Ovi is too much DT note pg19 - Page 17

Originally posted by: hillydee

You can't steal something that was already yours, love or no love they were engaged before he fell in love with Purvi😉 Husband stealer is not far off either, because Purvi never made herself that unavailable in Arjun's sight..She never practised to mind her own business.😉 Indirectly she is a Mother Stealer, to someone who is hurt that their Mother did not find for her and chose to raise another baby😃 Baby Stealer is kinda weird, but it is probably coming from the fact that she breast fed Pari, it would not be my choice of words though, more like Deceiver 😉

Ovi had Arjun first, and I am disappointed that you are ignoring your Indian Sanskaars to make your point.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

My dear, no pointing fingers at me or my Indian sanskars, uncalled for and not allowed on the forum but I shall let it pass this one time.

Arjun did not belong to Ovi because there was no engagement. Patrikas are exchanged and families enter into a formal agreement of marriage at a "proper" engagement. Moreover, Arjun hid the fact and did not tell Purvi that he had agreed to go along with Ovi's marriage idea.

Husband stealer is not right either, just because Ovi is paranoid, Purvi should not be required to take care to avoid Arjun's "sight". Ovi should be laying down these rules to her husband. I will agree with the deceiver bit but mother stealer is way off base, doesn't make sense even for Ovi to believe that. It is not the baby's fault that Savita aaji kept Ovi apart from her Aai and her Aai to eke out her lonely years decided to adopt said baby.

Originally posted by: hillydee

It was not an unprovoked barter, it was a final attempt at salvaging the biggest disrespect anyone woman could face. Yes, it was in turn giving Arjun precedence over her self worth. However, it was fair under the circumstances when everyone including her Father pushed her feelings aside for the sake of Purvi's happiness, just like they did when Purvi's supposedly died and Ovi's own was supposed to be alive.

Another thing, Purvi's announcement that her baby died, is the lowest anyone could ever go to keep a secret, to claim your baby dead. She could have offered Pari, after Ovi finished grieving.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

I do not think it was salvaging at all, it was stooping low and underselling herself. If she were in any way related to me, I would have comforted her over her loss (Arjun, I mean) and encouraged her to forget him. No man is worth belittling oneself like that, period. She only hurt herself further in the bargain, why open herself to more hurt? if the guy didn't want her, why want him? Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Your second paragraph, I agree with completely, it was wrong of Purvi to do the baby switch and to pretend her own baby is dead is weird to say the least.

Originally posted by: hillydee

My dear I was genuinely not pointing fingers at you, that was not my intention. I was really enjoying the debate. I just don't understand why the breaking of an engagement is dealt with and seen as no big deal based on the reality of Indian traditions.

Originally posted by: hillydee

As I said before Ovi should not have lowered her standards to that level. However, she is not totally wrong because she had no obligation to anyone, and no one cared what she was going through. I cannot judge anyone in such a situation.