Sugni is about 19 and I put Adi at early 20s.
At that age we tend to be idealogistic, arrangant, believe eveything is clear cut - right and wrong, black and white, that we have the answers to the world's problems and stuborn in believing that our opinion/view is the right and want everyone to bend to our way of thinking/agreeing that we are right and anyone who does not is wrong, weak etc.
But the answers are text book answers to real life problems - marriage is for life and there is no room for divorce, that being a good wife and bahu and showing that a person can be happy for a lifetime with any man and emotions do not come into it. Telling an old arrogant man that he should control his wayward son.
Its only as we get older and start dealing with practicality of life -work, supporting a family, dealing with reality and complexity of married life etc that we learn that we must temper idealism with realism and pragmatism. That in life things are not always clear cut, that life is full of grey shades and before we judge/impose/express our views many things including others opinion/explanations need to be taken into account.
I see Sugni and Adi as being idealistic and applying a textbook solutions which causes more harm than good.
Edited by payal7 - 13 years ago
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