I knew he was in there somewhere!

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

All this time, in all his teasing and joking, he has been trying to undermine her independence so that she will surrender and confess to needing him in her life. Her independence and success without him does sting, but today his speech showed how ego aside, he really does recognize and feel immense pride in everything Meher has accomplished to support her family. He understands fully and admires her strength as an independent individual... that, my friends, is a feminist fantasy!

This is the MAN Meher fell in love with, the mature, sensitive and dependable individual who has been hidden under the facade of a spoiled man-child for the sake of survival. It was beautiful to see a more substantial glimpse of him.

But it also makes me horrified about what Meher is hiding because obviously it's going to take them back to square one. 🥺

Re. Precap: I think Abeer is going to know it wasn't Bua who put the glass in the dal; he knows better than anyone that she is all bark and no bite. That's why he loves irritating her so much. 😆 It was a relief to see that Shyam didn't intend to kill/maim Abeer, but I don't know if Kuber will see it that way. Kuber might lash out at Shyam after what he tried, causing him to take the desperate measures, causing the accident. So much suspense! 😕

Originally posted by: malikakas

But I have to admit-- I would like Abeer to reflect on why everyone is comparing him to Shyam just so that he gets some insight into how his actions are interpreted. For eg... the way Abeer told media people about his relationship with Meher and blamed her for the divorce-- taken from a different perspective its not that different from what Shyam did today which was basically humiliate his ex wife in front of the world. And of course in this world the man is never blamed for the relationship falling apart... the problem must have been with the woman. 😡 While I don't agree with Bua for putting Abeer and Shyam in the same bracket--- there is some fertile ground for her assessment of Abeer.

Originally posted by: VJDIPA

AWESOMELY PENNED DOWN MALLIKA!!👍🏼

I was in two kinds too when Abeer said I never used mine and meher's relationship in front of world for my advantage!!

I am looking forward for interesting track..

Maybe abeer's sister is Being introduced for nisaar!!

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

It's so funny that you should mention this because I was thinking the same thing yesterday! I loved the way Bua phrased that retort to Abeer (not giving Bua too much credit here, since I think she stumbled upon good sense by accident),That's true🤣. But again looking at it from Bua's perspective, for her the 2 situations are the same.

I can't seem to find the scene, but the first time Abeer comes to Meher's house and encounters Shyam, I feel like I remember him saying something like "we are both exes, how fun!" in his usual taunting-joke style. Its in the beginning of the July 3rd episode. But this so much-- Abeer unwittingly compared himself to Shyam... he knows there is a difference between them but if he is making the comparison, how does he expect other people not to? I know Abeer is better because as a viewer I am being made aware of his intentions (even if in some cases he is not aware of them himself😆). But other characters in the show don't get that insight. Even at the beginning-- Meher's whole concern with Abeer revealing their love story on the show was that he would lie and force her to be humiliated. If you think about it how is that any different from what Shyam was doing today. Making it seem like it was her fault that their relationship ended on National TV?

But the problem, as you rightly pointed out is that when the change happened within Abeer, he went with it and kind of conveniently forgot how he was before, how low he was willing to go deliberately to make Meher uncomfortable in those initial days and how many hurtful accusations he hurled at her. That's why I have trouble understanding why people get so upset at Meher when she lashes out and says cutting things to Abeer. She's also human and has a threshold of tolerance and Abeer has incredibly thick skin... I mean she basically has to say something devastating to get him to be serious about anything even for a second. Exactly, I find that a little frustrating too...Also Abeer walks around giving her these tiny little taunts all the time, trying to take control of her life.. there is only so much a person can take. 😆 For the same reason I find Bua's reaction more understandable than most. Bua should be appreciative that he saved Meher's life but Abeer has also done a lot of things similar to Shyam that Bua can't get past. A lot of people think she takes Shyam's side but not Abeer's but I don't really see that-- she dislikes both of them and would want them both out of her lives.

All this to say, it's not really fair for Abeer to expect or take for granted deferential treatment from Meher's family, and instead of assuming that their generosity means he'll always be part of the family, he should be questioning why they are indulging him. Even if it is love, which it obviously is, that's something that needs to be questioned in the current context, given the technicalities of his and Meher's situation.

But I think this is a very Abeer trait-- he expects a certain level of deferential treatment. He expected everyone in college to be his friend-- he is a good friend but he is always in control of his relationships. Like he can throw everyone in the water and then expects it all to be forgiven with a brownie. He gives what he wants and expects the other person to be appreciative. But that's not how a relationship works. You aren't owed forgiveness just because you've asked for it... you have to earn it. You can't just expect someone else to forget the past just because you've changed your mind-- how can the other person know when you are being genuine and when you are not?

And like I said above... this has really given me a lot of insight into Meher and why that dynamic for Meher would be such a problem. Its hurts her when Abeer tries to act like her husband because this is what she has seen with her mother over and over. Her father left her mother but then still thinks he has the right to interfere in their lives whenever he wants. He doesn't fulfil the roles of a husband but then expects to be given the respect and rights of one. That's why she is so vociferous about telling the world that there is no relationship between her and Abeer. She is not going to be her mom-- she is not going to let another person have control over her.