It seems that I did not make myself clear, so let me try again.
I am perfectly ok with Arjun and Purvi getting together again because they want to be with each other for the rest of their lives. So we are on the same page on this.
What I was talking about was something that has been touted ad infinitum in the forum: The Great Biological Parents Maxim. This holds that Arjun and Purvi should get together not so much for their love, but because Pari needs to have both her biological parents with her for her to have a healthy upbringing. We need not here go into the general principle, and what happens if, say, the father is a criminal or an alcoholic, and let us take it as a given for this case of Pari.
This maxim, if accepted, would naturally have to apply to all children, since every child should have the right to a healthy upbringing. Thus it would apply to any future Arjun-Ovi child as well. So that child would also need to have both his/her parents with him/her. And so we run into a brick wall.
The solution, of course, is to state, as you have done, that any Arjun-Purvi reunion should be only because they both want it. Not because of Pari or any biological parents argument. Here too we are on the same page.
And because I am dealing only with this one point, the issues of darja, which kid is older, or of Rama, Lakshmana etc. are naturally not relevant to my argument. I am not concerned here with legitimacy or the lack of it. All kids are in any case, legitimate.
Shyamala B.Cowsik
Originally posted by: sharadrocks
Sorry Ma'am but I believe Ram and all the other mythological characters have everything to do with this. So much has been spoken on this forum about the Indian way of life and morality and hence my comment! If people are preaching the Indian way of life, then let us go the whole hog. Going by that, Arjun had already had a gandharva vivah of sorts with Purvi. So, Arjun and Purvi are both bigamists but still they have first claim over each other. Let us go with any one code! Or let us say to hell with social convention and ask people to follow their hearts.
For all my sins, I belong to the latter category! Convention be damned is my philosophy in life. Am sure this will delight all those forumites who believe that compassion is reserved only for those people whose actions you would emulate!
If you ask me, this is not about Pari or any Arjun-Ovi baby that may decide to pop up in the future. Arjun and Purvi are the ones who need to decide what they want! And if they decide that it is each other that they want, no society can hold a gun to their heads and tell them what to do! By the same logic, if they decide they do not want to be with each other, Pari can never be the glue that will keep them stuck together.
Originally posted by: sashashyam
The point here is not really of any darja. Nor of who is to inherit the Kirloskar millions, so Ram and Lakshman and Bharat do not come into it. Though, as a matter of fact, both kids would be able to claim an equal share, if it came to that. There is no right of primogeniture in the Indian laws governing inheritance.
The point is only this. If it is argued that Pari should be with both her biological parents for her to have a healthy upbringing, surely the same would also apply to the second Arjun-Ovi kid. The biological parents maxim cannot be limited to the oldest child.
So he/she should also have both biological parents to raise him/her.
How can this be done for both this kid and for Pari? It cannot.
The real problem of course is Arjun's propensity to produce kids in what can only be called a casual fashion.
Shyamala B.Cowsik
