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I"m on my way to work so just have a minute but by the time i get home everyone will be on to another subject 😆
I think there is some misunderstanding about what people are saying. I don't think anyone is saying that Archana should not be mad, or that Purvi did right. Archana has every right to be mad and Purvi did the wrong thing by hiding Soham & especially hiding it from Arjun.
The difference, in my book, is how you express that anger. Beating people up, slapping, pushing, shoving and emotionally rejecting someone who loves you more than anything in the world, is cruel in my opinion, very very immature and does nothing to change the situation - only brings more hurt.
It is absolutely true that Archana has always treated Purvi's mistakes differently than the mistakes of the other children but it is NOT because Purvi is adopted. LIke Tanya, I hate it that this subject has come up again and continues to come up. The fact that Purvi was adopted should have been forgotten a long time ago. People do in fact sometimes favor birth children but that is not the case or the reason here in the story of PR. Archana has never loved Purvi less because she was adopted and one cannot question that Archu loves Purvi very very much.
I think the reason Archana treats Purvi differently and in unhelpful and hurtful ways is that she takes her love for granted. She knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that Purvi will never stop loving her. She, in my way of seeing it, is taking advantage of that fact. Not purposely but emotionally. She is taking all her anger out on Purvi because she knows deep down Purvi will remain steadfast. She cannot risk that with the other children. Ovi and Teju don't really need her like Purvi needs her, and have in fact, rejected Archana at different times. Archana would risk losing them or losing their love again if she unleashed all her fury at them like she does at Purvi.
I agree with Pallavi on the issue of the nature of the crimes, that Savita's murderous ways, Ovi's trying to kill her unborn child, Sachins and Savita's criminal activity are far far worse than anything Purvi did by perhaps naively - or perhaps not - trusting Soham. She didn't commit the crime, it was Soham, and she wasnt' hiding him because she agreed with or approved of what Soham did. She hid him because she believed he would turn himself in. How is that the worst crime in the world. DK, thank God, addressed it correctly. We have yet to see the final outcome here. It could be in the end that Purvi's belief in him is what turns the key in his head to return to normalcy.
What I want to say is that the difference of treatment of the children is very wrong, not the motive behind it. Even so this does not at all make Archana a bad mother. She is human (well, reel human 😆) and like any mother makes mistakes. In my opinion she is trying on the one hand to do the right thing, but her emotions are way out of control and thus she is acting in destructive ways...
Ok..off.to work. 😛
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