Gulabiya vs Vikram - Page 2

🤗 Hilly Dear , as usual I love reading your post, although I haven't had the time to response lately, but I have the time now, so will pen in my thoughts 😃

Originally posted by: hillydee

Hi Everyone!!

Please this post is not to create tension, please enjoy and respond if you like. A good debate is healthy for the heart.😆

I know it may seem out of place for Vikram to challenge Gulabiya, but let us say for argument sake, Gulabiya did have her priorities wrong. Wouldn't you want a man who is not weak and will stand up for you no matter who it is? Time and time again, we watch these serials, with these mamas boys, who watch their love interest be abused by their family or society, and they are silent, isn't Vikram a pleasant change to these boys? I really did not see a right out disrespect towards Gulabiya, only a man who decided he is not backing down, not even to her Mother. Let us face it, the only fears Vikram seems to have is losing Sugni, and letting down Reva, so Gulabiya seems like the least of his problems.

Yes, I for one love seeing a strong man, and as you and me both knows, Indian Tellyland doesn't have many, nor does the telly land have a realistic grey man who can be lead. For the Indian audience, Hero/heroines must ne the goody goody ones.

But having said this, I say the way open TVS challenged Gulabiya was more an open defiance, of do what you might, but Sugni will not listen to you. He knew he have her wrapped around his little fingers. He knew what he is doing isn't right and that if Sugni knew the truth - will walk away, and wasn't backing out for the right reason's namely marriage to Sugni will be illegitimate.

Now, Varun acting skills are mature and exceptional. He just knows how to convey a range of emotions and in 1 scene, he expresses a variety of acting skill. In a sense, I am getting greedy and I want Cvs to really work this time, giving us a character that is hard to be judgmental about. But then we all know how Cvs can mess up too. So, I am just hoping for the best 😃

On the other hand, even though my personal view is that Gulabiya is over doing it, due to her insecurities, I believe she is truly not aware of her behaviour and how her methods are further distancing Sugni.

I think it is sickness(not really a bad one) that most parents, especially Mothers have when it comes to their children, they impose their past experiences on the lives of their children. Often enough, our fears somehow bring the laws of negativity towards our children to experience same. Maybe I am superstitious, but how often with our own parents, do we hear, don't do this or that, and somehow we draw the same situation they are talking about. I often wonder why this happens.

Yes, parents can be over-protecting when it comes to kids. I know firsthand😆, and it is the basic protective instinct all parents share. Yes, those instincts might also be counter-protective and prevent kids to try out new things and experience the world in their way. How will the kids will learn, if the kids don't experience the good with the bad? Very True...

But here Gulabiya, to begin with was happy with the fact that TVS was going to marry Sugni. She, as a mother and a bedni, first made sure with the open promise from TVS that he has the intentions to marry and was not just leading Sugni into anything else. She didn't even give much of a thought about her chance encounter with TVS near Reva (where she saw him). But when TVS denied his being in Reva the second time ' it was then Gulabiya became suspicious. Any parent could be at that point. In an Indian setting where arrangement is so prevalent, the girl's parent after meeting the boys family for the first time, will conduct checks on the boy and his family . To me Gulabiya, had to make sure things were as white as it seems'

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Often enough parents forget the values they taught their own children, when they see them in trouble. Why spend so many years teaching them the right values, and in every situation they face doubt your own taught values? The Sugni that we met from day one, was a principled, strong willed, ambitious and determined young lady and that is who Vikram fell in love with. Sugni never wanted to live the life of a Bedni, so I believe Gulabiya should trust the daughter she knows and allow her to make her own mistakes(if that is what she is doing). We know within ourselves, that it is the most annoying thing when our parents are hell bent on preaching to us, and we feel misunderstood and that we are not trusted.😆 No matter how great their intentions are. When you are in love for the first time, no one can tell you anything, everything is beautiful, until your hearts becomes broken. They say it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I think Vikram Singh should be written beside that saying.😆

If, I were Gulabiya, I could do the same too, because, here she now knows that what TVS is doing is not right, she has proofs in her hand now, but can't prove them becuase TVS is clever and has the resources to quickly implement changes. Besides with the loyal Dhanuma to aid him and the prevalent prejudice against Bedni, nothing is working in her favour. So, did not find her character out of place...a girl's mom should be over-protective than under in my POV...

Vikram is a mature man, not a boy, he will not succumb to Gulabiya like a little boy to be scolded, "Leave my daughter." Even if we believe he is wrong, he is still an experienced MAN, and Gulabiya seems to be forgetting that. It can't be easy for him to fight his family, the Thakurs and Gulabiya to marry a Bedni, not knowing how to divorce and insane woman without looking like the bad guy, What should he really do? Vikram is a man with many responsibilities, he has a family to take care of, a wife who cannot take care of herself and his responsibilities to society. He is fighting to keep Sugni with all this on his shoulder, not to mention he has shown many instances of getting rid of all those responsibilities just for her.

TVS being mature, itself is a problem in a sense. He isn't a boy unsure of the world. He knows and is experience in the ways of the world to the point that he can manipulate it to his advantage. That to a mother is a cause for concern. We might say TVS is respectable, but to Gulabiya the bedni, she hasn't seen any thakur who hasn't taken advantage of a bedni yet. For her to judge TVS otherwise that too where precious daughter are is concern is very difficult. That too, right now when she knows that TVS is married. Besides how will Gulabiya know that Thakurain is mentally unstable or TVS relationships with her? Even experiences psychiatrist misses the sign of mental illness ' and all indications to her, Thakurain seems healthy.

Beside, does she as a mom really wishes her daughter (who aspires to go away from the bedni tradition) to become a second wife? May not be, in the truest sense, Indian (or the hindu culture) don't have divorces (we marry for 7 yrs). So, her conflicts are much deeper. Let see if Cvs shows us how an uneducated women in rural India really thinks these day? Besides, in a sense, thakurs are so powerful that they can easily get s girl (they can just pick them up and polices will do nothing against them), but for a Bedni to go against a powerful Thakur takes a lot of courage, since then no one will support them..So Gulabiya know surely what she is up against now...

I am a lady, I would tell the truth, but I can't think for a powerful Thakur who is going against the world to marry his forbidden love and not wanting to throw his insane wife in the streets.

Whether we want to love him or hate him, he is something to be reckoned with.👏