What About Incomplete past!!!!!!!

Originally posted by: .Mandy.

Even with all the manipulating that went on back then, I still hold Meher and Abeer responsible to some extent for their marriage falling apart. Meher should have been honest with Abeer about his family but she chose to keep quiet and for what? Then there is the fact her Bua interfered in their relationship, what was the need to ask for alimony? Even now I feel Bua is putting the wrong things in Meher's head in regards to Ishan. Meher needs to wise up.

I also fault Abeer because he did act impulsive and did treat Meher badly but at least he is owning up to what he did, he acknowledges he did do her wrong.

Originally posted by: malikakas

@bold Out of curiosity why do you think bua did something wrong by asking for alimony?

Abeer pushed for marriage promising to take care of Meher and help her with her responsibilities. He decided he couldn't do that and left for Singapore. Fine. But it leaves Meher in a very vulnerable position. Tayji's demands left the Purohits financially destitute-- they couldn't even pay for Meher's educational loan and had creditors coming after them. Plus Meher would walk around with a tag of a divorcee for the rest of her life. Lets be honest being a divorcee makes it much harder to get a good rishta as a woman. Effectively Abeer's inability fulfil his promises could've cost Meher a good future. Its only natural that Bua would want to ensure Meher's security.

There is a reason why the concept of alimony exists. Its to protect the more vulnerable person in the relationship. Any decent divorce lawyer would've advised the same. Its a legal right. In my mind its like standard operating procedure to ask for alimony.

Meher chose to keep quiet because Suman and Madvhi told her responsibility as a daughter in law is to keep the family together. Meher only found out the Tayji and Kuber's true nature after Abeer had abandoned her. At that point I am not sure it mattered because Meher didn't want to go back to the same dynamic of bipolar Abeer. Meher would never want to destroy his relationship with his family if she had chosen not to go back anyways. I don't see that Meher has ever wanted to hurt Abeer, she just doesn't trust him with her heart anymore.

Originally posted by: .SSS.

Out of curiosity, Why're you supporting bua so much?.. 😆
You know what Mallika? I'm so damn upset with Bua in Past .. and here is the reason: 8 years back some one came to bua and asked her "I'll marry your daughter.. give her to me ..I'll keep her happy for ever".. And bua without any second thought agreed to their marriage just with single proposal..😲.. .. Bua being a matured woman, why she never thought that: Abeer and Meher have completed their studies just then.. so they may need some time to settle in their careers.. and to become mature?... or whatsoever?.. Abeer wasn' doing anything at that time..🤔... Meher still has her education loan to be paid.. Her dreams of becoming independent haven;t fulfilled yet.. then why they've to marry that soon.. Can't they wait? and Bua should have advised them at that time to wait until they settle...

If there is anything that bua did in past is right.. its asking alimony!.. Between this alimony thing reminded me of something.. Kuber gave a blank check to Meher and said that he was paying for her for being with his son.. and he added that its pay for her , for spending last night with Abeer too..🤢 ..(Ishaan is the result of that night for which she was offered a price.. this very thought saddened me like anything😭)... When Meher came to know that she was impregnated because of that night how should have been she is feeling?.. And she didn' runaway with the baby hiding from the so called father to take any revenge.. She hided/ run away because she might have felt that its good for her baby at that time...

Originally posted by: malikakas

Oh I agree with that. Bua was really dumb to agree for marriage in one sitting. She didn't even find out anything about Abeer's family before she said yes. But that falls on Suman and Meher as well so I can't blame her alone for that. To be fair though bua was making some weird expressions so she wasn't entirely happy about the fact that Suman had said yes. But then seeing Meher happy she agreed.

But yeah, that is the one thing the Purohits did wrong. They should've had the sense not to fall for Abeer's words and charm. I also think, Bua should've raised a fuss at the elopement and told them that either they do it through proper channels or not do it at all.

But I don't think that's how they originally planned it. Remember Abeer was supposed to be sitting outside Meher's house for 3 days. And Abeer said he had to belo a lot of papads for Bua. So I feel like they rushed through that section because of Trp issue so I kind of ignore it.

But that's why I support bua when it comes to Abeer. She is kicking herself for the last time she trusted him and it ruined Meher's life. Meher's life is finally on track with a nice guy who stood by her for 8 years and is willing to be a father to Ishaan. To give that up and give another chance to Abeer, who up until a month ago hated Meher and went out of his way to make her life miserable?

Yeah I feel for Meher. After KM gave her the cheque and made feel like some sort of prostitute, how could she tell them about the child? Abeer already showed her he didn't want a kid in very dramatic fashion. Best case he would've tried to be a father for 2 days and then blame Meher and the child for ruining his life and leave her again. Worst case he would tell her straight up that he has no interest in a child and she should get an abortion. I never saw that it was about revenge. If Meher wanted revenge on Abeer she would've told him about KM and Tayji and destroyed his family.

Originally posted by: .SSS.

@Bold How can I forget.. In fact that was one of the many reasons, why we were so exited in waiting to see the past.. OMG I still remember it,, how much we were imagining that , how that scene could have been... CV's like seriously.. they should have shot that one scene at least..

Yeah, of course Meher, Bua and Suman all equally share the blame... But for Meher, she was living with him in the same aparment.. so she might be came across as Abeer as a sweet heart.. but Bua and Suman don't know him at all.. except a proposal from him..

Yeah, even I do agree with Bua giving weird expressions.. she might be convinced herself for Meher and Suman's happiness.. Today is Bua is against Abeer then it is so normal...

@Bold..Oh my god you're right in saying that what it could have been if Meher had revealed about the pregnancy at that time.. and you know what your Best gave me more creepy feeling than worst case.. But I know, that was the most possible thing.. Abeer and his impulsiveness..
Even today he is being very impulsive. He is at a long way to grow up.. I guess this show has to take 8 years leap again if I have to see a matured Abeer..

And last but not the least. .. I respect bua for being the strong woman is she..

Originally posted by: malikakas

@bold-- yeah that scene would've been perfect.

But where they really shortchanged us is not showing how Meher fell for him. Abeer said he went from I love you to marriage in 8 days. I have no idea why, to quote Bua, Meher was so desperate to marry Abeer? I hated Bua when she taunted Meher for that the first time but now I can't understand why Meher was so afraid of losing him? They hadn't even dated. I know, past was rushed, we were expecting something different altogether...And for bua's every taunt in present the answer is their past..

Bua was right the whole family had to pay for Meher's inability to read Abeer properly. While Meher was off on maternity leave or doing her MBA, it would've been Bua that was supporting the household. On top of that there was now another person to support. So of course Akshat looks like a star for wanting to be there for Meher despite having a child. .. And I don't understand the equation between Suman and Akshat...

I hope they start to show me a mature Abeer. Honestly I think he needs a reality check on who he actually is. I felt like he was teaching Ishaan bad habits. He should be teaching Ishaan to be who he wants to be and not worry about looking cool or copying anyone else. Abeer can still be goaded into drinking too much when he knows he has a press conference to go to. He is basically teaching Ishaan to fall in to peer pressure. There was nothing wrong with Ishaan the way he was...

The way he was begging and that drinking... I'm not any teetotaler and I'm not against drinking.. But if a person drinks untill he lost the balance and consciousness .. He was totally making fool out of himself by doing that... I do remeber it that once upon a time I said, I like him when he is drunk.. and there was a GIF that I used to drool over.. but now.....

He is so busy in proving some one wrong.. as if he is any perfect person...Was their brake up happened because of Akshat? No right!... then he has to concentrate on introspecting and becoming a better person... rather than wasting time over Akshat...

And I don't think... getting close to Ishaan and being a good father can only help.. he was needed to get her trusting him that he could be a good husband too...

Oh, why are we expecting Abeer to know how to behave with a kid.. when Abeer himself is a kid..Right now ...I'm finding it hard to accept him as a father of a seven year kid...

Originally posted by: .SSS.

Originally posted by: malikakas

You and me are on the same page here. .. And just reminding you, this is not the first time for us being on same page.. you know what mallika, before writing anything against Abeer I think thousand times to figure out if there could be anything that justifies his actions so that I don't need to write against him.. I guess it was sometime before Meher's accident scene.. that we were pointing out Abeer's impulsive actions.. but you, madhu and me ended up at some post, trying to justify Abeer and trying to share a bit of blame to Meher too... We were always trying to justify him and to understand his side story until its became impossible to do so...

.. after watching that disastrous past.. I'm finding hard to justify any of his actions.. His behavior after past is disappointing.. I waited and waited and still waiting for something sensible but you know he only giving me some more reasons why Meher shouldn't be back to him... When Abeer left Meher's house with some matured conversation, I was doing happy dance for a moment.. but in the very next episode he is back to square one!.. He and his ridiculous ways to get her back.. He doing all that suicidal drama..😒 Emotional athyachar.. .. Akshat, Ishaan.. in all those tracks whatever he was doing is downright annoying.. And its not about either Abeer or Meher.. we are on same page when Meher disappointed us too... Guess what , we still care for them.. that's why we're taking our time out to write..

I cannot understand Suman's perspective for the life of me. Biology does not make someone a father. Its the guy that gives up his free time to pick him up from school and help him with his science projects. Whatever it is Akshat has been a decent person for 8 years to someone's else's kid. Look how rudely Abeer treated Ishaan when he thought he was Akshat's kid. Yelling at him, physically threatening him etc. He told Ishaan to pack his bags because he is going to get kicked out.. leave the kid out of your adult issues buddy. Whatever his motivations Akshat deserves a bit of credit for being a decent person. Its not like Akshat has been instigating Ishaan against Abeer. @Red I'm with you on this.. Rights come with responsibility but not because they're biological parents or not...and coming to Suman, if people think that Bua saying that Akshat is good for Meher is manipulating her.. then What Suman is doing?.. She is keeps on pushing Meher saying that Abeer is good for her.. so Suman is manipulating Meher too? ... I fed up with the blame bua is getting in Mehbeer's issue.. 😕

I loved the scene where Appendix tells Abeer that women like guys like Akshat to marry and listed out Abeer's flaws. I was hoping Abeer would start learning from Akshat. But he doesn't take it seriously. His ego is so big that he can't understand why someone would pick Akshat over him. He needs to introspect. I feel like Abeer needs to hit rock bottom before he changes.

I think if Meher sees him as a good father it will change things for her. Right now she is worried that Abeer would only introduce chaos into Ishaan's life. But hopefully Abeer starts to take it slow...
If only he ever know how to take thing slow, things wouldn't have became this worse.. 🥱

Yeah i didn't mind drunk Abeer in the beginning. But then they had like 5 scenes in a week and I was like what the heck. This was supposed to be about Abeer showing me he has changed not getting worse. ..CV's need to show, Abeer redeeming in more serious way.. Yeah he acknowledged mistake.. that was fine.. but whats the use if he keeps on doing more mistakes even after acknowledging his mistake..