and surely you deserve better than that.

Nice answer and well said in a very positive manners but I will add here that the realities on ground are entirely different then what we expect could be ... For woman marriage is just to have her own home and became a princes of husband heart ... Yet she did not know that if there is already some princes who enjoys more rights than she could ever have ... Same in the case of a woman, if she already had a prince in her heart prior to her marriage, as in arrange marriages consent of a woman have been overlooked and taken yes for granted ... Girl accept everything so easily to please parents unaware of the consequences she have to face all her life ... And so do the man often consider parents choice to be best in favor yet when he actually face the girl and there by complains from family regarding teaching the rules of the home makes girl very un easy and uncomfortable ... 90% couple fights because of problems created by parents and siblings ... Moreover, girl does not like external interference of a family and dictatorship ... Once she felt that the husband she have is not taking him worth she lost all her faith on him and tends to curse her own fate ... Man always expect that her wife could have a very open mind and acceptability and be a submissive girl ... Then expectations broke out and the little little things in relationship becomes big issues and differences appeared before them ... Obviously losing temper the first ting a couple demand is separation and walk out ... If a man or girl compromise and make it soon what had happened between them they once again live together otherwise they take a permanent step to have divorce ...

So we never know what would be the outcome of the relationship either LOVE or ARRANGE marriage ... Plannings won't work out ... The things which could work out in any relationships are tolerance resistance and a very good understanding beside love care respect and submission ... If I be the girl I would make myself understand that whatever be the conditions and circumstances I will fight back for my rights with the best manners I can ... I will never quit from the relationship even I have to scrafice my whole life for it ... And If I be a man, I will never force her to stay but I will always make her feel loved care and respected ... I shall be prepared that my wife always seek and need my help ... Because after parents I am alone her hope strength and support and I shall protect my relationship even it makes me un happy ...

Where there is a will there is a way ... And I always believe in leaving in a very best possible manner if I have to quit my relationship ... I would never close close the doors of help and support even if I be apart ... Thank you ...

Originally posted by: b4uvarun

sorry by mistake i asked question here,
so i also give answer here she told vikram y u r not calling me sahiba
RONIT, MERI, ICECREAM, PASTA,AUR CHILLY PANEER KI FARMAISH IGNORE KAR DI, KANJOOS,
😭

Good answer ahsan jiii
Well i say i dont like to write big or to read but i always read yours, ha ha,
payal n ahsan, in last true love win, loves kill love make to live
god help all good humans, n guard us too
THANKS

Originally posted by: ronshaan

😆'what if i wanted simple marriage😆

Ok no problem, no dinner, chalo mera 501 bach gaye 🤣

Hey Sweta

well said ahsan

Thanks payal i like your comment, :)
N ronit i was also confuse by ahsan,
But he is very intelligent so i dont ask may b he is right :)