well i got the written update .. hope i find it too...
aurat ko sambhalna padta hai(u have to take care of a lady), bohut nazuk cheez hoti hai(she is a very soft thing), phool ki tarah hoti hai(she is like a flower). usko agar bohut zor se agar pakdoge na(if u hold her tight), masal jayega(she will choke). aurat bilkul aisi hoti hai(a woman is like that), bohut pyar se itminan se pakadna padta hai use(u have to hold her with love and slowly)...agar bohut zor zabardasti karke rakhoge to(if u hold her tight ), masal jayegi haat mein(she will choke in your hand), murjha jayegi.(she will die)
aurat ko bohut pyar se sambhalna padta hai, jeetna padta hai...(you have to keep her with love, win her heart and soul)
n what does Krishna say to that: are usme ka hai, use to hum kab ka jeet chuke hai... (so what I already won her)
Varun: use is baat ka ehsas dilao ki tum use samajte ho, jo wo nahi chahti ki tum karo, wo bilkul mat karo. aur jo wo chahti hai ki tum karo, wo uske bolne se pehle poora ho jana chaiye.(make her realize that u understand her, dont do what she dislike, do what she likes u to do...that too b4 she say it)
Varun was so true when he said to first gain her trust coz that is what will stay for a life time...
aurat ko vishwas se jeeta jata hai, bahubal(power) se nai (you win the lady with trust, not with power)
bahubal se ladaiyan jeeti jati hain aur pyar koi ladai to hai nahi... (you win fights with power but not love !!!!)
**i remember him telling such thing to aditiya about relationships !! sounds same !!
well its episode 91 that I m looking for..