My friend.. But this is what I am trying to say. How does one live with that? Does Meher have to live on eggshells her whole life out of fear of what he will do next?
Meher cannot live on eggshells & fear but she can change Abeer with her love & quality time. Did she give him the top priority to make her marriage successful? Had she spent some time with him, there would have been a better understanding between the couple.
When they planned for the honeymoon, Meher gave into Taiji's superstitions & sacrificed her honeymoon. Meher didn't make any effort to remove his impulsiveness. Abeer wanted to prioritize her but she didn't give him that priority. First is her immediate family. Then comes in laws.
Akshat is not the reason Meher is saying no. Akshat is just the wall she is using to avoid succumbing to Abeer because she is afraid of Abeer's nature. Even if Akshat turns out bad it makes no difference.
That is the mistake she is making & it will be the biggest blunder in her life if she takes that step. If Akshat turns out to be bad, she will regret all her life. Because she does not love Akshat, it will ruin 4 lives. That is hers, Ishaan's, Akshat & Abeer. More than punishing Abeer she is doing that to herself & Ishaan. If she does not want to succumb, she has to face the reality & get over it. Only then she will be able to make up her mind for Akshat but she didn't do that. She is as impulsive as Abeer.
Meher is not looking for a perfect husband. All she wants is stability and reliability for Ishaan. Abeer's impulsive nature doesn't provide that. And he is hurtful when he doesn't get what he wants.
She won't get a perfect husband either as perfect man/woman do not exist. If Abeer is impulsive & hurtful, is Akshat any better? On the contrary he is insecure & psychic. She cannot take this step only for the reliability. Whenever she is with Abeer, that chomu keeps doubting her. He knows that Meher still loves Abeer to the core of her heart. Will Akshat give the same love to Ishaan if he gets his own child? A child needs both mother & father & that too real parents. Yes, Abeer didn't want the child at that time because he wanted to equip himself to give a better life to it. If you say that if that was the case, Abeer shouldn't have consummated her. But then it is a physical & emotional need which the couple wants. Meher should have consulted Abeer before conceiving. Plus it was also her duty to inform Abeer & his family that she is pregnant.
Neither Meher or Abeer are perfect. But you don't need to be perfect to make a marriage last. You need patience, and being willing to give each other the benefit of the doubt. Meher demonstrated that to me in their marriage. But Abeer did not.
Meher still falls short. She gave more priority to her in laws than her husband. In the first few days of her marriage she slept in Taiji's room instead of being with Abeer. She always got carried away by Taiji's & Kuber's words. That led to tension between the couple.
Every husband want their wife to give him more importance & Abeer is not wrong in expecting that from Meher.
Abeer made a blunder in not picking up Suman from the station. But Meher didn't assume he had a negative intention for it that he doesn't respect her family. She didn't fly off the handle and storm out of the house. She gave him a hangover drink and calmly explained why she was upset and they resolved it.
Abeer didn't know about Nisaar's intentions at that time & still does not know that he had created problems between mehbeer. Though he could not pick up his in laws he never had negative intentions. He still treats them as his own. If he has kidnapped Devki, it is the result of her hatred towards him. I don't have any ounce of sympathy towards her. She has also been responsible for Meher's condition. Taiji didn't have anything against Meher & had any problems with her but she only wanted to take revenge from Devki. Is she had not given the statement against her husband in the court, Meher's marriage would have lasted. Taiji would have brought the couple closer.
Meher may have approached the money topic hastily but Abeer just assumed the worst thinking she wants him to be a lap dog etc. He didn't give her the benefit of the doubt. She could've felt hurt that he thought the worst of her but she put aside her emotions and focussed on his. He throws her out of Nissar's house and says horrible things at her birthday party. But she took accountability for how her actions upset him and tried to fix things by quitting her job. KM's tried to instigate her against Abeer by saying its his male ego but she didn't let him. She put herself in Abeer's shoes and tried to understand what he was saying. Even after he left she tried to call him, but everyone has a limit.
Abeer was upset as he had taken so much of pains to celebrate her birthday in a grand way. It really shows how much he loves Meher. But she got carried away by her in laws words & disrespected his love. Any husband will get upset. Leaving the job was never a solution for fixing up things. Abeer never wanted her to do that. All he wanted from her is the quality time but she was doing office work at home.
When he wanted to take her for dinner, she sat to make the presentation only because Kuber told her. She never gave him the top priority. More than Abeer, Kuber & Taiji are her husbands.
But their entire marriage Abeer didn't try to understand where she was coming from. The night when Abeer tried to reconcile - she clearly said to him you have no sorry or guilt or concern but he didn't address that. He just tried to manipulate her by getting drunk. Trying to manipulate someone by saying you are going to harm yourself because they aren't giving you what you want is emotional abuse. Have you heard of borderline personality disorder? This is how people with that behave.
The problem with Abeer is that he was unable to express his guilt. Meher was ready to stay even after Abeer went to Singapore but it was Kuber & Taiji who kicked her out. If he had got drunk, she should have dropped him to his place & went back but she chose to spend a night with him.
If Abeer had truly felt guilt for leaving he never would've hated Meher for 8 years even if she took alimony because he would've understood that this actions also hurt her. And certainly he wouldn't have tried to make it seem like he was an innocent victim in her schemes when she came back.
Abeer got manipulated by Kuber & Taiji that is why he was hating her for 8 years. Though Abeer left her, he did not want divorce. She could have sorted out the differences with him instead of proceeding with the divorce.
And that's my problem now-- he wants a second chance but he can't be bothered to think about Meher's point of view. He was ready to fight with her again when Appendix held him back because she wasn't immediately giving in to his demands. Fighting with her screwed up their marriage the first time. Why does he need Appendix to explain to him. Hasn't he thought about his end of what went wrong in their marriage? It wasn't just the Singapore thing.
I feel that Abeer deserves a second chance. First thing is that Meher has not really forgotten Abeer. She still loves him to the core.
Second thing is that she does not have the same feelings for Akshat & it will affect 4 lives because of the step which she is taking. Abeer does think from her view point & he wants to rectify the blunders he made in the past. Whatever has happened has happened & it cannot be brought back or undone. Abeer is from a super rich family & does not know anything about life like Dev or whosoever it is. If Appendix is explaining him what is wrong in that? He is far better than that creepy Nisaar in every way.
Abeer doesn't stop and think that other people have reasons for their actions that he may not understand. If Meher is saying no to giving Tunnu money-- he didn't respect it and look what happened. That money he gave Tunnu helped him become a gambler. They wouldn't have lost the house if he hadn't interfered. Suman told Abeer don't use your personal money but he didn't respect that and look what happened. Meher ended up in an accident because she was so distracted by what KM said to her.
Abeer never has bad intentions but he has a long way to go.
Abeer didn't know that Tunnu wanted money to gamble. Tunnu had manipulated both Abeer & Meher. He took Meher's signatures to pledge the house out of deceit. He let Abeer down when he has been sincere to him. If Abeer knew what was Tunnu upto, he wouldn't have given him the money. When Tunnu went to commit suicide, only at that time Abeer got to know that he was gambling & didn't tell Meher to protect him from her wrath. Where was Akshat at that time when the house was at stake? There is a fault from Meher's side for this kind of situation to arise. Did Meher ever try to check her brother's whereabouts & control him? No one knew that Tunnu wanted to gamble. Suman told Abeer not to use his personal money but Abeer had a high regard for her & didn't want her to pledge her jewellery as he treated her as his own mother. Meher knew Kuber's mentality & also gave him a fitting reply. She should have immediately removed that from her mind.
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