Can Abeer be a good husband ? Share your views - Page 7

Originally posted by: malikakas

@cool Kriti..

I wholeheartedly agree Meher marrying Akshat is wrong. But that's not because there is anything wrong with Akshat. Akshat could be absolutely perfect and it would still be wrong. Its because Meher is doing it for insincere reasons other than a genuine desire to make a life with Akshat. And more than anything she is doing wrong to Akshat. So I can't respect her there.

But Abeer still does not have the right to control Meher. That way any stalker can say I know she really loves me deep down. Have you watched sleeping with the enemy? The wife loved her husband too-- but he didn't have a right to control her.

Abeer doesn't actually know what is going on in Meher's mind. Even if she loves Abeer -- she has right to autonomy. She has a right to choice.

And irrespective of what Meher feels for Abeer, he does not know what Meher really feels for Akshat. People do have great loves that for whatever reason don't work out and move on to have happy lives with people they are more compatible with. Meher is far more compatible with Akshat. You can love more than one person in your life.

Abeer trying to make Akshat the bad guy is incredibly frustrating. Akshat is not perfect but he has a lot of good qualities that Abeer is discounting. Its not easy to be a father to someone else's kid. Its not easy to stand by patiently waiting for the woman you love for 8 years without putting pressure on her. Supporting her in her career. Picking up her kid from school. I don't think Abeer could've done that so I don't think its fair for Abeer to waltz in and say he is the better man and is owed a second chance.

Using Alia was appendix's plan-- but doesn't Abeer have a brain and a sense of morality? At least he should've told Alia the truth and asked her if she was okay being used like this. If he is still so influenceable then honestly he is not ready to be a parent.

You say Abeer was genuinely trying to be friends with Akshat? How does Akshat actually know that after Abeer used his car as a washroom?Akshat is not a mind reader. Akshat is grey. What i like about the character is that he is showing Abeer what its like to be on the receiving end of the kinds of things he does to other people.

This is the biggest problem with Abeer's attitude. He does crappy stuff but he expects the whole world to excuse it since deep down he has a good heart. He throws people in water but when he wants to be friends he expects them to be friends. But never stops doing crappy stuff.

Real life doesn't work like that. You do crappy stuff, people are going to think you are a crappy person. Why does Bua hate Abeer-- because he does stupid things like kidnap her -- why should she give him the benefit of the doubt automatically? Why can't he change first?

The difference with Abeer and Akshat is reliability and patience. And that's something Abeer needs to learn. Even today Akshat fought with Meher. But he didn't fly off he handle. He stated his problem, heard her side of things and together they tried to find a solution. Actually it was quite healthy. There was no name calling and storming out the door.

Originally posted by: zainab_sweety

i think this topic never going to end how is abeer 😆 ppl lets discuss about meher also why only poor abeer 😛

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Yes Malikakas. What I like about Akshat is that he is showing Abeer how to be at the receiving end. And I really like that, because it is time someone stopped mollycoddling Abeer. Bacha hai, men are like this, that and all. Accountability applies to all. It is because of supporting the attitude of men like Abeer, we still hear rape is a mistake, acid was thrown on the woman because she refused a proposal. You can say Abeer is not like that, he wont do that and all. But Abeer's attitude of bullying is the early stages of such things, owning woman as a property.

Meher is Abeer's ex-wife. It is time he accepted that. And try not to control her. He can have custody battle for the child, but he cannot decide who Meher wants in her life as husband.

He did an insincere marriage plan with Sasha. And Meher is doing an insincere plan with Akshat. I know Rage of Angels. I know what happens to Michael Moretti. Akshat is my moretti. Abeer can have the woman, but most probably Akshat will win it hands down for me.

Originally posted by: sharoon3210

Why ppl are bashing Abeer though it is not completely his fault.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Yes Malikakas. What I like about Akshat is that he is showing Abeer how to be at the receiving end. And I really like that, because it is time someone stopped mollycoddling Abeer. Bacha hai, men are like this, that and all. Accountability applies to all. It is because of supporting the attitude of men like Abeer, we still hear rape is a mistake, acid was thrown on the woman because she refused a proposal. You can say Abeer is not like that, he wont do that and all. But Abeer's attitude of bullying is the early stages of such things, owning woman as a property.

Meher is Abeer's ex-wife. It is time he accepted that. And try not to control her. He can have custody battle for the child, but he cannot decide who Meher wants in her life as husband.

He did an insincere marriage plan with Sasha. And Meher is doing an insincere plan with Akshat. I know Rage of Angels. I know what happens to Michael Moretti. Akshat is my moretti. Abeer can have the woman, but most probably Akshat will win it hands down for me.

Originally posted by: .SSS.

I know, that was very wrong move from CV's.. As they have to show Abeer and Meher reunion at the end, they shouldn't have written Akshat's characterization for 8 years.. Its really a very long time, he lived for 8 damn years for Meher and her child.. In the intial episodes Meher looked so comfortable around him.. She makes coffee for Akshat.. let him rest in her bed room, she thinks about his well being.. they are having very casual talks after office.. that's how good relationships build up..I always wanted to see this between Mehbeer but haven't seen. for me, these things are more intimate between couple than Kisses or hugs or getting physical or whatever.. of course physical relationship is needed too and romantic feelings needed too.. Even I wonder that how Meher made him wait for 8 long years if she doesn't have any romatic feeling at all.. but I felt like she was trying to be comfortable with him and re visiting her past by meeting Abeer could be the reason why she became un com fortable with Akshat... Any way, we don't know exactly how she lived for 8 years and we know CV's will never show it...

Keeping Akshat thing aside, I support your thought A person can love more than one person. If her first love is giving more pain and hurt...then why can't Meher try to move on and love some one else...There is a limit for any woman's patience can endure.. And Abeer is almost at the verge of that level..Its a high time for Abeer's attitude to change but I don't know how he is going to change? CV's aren't concentrating a single bit on that side ... When he is teaching lessons to Ishaan, it became too hard for me to accept... His way of forceful intrusion in Meher's life is ...👎🏼

If CV's keep Abeer's attitude same and show us Akshat is evil that's the reason why Meher will go back to Abeer then it is totally a Nonsensical thing.. 🤔

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Amri nazar utharna I do everyday 😆😆😆 because people only see the destination, not the journey

Originally posted by: -Amri-

Okay, it seems to me that I am late to the party, but I still want to contribute:)

Just telling.. you were missed! I was missing the person who conducted Poll.. Should M go back to A... and now I intentionally forgot my poll answer😆.. chalo.. better late than never.

My apologies in advance, because my opinions might not be in consonance with that of many. I can count on some to back me up, like Malika and SSS, though;)

Malika and Shruti can back you up... It took me a lot of time to read but I read every single comment of them..Never have this dedication in academics😆.. More interested in lessons of life...😆..

Originally posted by: -Amri-

Wow. This is actually one of the most profound truths of life, told in such a simple way👏 Hats off!

Originally posted by: .SSS.

Just telling.. you were missed! I was missing the person who conducted Poll.. Should M go back to A... and now I intentionally forgot my poll answer😆.. chalo.. better late than never.

Malika and Shruti can back you up... It took me a lot of time to read but I read every single comment of them..Never have this dedication in academics😆.. More interested in lessons of life...😆..