Originally posted by: pallavi25
Totally agree with TM!
Purvi learned her mahaanta lessons from Archana herself. She sacrificed everything for Archu and Manav's happiness, and now they are disowning her for the same act? Shame on them!
Purvi always wants their happiness but they dont want her to be happy! Blood is indeed thicker than water!
Archana forgot the child who gave her maternal fulfilment for 18 yrs when her husband and 2 kids went away from her?
Only Purvi feels the gratitude towards Archu for giving her a home, but it seems it was only just a roof and rooms and boarding. Not real acceptance, no real sense of belonging, no sense of family. No wonder Purvi suffers from low self esteem and feels she doesnt deserve happiness and keeps on trying to make those ungrateful Deshmukhs happy at the cost of her own!
I'm not saying you're wrong but this is where opinions of younger and older generation differ. To us we may shunt them, not look them in the eye, ignore them for a bit and then welcome them back into our arms because surely the younger generation are more softer.
Whereas older generations thoughts differ. Our mothers are what you would call from the middle generation and to say they have a stiff upper lip is about right. They may hug us, care for us but some of their thoughts are still in like with what their own mother's and father's taught them.
I'm afraid when you're angry with someone you love, you DON'T listen to what is coming out of your own mouth. You just let loose.
And that is indeed what is. Archana is portrayed to love Purvi more than anything in this world, second only to manav, even manav might be number 2 on the list.
Archana sees it as maternal fulfillment which was taken by Purvi and trodden all over on then thrown in the rubbish dump.
Ask any older mother and they will say the same thing, when they say 'I disown you' they mean 'I'm hurt more than anything and do not want to see your face right now.' The pain a mother goes through when she says those words to her daughter is not understood by us until we become mothers ourself. The mother herself then goes to ask for forgiveness and holds her daughter in her arms.
See the way Archana put all blame on herself and said 'This is not Purvi's fault' Means that she's already softening to Purvi all over again.
Purvi does not need to be accepted by the deshmukhs. They were NEVER her family. Just people that are related to her mother. Her family is Archana and Sulochana. Deshmukhs came afterwards, they don't need to be grateful for her and vice versa for plenty of reasons mainly the fact that they didn't know she existed.
Archana is the one who gave her nurture and sustainance, in return all Archana asked of Purvi was respect.
I disagree with you on the fact that archana never accepted her. Archana always gave Purvi more love than she ever gave to anyone else. So why would Purvi suffer from low self esteem.
Ask someone who has low self esteem.
Can't talk on the phone. Definetely wouldn't even think about intercourse. Wouldn't dare even argue with the boss or stand up for themselves. Getting in touch with your mothers family. Talking to the police and about court issues. Marriage without family input. Having a boyfriend then finding someone else without any assistance, after break up.
These are all things that Purvi has done. Contrary to your beliefs, Purvi has a very high self esteem.
Edited by ambolove - 12 years ago
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