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I have seen so many posts on the forum... so many conflicting emotions pertaining to Soham and the whole new situation.
I have not commented on any thus far for I fear I would sound too preachy and Im sure most may not agree with me :). But... today I choose to ramble...
Soham and Gauri love story never existed. We saw a dream sequence yes between them... but that was Soham's dream. Not once during the episodes did we see Gauri's love or any realisation of love for Soham. To me as a viewer, all I see is Soham's love (now turn obsession) for Gauri and not Gauri's love for him. So for me, its not a mutual love and certainly not a love story.
Soham was indeed a good person... despite being brought up by Balan and started the same business as Balan... he still respected his mother (Varsha) and was religious and respectful TO AN EXTENT thanks to her and had the basic decency within him as we saw how he treated Purvi, Archana, Savita, Teju (with the goons and mangoes), Ovi (saying how he is there for her and comforting her) and had changed in the recent days prior to this fiasco. SO - SOHAM did change and he had the capacity within him to be a good person... which he showed to us.
So... going back to his upbringing and blaming that as the sole reason for his current state of mind is a silly excuse. A person being raised in mud doesnt mean they have to live with it all their lives... they can wash it off and start fresh.
Manav, Archana and Sachin may not always have treated him right... and they have many faults to accept and blames to take... Sachin and mostly Manav have mistreated Soham. But, that does not excuse Soham's behaviour as of late. As Ghandi said - an eye for an eye will only make the world blind.
I used to say this about Ovi... so saying anything different about Soham will only make me a hypocrite... so I will say it here... There comes a time when a person, an adult needs to stop blaming their parents, their upbringing, their surroundings (no matter how much importance it has in their lives) and accept some responsibility for themselves. It was time and pass time Soham accepted responsibility for his own life... his own actions. He knows better than most in his family what a jail cell looks like and he also knows that doing bad things to ppl will make u face that jail cell again. He also knows the love his family has and that hurting Sachin will hurt them and he choose to hurt them regardless.
Yes we can blame Archana and Manav for not sending him to be educated after bringing him back into the family fold... but what about Soham himself? Why couldnt Soham think that with the money he made from the grocery store he could go to some night classes? He could take courses to better himself? God really does help those who help themselves.
Last but not least... lets come to Gauri... Gauri was not forced into accepting Sachin... she was not blackmailed into accepting him... she was not emotionally pressured nor coerced into accepting him. She accepted him... and as a viewer - as much as I saw and WANTED Soham and Gauri... I knew that Gauri did not love Soham and it was never shown to us that way. So...we have to respect her choice in accepting Sachin and agreeing to marry him. She, as a woman had a choice and she made her choice and that should have been respected by Soham... especially if he claimed to love her as much as he said. Where is love without respect for the one person u claim to love?
Yes... we feel that Gauri being a good person could have changed Soham's life. We feel that she should be the one that can make him better... better human, better person... better brother... better son. YES - we have seen in life and in many love stories that the person you love changes you, heals you, but sometime life doesn't work that way. When and at whom will Soham draw the line and say that "I CAN BE A BETTER PERSON FOR ME! Me, Myself and I MATTER!" Not for Gauri or Archana or Manav or Purvi - but for Soham. At the end of the day Soham is now responsible for Soham.
I would love to say that Gauri's love can heal Soham... but that love can only work if the person is giving it freely and the person its changing WANTS to be changed.
So... I guess what Im trying to say is that, Soham is now responsible for Soham and we cannot continue to blame Gauri, Sachin, Manav, Archana, Varsha, Balan and the big bad world out there. The big bad world will always exist... bad things happen to good ppl and good things fairly/unfairly happen to bad people. But we need to know the difference and take our lives in our own hands.
For those of you who read through my ramblings, sorry for the preachy tone and the one dimensional viewpoint 😊. Thank you for having the patience to read it all.
p.s. On a side note - Ankit is doing an excellent job in the negative role 👏.
I have not commented on any thus far for I fear I would sound too preachy and Im sure most may not agree with me :). But... today I choose to ramble...
Soham and Gauri love story never existed. We saw a dream sequence yes between them... but that was Soham's dream. Not once during the episodes did we see Gauri's love or any realisation of love for Soham. To me as a viewer, all I see is Soham's love (now turn obsession) for Gauri and not Gauri's love for him. So for me, its not a mutual love and certainly not a love story.
Soham was indeed a good person... despite being brought up by Balan and started the same business as Balan... he still respected his mother (Varsha) and was religious and respectful TO AN EXTENT thanks to her and had the basic decency within him as we saw how he treated Purvi, Archana, Savita, Teju (with the goons and mangoes), Ovi (saying how he is there for her and comforting her) and had changed in the recent days prior to this fiasco. SO - SOHAM did change and he had the capacity within him to be a good person... which he showed to us.
So... going back to his upbringing and blaming that as the sole reason for his current state of mind is a silly excuse. A person being raised in mud doesnt mean they have to live with it all their lives... they can wash it off and start fresh.
Manav, Archana and Sachin may not always have treated him right... and they have many faults to accept and blames to take... Sachin and mostly Manav have mistreated Soham. But, that does not excuse Soham's behaviour as of late. As Ghandi said - an eye for an eye will only make the world blind.
I used to say this about Ovi... so saying anything different about Soham will only make me a hypocrite... so I will say it here... There comes a time when a person, an adult needs to stop blaming their parents, their upbringing, their surroundings (no matter how much importance it has in their lives) and accept some responsibility for themselves. It was time and pass time Soham accepted responsibility for his own life... his own actions. He knows better than most in his family what a jail cell looks like and he also knows that doing bad things to ppl will make u face that jail cell again. He also knows the love his family has and that hurting Sachin will hurt them and he choose to hurt them regardless.
Yes we can blame Archana and Manav for not sending him to be educated after bringing him back into the family fold... but what about Soham himself? Why couldnt Soham think that with the money he made from the grocery store he could go to some night classes? He could take courses to better himself? God really does help those who help themselves.
Last but not least... lets come to Gauri... Gauri was not forced into accepting Sachin... she was not blackmailed into accepting him... she was not emotionally pressured nor coerced into accepting him. She accepted him... and as a viewer - as much as I saw and WANTED Soham and Gauri... I knew that Gauri did not love Soham and it was never shown to us that way. So...we have to respect her choice in accepting Sachin and agreeing to marry him. She, as a woman had a choice and she made her choice and that should have been respected by Soham... especially if he claimed to love her as much as he said. Where is love without respect for the one person u claim to love?
Yes... we feel that Gauri being a good person could have changed Soham's life. We feel that she should be the one that can make him better... better human, better person... better brother... better son. YES - we have seen in life and in many love stories that the person you love changes you, heals you, but sometime life doesn't work that way. When and at whom will Soham draw the line and say that "I CAN BE A BETTER PERSON FOR ME! Me, Myself and I MATTER!" Not for Gauri or Archana or Manav or Purvi - but for Soham. At the end of the day Soham is now responsible for Soham.
I would love to say that Gauri's love can heal Soham... but that love can only work if the person is giving it freely and the person its changing WANTS to be changed.
So... I guess what Im trying to say is that, Soham is now responsible for Soham and we cannot continue to blame Gauri, Sachin, Manav, Archana, Varsha, Balan and the big bad world out there. The big bad world will always exist... bad things happen to good ppl and good things fairly/unfairly happen to bad people. But we need to know the difference and take our lives in our own hands.
For those of you who read through my ramblings, sorry for the preachy tone and the one dimensional viewpoint 😊. Thank you for having the patience to read it all.
p.s. On a side note - Ankit is doing an excellent job in the negative role 👏.
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