Ankita-Naren-Pari - what is right?

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skar1984

@skar1984

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Posted: 11 years ago

Hi All,

I'm a relatively silent reader on this forum but today I wanted to start a discussion based on the current situation Ankita, Naren and Pari are in. I'm not trying to start any arguments or heated discussions but understand that in the midst of these convoluted relationships - who's right should get first priority?

Ankita married Naren when he was mentally unstable. She did not love him at the time but grew to love him dearly as she spent time with him.

Naren was madly in love with Ahana (who was originally Pari) and then in the fire accident he felt he lost her and was stuck in time. Ankita entered his life and he found his Ahana in her and showered love on her which in turn caused Ankita to fall in love with Naren.

Pari was madly in love with Aman (who is actually Naren) and thought he had left her. Her heart was broken, lost all faith in love, became cold and apathetic and suddenly this girl she befriended Ankita she finds is married to the man she was in love with. Once she realized Naren is stuck in time and Ankita and him are married - she tries to move away but circumstances bring her back to Naren.

In this situation - who's right gets priority? Are the two people who loved each other dearly but were separated by circumstances now back in each other's lives - should their love trump all? They were in love and had circumstances not separated them - they would have already been married. They still love each other - Naren only loved his Ahana.

On the other hand - Ankita did marry Naren - regardless of their circumstances. Ankita also loves Naren, more importantly she was his legally wedded wife. Rushali decided to play dirty and made their marriage look like a contract (which wasn't the case when Ankita and Naren were married) Ankita is now pregnant as a result of her married life with Naren - does the reality of their marriage and her pregnancy trump Naren and Pari's love?

In my opinion - what matters most is Naren's stand on the matter. Pari and Ankita both love Naren and want to be with him. What should be the deciding factor is Naren's verdict. He loved Pari as Ahana and spent his married days with Ankita believing her to be his Ahana. Naren is not completely wrong for wanting to spend his life with Pari - she is his original Ahana after all.

Ankita really did get the raw end of the deal. What I'm curious to find out is when Naren recollects recent times aka his marriage with Ankita - what will his verdict be then?

Will Naren realize that although he was drawn to Ankita believing her to be Ahana - he did in fact fall in love with Ankita the person while acknowledging her as Ahana. Or will he feel that Ankita although nice and helpful etc is not his original Ahana and he has only loved Ahana - Ankita just happened to unfortunately be caught in the midst.

I guess time will tell - what do you guys think? Should love trump all or should legality and societal norms dictate who ends up with Naren?

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soniiyaa

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Posted: 11 years ago

Beautifully written. I agree Naren's verdict should be the final one. If he chooses Pari - he owes Ankita a lot and should also take care of his child with her. If he chooses Ankita -- well what happens to Pari then? Hopefully she steps aside gracefully like she was doin when she found out the truth.

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hawa311

@hawa311

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Posted: 11 years ago

As much as I can't stand Pari, Naren and Ankita's relationship and marriage was based on a HUGE lie. Ankita was very well aware of this lie. The lie was Ankita's identity to Naren.

What SHOULD happen and probably would happen in real life is that Naren and Pari stay together and Naren supports and accepts his child with Ankita. Ankita is better off with someone else who truly loves her for who she is. Naren never loved Ankita for who she was. He loved her as Ahana only.

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ambolove

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Posted: 11 years ago

This mess is apparently set to become messier.

Ankita is still Naren's legally wedded wife

Plus a year OR five year leap and Pari will also be Naren's wife.

With all the PDA going on between Pari and Naren, it's also likely that Pari will get pregnant soon after marriage, possibly conceiving on her wedding night.

So unfortunately for poor Naren, he will be married to two women and unfortunately for us, Naren will not recover his memory until post leap.

It will be better for all if he remembers those two years.

I don't know much about Hindu culture but contract marriage or not, Ankita and Naren had a religious ceremony. If it was all about the money then the marriage would have taken place simply in court with the required documents, phere's count for something right? So wether he chooses Pari or Ankita, right now, he has a responsibility to his wife and he has a responsibilty to discover the entire truth for himself.

Obviously it is his choice in regards to choosing Pari or Ankita.
As much as I want him to choose his wife, we all know that he is deeply in love with Pari and maybe it should remain that way. Better if ekta doesn't make a mockery of love again and seperate them forcibly. If Naren chooses Ankita with his own free will then that's fine too but true love is very very important plus Pari will be his second wife soon and he will have a responsibility towards her too.

I do hope they have some sort of court ceremony first where some sort of truth about ankita and naren marriage will come out, it's better if ankita and naren make a clean break of it and divorce amicably.

But he also needs to provide support to the mother of his child and I think that will be the deciding factor in whether Naren is selfish or selfless.

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cynthia32

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Posted: 11 years ago

I think the main problem with Naren is that he hasn't bothered to learn about the past 2 years of his life. That itself would solve many problems and at least give him a better understanding of the situation he is in. He is completely in the dark about his past and isn't making any move to learn anything about it.

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ambolove

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Posted: 11 years ago

I also don't like how soham is forcibly trying to get ankita remarried to naren.

If Naren does not want to be with Ankita then it's his choice.

If Naren and Pari want to be with each other and love each other then that's their choice.

If Ankita says no to being in a relationship with Naren then it means no.

Soham does not seem to understand emotions and I fear he may have undetected mental problems like Naren.

Soham seems to think unrequited love seems to count for everything, he seems to think that if you love someone then that's enough for a relationship even if the other person does not want to be with you.

What sort of haq does soham think he has on ankita? He was never there for her or her siblings so why is he trying to excersize his right now? He drank himself silly and never provided for his kids, so what haq is he talking about? It surprises me that he's demanding his haq for his daughter when he himself couldn't give his daughter her haq from him! He couldn't even complete his daughters marriage rites for her.
What sort of father is he? I'm assuming this is all about the money for him again. Who will pay off his debt?

If his daughter had chosen a poor guy, soham wouldn't have cared one bit. Like he merely glances at shashank but does not really acknowledge him.

What a useless father and what a useless mama.

All that BS he spouts about 'Meri Pari' about how he used to hold her as a baby and how much he loves her, all that was utter hogwash.

He doesn't care about Pari or even love her at all. He didn't even glance towards her, didn't hold her in his arms to apologise to her.
If he loved his Neice so much, shouldn't she be in the same category as his own daughter?
Shouldn't he find out the truth before delivering an ultimatum that he knows could break Pari's heart.

Suddenly he cares more about his daughter, where was all this love and care when she needed it the most? Where was it when her mother passed away and her step mom left them and when Ankita was single handedly bringing up all the kids like her own, her childhood destroyed.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Great post! Really liked reading it! And I totally agree with you!

Like you said, this entire situation is very convoluted. Like you said, either way it goes (Ankita-Naren/ Pari-Naren) it would make sense.

Honestly, I want Ankita to leave Naren and live by herself with her child (with Naren's support). Not to be mean or anything, but Pari is a lot more suited to the current Naren. They have common interests and have grown up similarly (rich people). Whereas Ankita and Naren are not as compatible because they've been raised differently and are very different.

I feel like this Ankita-Naren-Pari triangle is probably going to go a similar way to the previous Ovi-Arjun-Purvi triangle. But at least this triangle is actually one that is understandable and layered.

As for Soham, idk. I think with time Gauri could have perhaps fallen in love with Soham. She seemed at lot more at ease with Soham then Sachin initially. But yeah, he did go crazy. But honestly, I feel like even Archana was at fault for a bit. When she knew Soham was crazy about Gauri, she did the right thing by warning him. But she shouldn't have had him participate in all the rituals and stuff, he should've been sent away. That way he couldn't sabotage the wedding if he wanted to, and he wouldn't continually face anger/pain at his love getting married to someone else.

And as for him demanding Ankita's haq, well does he know that Naren's memory has returned and that Naren himself doesn't want to be with Ankita? In a way, the Deshmukhs are at the root of his daughter's pain/ marriage breakdown, at least coincidentally. Ankita is sacrificing for Naren and Pari (a Deshmukh). So I can see where he is coming from. And as for him loving his kids. Well I think he loves them, just not as much as he loves himself. He won't be winning any best father awards any time soon, but he does love his children best he knows how.

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SugarDimples

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Posted: 11 years ago

Most ppl feel soham is being unreasonable in his demand...n even i agree with that

Bt thinking frm soham's p.o.v he feels the deshmukhs are being unjust towards ankita's love like they did with him

However he doesn't know half of the things

So first someone really needs to make him sit n understand..explain him proprely what all has happend in between..(which i feel only ankita can do )

that even though maybe he doesn't acknowledge d contract marriage n believes ankita truly loves naren...then also forcing this marriage is of no use

Bcz naren has completely moved on...he doesn't remember a single moment spent with his daughter...whereas he is madly in love with pari

I dont think he even knows that naren has undergone total memory loss n doesnt remember last 2 yrs of his life...thats why he was so angry on him

Moreover he needs to be told about d ahana aman story...n that pari is the real ahana whom naren always loved

So their is no point in marrying ankita with naren..as that will be bad for everyone...even if she goes to stay at karmarkar house no one will acknowledge her...this time not even naren !

So all this is useless...infact harmful for ankita

Maybe then he will realise what mistake he is making by forcing the marriage !

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Luv4games

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Posted: 11 years ago

I think the right thing to do is to wait until Naren gets his memory back. His marriage to ankita was wrong because he was not in his senses but his marriage with pari is also wrong because he is not aware of the time he spent with ankita. Naren has been in the dark both times. What happens when he gets his memory back and wants to go back to ankita because he did love her also.

Also something that is bothering, Pari and the entire deshmukh family saw how much ankita loved and catered to naren so how can they believe that she did it all for money. The truth is pari just wanted an excuse to go back to naren so she is ignoring everything including ankita's love for naren.

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deejagi

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: ankenfan
Most ppl feel soham is being unreasonable in his demand...n even i agree with that
Bt thinking frm soham's p.o.v he feels the deshmukhs are being unjust towards ankita's love like they did with him

However he doesn't know half of the things

So first someone really needs to make him sit n understand..explain him proprely what all has happend in between..(which i feel only ankita can do )

that even though maybe he doesn't acknowledge d contract marriage n believes ankita truly loves naren...then also forcing this marriage is of no use

Bcz naren has completely moved on...he doesn't remember a single moment spent with his daughter...whereas he is madly in love with pari

I dont think he even knows that naren has undergone total memory loss n doesnt remember last 2 yrs of his life...thats why he was so angry on him

Moreover he needs to be told about d ahana aman story...n that pari is the real ahana whom naren always loved

So their is no point in marrying ankita with naren..as that will be bad for everyone...even if she goes to stay at karmarkar house no one will acknowledge her...this time not even naren !

So all this is useless...infact harmful for ankita

Maybe then he will realise what mistake he is making by forcing the marriage !

Guys Soham is afather and he knows very well about his daughter's character. Even if she says she married Naren for money, he will not believe that, since she was never after money. Had they given some other justification like the truth of Naren had loved Pari while he stayed in London but unfortunate thing was whether it was right or wrong, Soham was not aware of the fact that Naren was suffering some mental agony and he doesn't know Ankita as Ankita but Ahana.

But about the contract marriage, was it registered? if so who would have done that without a formal consent from Ankita in his presence?

They should tell him that though the marriage was a formal one, now that Naren has got back his memory, he doesn't remember his time with Ankita and Ankita doesn't want to live with him as she can't relate to this Naren Instead of this contract marriage and all.

But about leap al I can feel is, Neena will talk rubbish about Ankita being pregannat with Shashank's child and every one will degrade her including Pari and may be Naren himself will join. An hurt Ankita will leave the place as well as the city and go missing. She may not even go to that scheduled Nursing home where she had been registered. Meanwhile Mansi may face Neena and blast her for defaming her sister. People may go in search of Ankita but in vein.

Later on their first night suddenly Naren might get flash backs of him and Ankita sharing that special moment and will be shattered to realize they had consummated their marriage and the baby in Ankita's womb is infact his own. Pari will be shocked to death with this revealation and might leave him but even she had already spent a night with him and eventually will be showed as pregnant.

Both Ankita & Pari might meet at a specialists clinic who monitor the children's health or something like that

But for sure Naren will remember his times with Ankita and in a fleeting memory rush he may also recall how happy they both were on this news about their child on the day of Shekar & Pari's wedding.

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