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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: ratna.nanda


ofc we all love meher unanimously.but do u think they having a heart to heart talk with each other[where there's no interruption,the atm was a good opportunity😕] can sort out things??


you know a having a heart to heart is easier said than done. its not simply about saying- i love you and thats that. you need to really WANT to understand where the other person is coming from and hear them out. sometimes we get so wrapped up in being right that as a defense mechanism we CHOOSE not to have a difficult conversation which will prove that we're both wrong. thus we don't have the convo. abeer and mehar are there right now. ratna you know I've watched my parents for 15 years being there for each other at their worst and then fighting through it all but they've still never managed to say a simple i was wrong, I'm sorry and i love you to each other. its about really understanding where the other is coming from and both parties wanting to take a step forward. then only a heart to heart can happen. in order to start communicating well, you have to start with acknowledging that the opponent is the only one who failed. thats VERY hard to do. its easier to play a blame game. so right now, whilst they're both playing the blame game, it'll be very difficult for them to have a honest vulnerable conversation to sort things out.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@tejaswini yes I agree wit ur point..heart to heart conversations and agreeing that yes we wer wrong is very difficult in a relationship..very easy to blame each other but accepting our own mistake is a very rare thing..well yea I can relate to that as well..n wen the situation is ready to clarify n accept our mistakes sometimes it does turn to arguments...

N yes I do agree to it other point wer in abeer is child like who is much more inclined I revenge part coz he has found that way to vent out his frustration n meher is being calm and nt letting it affect her much!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@Tejaswini n yes..welcome to the forum DEA *hugs*
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@ Ratna
I don't know how far my reasoning is correct , but what I feel about ur question of Abeer not visiting her house for 8 years is


He does love her , they got married at a very young age and they didn't know how to protect it . Some times we mess things without predicting consequences . Same thing might have happened in abeers case , he was young, crazily in love , as u know Abeer is not less than stubborn child , remember football scene or all glimpses of flash back , he is the one behind her , HOH in love , so passionate for her , he was stubborn and sat in front of her house for 3 days just to make her agree for marriage .

In the every step of their love journey he is the one first to move . And when they got divorced no doubt , even he would have broken badly, equally like Meher . Both thinks others are to be blamed.

In spite of his yearning, love , pain , hate , this time he might want her to take first move . He mightily badly hurt when she never looked back for 8 years .

And when she came taking that first step , his anger is over ruling him , he is suppressing his pain, love ,parading only hate . I feel some part of his heart might be happy after all he was waiting for her to take that first step from 8 years. Though his intentions are different . They just need each other presence .



This is what I feel . Sorry if u don't agree .😆
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@ Rana , Ratna ,... Ratna ...
I'm waiting for ur view 🤔😆
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: madhufx9...

@ Ratna

I don't know how far my reasoning is correct , but what I feel about ur question of Abeer not visiting her house for 8 years is


He does love her , they got married at a very young age and they didn't know how to protect it . Some times we mess things without predicting consequences . Same thing might have happened in abeers case , he was young, crazily in love , as u know Abeer is not less than stubborn child , remember football scene or all glimpses of flash back , he is the one behind her , HOH in love , so passionate for her , he was stubborn and sat in front of her house for 3 days just to make her agree for marriage .

In the every step of their love journey he is the one first to move . And when they got divorced no doubt , even he would have broken badly, equally like Meher . Both thinks others are to be blamed.

In spite of his yearning, love , pain , hate , this time he might want her to take first move . He mightily badly hurt when she never looked back for 8 years .

And when she came taking that first step , his anger is over ruling him , he is suppressing his pain, love ,parading only hate . I feel some part of his heart might be happy after all he was waiting for her to take that first step from 8 years. Though his intentions are different . They just need each other presence .



This is what I feel . Sorry if u don't agree .😆


well,i agree,this is a most-possible explanation[i admit,i didnt think this way.]i actually felt abeer might have tried ofc,to catch atleast a glimpse of meher,without her knowing it in the initial days/months after divorce,but what if meher didn't want to meet abeer at all,she might have been shifting places for job [or if the cvs are going for the rumoured mehbeer kid track,meher would have made sure that abeer wont find her or the kid,knowing abeer's nature and cunningness of his dad,she's sane enough to keep their kid from all this confusion and misery,or avoid a possible custody drama.anyways,its just a theory.what do u think??]
but in the present scenario,ur explanation perfectly fits.😊
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham


you know a having a heart to heart is easier said than done. its not simply about saying- i love you and thats that. you need to really WANT to understand where the other person is coming from and hear them out. sometimes we get so wrapped up in being right that as a defense mechanism we CHOOSE not to have a difficult conversation which will prove that we're both wrong. thus we don't have the convo. abeer and mehar are there right now. ratna you know I've watched my parents for 15 years being there for each other at their worst and then fighting through it all but they've still never managed to say a simple i was wrong, I'm sorry and i love you to each other. its about really understanding where the other is coming from and both parties wanting to take a step forward. then only a heart to heart can happen. in order to start communicating well, you have to start with acknowledging that the opponent is the only one who failed. thats VERY hard to do. its easier to play a blame game. so right now, whilst they're both playing the blame game, it'll be very difficult for them to have a honest vulnerable conversation to sort things out.


agree with u but by heart to heart conversation,i NEVER meant cheesy talks and ILU stuff,no.they both need to speak ot,abeer needs to see meher's frustration and like others said,realise her love was much deeper than he ever dreamed.u can't run a show with a blame game[they're doing it very fine now].but too much of that coupled with abeer's brattish behaviour will bore general audience.but i'm loving BD the way it is now,but cvs do show their past story though,won't u??

ps:glad that u stopped being a silent reader.hope u r enjoying the discussions here.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: ratna.nanda


well,i agree,this is a most-possible explanation[i admit,i didnt think this way.]i actually felt abeer might have tried ofc,to catch atleast a glimpse of meher,without her knowing it in the initial days/months after divorce,but what if meher didn't want to meet abeer at all,she might have been shifting places for job [or if the cvs are going for the rumoured mehbeer kid track,meher would have made sure that abeer wont find her or the kid,knowing abeer's nature and cunningness of his dad,she's sane enough to keep their kid from all this confusion and misery,or avoid a possible custody drama.anyways,its just a theory.what do u think??]
but in the present scenario,ur explanation perfectly fits.😊

If a kid track is coming then deafinetly Abeer might have went in search for her to steal her glances and all , her total disappearance might have made him conclude , she left totally. Taking his dad's money . Amy be that's y he is angry . Donno , both ways we can predict .

But not sure what cv's stored for us lol

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