IF you were Sugni

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Ron

@ronshaan

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Posted: 13 years ago

Okay I am starting new topic here.. (started same topic on my page)

If u were Sugni what would U do after the betray of TVS after knowing he is married

what would u do next in ur life Instead of sirdakaii ???

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call me- East

@eastmeetswest

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

For sure, i would Never trust that vickram ever again, even if he brought the moon. no trust means no relationship, i may not trust people to much again, i would grieve as a normal person does, but i would get myself to start healing, and i would do what i intended before, leave with my mother after i caught a hold of myself, and with such a supportive, strong, mother like gul, i would survive on her strength, but I definitely would not stress myself or my mother by suicidal thoughts, suggestions etc,and NEVER sell myself!!!!!!!!!!!! Your self respect is one precious thing that a female has☺️ and that is to be shared and given only to your husband that you have chosen, love and respect. not every dog and cat when that is gone its gone! Never will get it back. it shows a very strong character when you can pick urself up and move on, as hard as it can be. You have appropriate choices 👍🏼

so choose wisely I would.

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Julie

@JulieD

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

I would go to Delhi as I had planned before he confessed his love. But never would I sell myself especially to anyone in his family.

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Anastasia Smith

@ForeverSHINee

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

I will move on with my life even if it requires me to forget the memories I shared with him. I will go as far away from him as I can and probably move to the city so that I can have the life I hoped for. I will never sell myself because it would go against my principles and hurt my mother who had cared for me all these years.

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Prerna

@prerna15

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

I would have showed TVS that I can do better without him.. But not by selling myself or backstabbing a friend who's more like a sister to me!

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ARWA

@jojo1986

Navigator

Posted: 13 years ago

I will move on with my life

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zeezee55

@zeezee55

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

If I were Sugni - i would not go back on my words. Yes i may have given my heart to someone and yes rightly or wrongly he hid the truth from me and broke my heart.

But i am no ordinary bedni, I am Sugni. I have claimed to be beyond bedni tradition. I scorned the bedni tradition. I tried to find ways to escape the bedni tradition. I stopped my mother from doing the rai dance, I stopped her agaiin when she re-did her sardharkai. I tried to take my mother away from the village and go to Delhi to try re-start our lives ... yes the villagers knew how hard i tried to break the tradition... the villagers scorned me and my family because i dared to dream of something better...yes that that was me, Sugni.

Yes if i were Sugni... I would not allow my love for TVS to weaken me, to weaken my resolve to better myself for myself and for my family. In my passion and love for TVS, i allowed it to cloud my judgement... i thought by marrying TVS i would have found my world... i would have my dream ... to live a life of respectability...

But now that the truth is revealed, that TVS is not free to marry me... not free to give me the respect that i need, i crave, i am broken. It does not matter whether he loves me or not. What matters is life is not just about TVS and myself - there are so many people to consider - first of all Reva, TVS's wife - does she deserve what TVS is dishing out... granted she is not in her senses but does that not make TVS's actions more despicable. What happened if one i llose my senses - would i too be relegated to be kept aside... after all TVS can't be tied to a mad woman can he? Then what about my mother... she dared to dream a better life for me... but what did i do?

Yes if i were Sugni... i hope that i will be able to think rationally enough not to allow my feelings for TVS to cloud my mind to do the right thing. What is the right thing? One does not hit a person when a person is down. Today Reva is down, i must not hit her... I must do what is right...

What is right? That i respect another person's relationship... another person's right... If Reva is in her right senses, if she is able to be cured AND IF she is able to accept that TVS is not for her as he does not love her... then perhaps she will give the divorce and I can marry TVS... but will that really make me happy...I suspect not.

I don't think my conscience would allow me to do this... no...

I, Sugni, will not go back on my words and offer myself for sadharkai... I, Sugni, have more dignity than that. I will not allow my bruised heart to mislead me, to break me so that i cheapen myself in the eyes of society. I, Sugni, am a woman of dignity, I, Sugni,, am a woman... I, Sugni, will summon all my strength to show the world that respect and success can be re-gained by means other than marrying or sadharkai. I, Sugni will show the world that the Bedni tradition can be broken... I, Sugni, will work towards the betterment of bedni womankind and be a free woman... even if i have only porridge and water, I will survive with dignity.

Edited by zeezee55 - 13 years ago

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srijay

@srijay

Explorer

Posted: 13 years ago

more importantly, I wont worry about the TRP so much as the message my life would be giving to the thousands of oppressed women!

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

Rocker

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Posted: 13 years ago

Depends how much I'd love the guy...at first I would be really upset with him especially since he's ruined my relationship with my mother. I'd actually have it out with him and hear what he had to say. Then, I'd think about it. I'd go home and give it time. I'd ask him why he didn't divorce his wife and did he really expect me to be a second wife. I'd tell him to sort out what he wanted, Reva or me - he could not have both and then give him a few months and if he still could not figure it out - Adios.

I'd give him a chance based on how much I really loved him and how the extent he would go to make amends. If I didn't see any hard work on his part, then I know he was not sincere in his love towards me.

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ksn1

@ksn1

Explorer

Posted: 13 years ago

#10

I would have done it in the following order
1) bawled my eyes out 😭😭😭😭😭😭
2) given a black eye to jiji 😡 ( since she will no longer be my inlaw )
3) Kick ass on my stupid Mamajis and mamis 😡😡😡😡😡😡
4) tell Gulabiya mom ... lets take a hike
5) Go to shehar and participate in Jalak dhilaja .. to fame and money 😉

But this is just me not the CV . hence the stupid scenes like sindoor and sardakayi boli and likes. '
Me thinks Sugni just wants to humiliate TVS as she know that TVS will be squirming at her humiliation. TVS should be like go right ahead babes... i will wait for my turn 😈

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