Purvi doesn't deserve Onir - Page 7

Originally posted by: balwantkaur

To some extent I can agree. BUT it doesnt mean you dont/wont/cant respect the institution of marriage. Ovi might have been selfish, but she upheld the respect of marriage. Arjun and Purvi got married with their eyes and ears open. They KNEW what marriage meant. Arjun knew that when he agreed to Purvi's demands and danced to her tunes, there was no turning back. Not once, but twice.

Purvi knew what marrying Onir would entail. He married her out of love, but she too went along knowing full well that marriage had duties, responsiblites.

I find that Purvi and Ajrun never tired to love their spouses. One saw it as a forced marriage, and other as a marriage of conviennce. Is there NO middle ground? 'Happniess and love can be found, if they only looked for it in thier partners. Ovi and Onir are physically beautiful people, who genuinely loved Arjun and Purvi. Is that not attractive enough? To boot, the couples were compatible in their own manner. there was no abuse or any dramatics involved. If Arjun-Purvi wanted, they could have had a happy marriage, kids etc. the problem of 'forced' went away long ago, and the only thing remained is their stubborn refusal to never move on.

Many marriages start due to various reasons, in less than stellar circumstances. Not only in India but in many parts of the world and even throughout history. If every person wanted the classic fairytale romance with exactly that ONE person, than life as we know it, wouldnt be there. humans are adaptive by nature and surviors by instinct. Purvi and Arjun dont want to fall into either of the categories. They want to live in a world, that they destroyed with their own hands. Ofcourse there will be cracks galore

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

Masti, what I don't understand is why the upset if we say Purvi do not deserve Onir? The reuniting of Arvi is expected so what if we think the trick don't deserve Onir?

Originally posted by: altuphalu

'Respecting the institution of marriage' is an empty promise if there is no love.

Many marriages may start out like that but love happens in such marriages only if the adults involved are mature, not filled with hate, anger, jealousy and are able to look to the future and accept the past lovingly.

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

Masti, what I don't understand is why the upset if we say Purvi do not deserve Onir? The reuniting of Arvi is expected so what if we think the trick don't deserve Onir?

Originally posted by: altuphalu

Why is it 'they' and not about being objective? And why is it 'chick' and not Purvi?

Of course, Onir deserves better than Purvi!

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

😆 You are contradicting yourself.

You are obviously speaking of western marriages, not arranged marriages. In many arranged marriages there is no love yet, it happens over a period of time. 😆 That is to the first part of your statement.

To the second part, I have seen in arranged marriages both spouses start off on bad footing because they did not love, with all the hate, anger etc you used, and then with time sorted out their differences and fell in love.

Love is not as straight cut as you are putting it, some love have rough roads to pass through. Some people even divorce and then realise they were in love and then remarry.

If you want to speak of Arjun and Ovi tailor it to their situation and not generalise, as their situation is unique.

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

I said 'trick,' if you are going to quote me do it correctly. Secondly, as I said use the correct word, I never used the word 'they,' and what does my saying 'they,' have to do with not being objective?

I simple stated that I cannot for the life of me see why Arvi fans would be upset by a statement that was clearly absolving Purvi of being with Onir, and it was rightfully said, because they do not have a real marriage and his life has been ruined because of her. I find that quite objective.

I make no apologies for my statement...Next.