What a great post! After so long a thread analyzing Purvi and Arjun with some super comments by everyone! :)
Yesterday, when I read the post, I was in the affirmative for Purvi needing to move on because somewhere I had a huge soft corner for the girl. Even though everything points against her, the whole idea of her feelings about being adopted and therefore forever indebted to Archana, made her give up the one man who loved her possibly more than even Archana. She would have had the best life with him. But well, her immaturity and her unconditional love for her aai, caused her to give up on the one dream every young girl has - of finding a man who loves her and will keep her happy for the rest of her life.
Today's episode changed my mind.
However, Purvi shows some very complex traits in her. Her devotion to Archana and Sulochana is understandable, even Manav perhaps ( since she grew up without a father and was shown to desperately want a father figure in her life), and Teju possibly due to their 4 month sisterly bonding and Soham due to her innate intuition about his goodness and the fact that they have a mutual soft spot since the kidnapping. But what I do not understand is her devotion to Ovi. She owes nothing to Ovi, unless somewhere in her unconscious mind she feels guilty about Arjun loving her and dumping Ovi. Even then, weighing it out, whose happiness should be more important to her? Arjun's or Ovi's?Her roots of sacrificial abilities can be traced to her upbringing from Archana. Not that I am blaming Archana here, only saying that daughters usually adapt behaviors and thinking that their mothers have. Especially when she has had no father, she only had Archana to follow and look upto.
But, Purvi knows what living apart from Manav did to Archana. She has seen it for 18 long years. Could she not sense what living apart from her would do to Arjun? Today, his inner mental suffering in this marriage and helplessness with Ovi was out in front of everyone. Purvi was standing right there and she should have seen through his pain. She should have felt his pain, if not her own. She should have felt guilty seeing him fall apart like that. She should know how much each day living in this sham of a marriage is killing him. Why didn't she?
Being mahaan and looking out for other people is one thing, but being blind to the misery of the person you love is another. In no way do I expect Purvi to give it back to Ovi or run away with Arjun. But, there is no reason for her to keep asking of Arjun, since there is nothing between them anymore. There is no relationship. It is contradictory that she asks favors off him on the basis of past love. She wants him to move on but on the premise of a promise to her? Isn't that selfish of her? She wants Ovi to be happy and stop accusing her in the mess. She wants her family to be happy and not stressed out with tensions between her sister and Arjun. She wants the guilt off her mind. How is this true love?
Time and again, Arjun has proved his love. He may have been a puppet in her hands ( which I abhor, since love doesn't mean being a slave to your lover), but he does show her he loves her beyond anyone else. He doesn't think of himself over her. He wants to divorce Ovi because it kills him to be with her but he doesn't, he knows Ovi is going to have a loveless life with him and vice versa, but he does it. Because it will give Purvi peace.
Taking bullets for her, leaving his luxuries to make a point to her mother, and finally getting married to someone else, all of this ( even if immature and stupid on his part) was FOR PURVI. She chose her mother over him, she chose Soham dada over him ( when she told him off in the hospital conveniently forgetting that Arjun almost lost his life for her thanks to her brother), she chooses Ovi's happiness over his. She never really loved Arjun. It probably was infatuation or temporary puppy love with a man who is crazy about you, but it never was true love.
Today, she proved to be not only stupid but unworthy of Arjun's love by asking him once again to move on with his marriage. I do understand she stayed away from him, her contant attempts at avoiding him ( sanskaari that she is), but I do not understand why she still controls him and makes him listen to her. Now that she has given him up, she should stay out of his life and decisions. She should simply let him be. If he wants to divorce Ovi because he loves Purvi, she should not interfere in his decisions. There are parents and elders to try and talk to Arjun about that. It's because she doesn't want to be blamed for Ovi's marriage falling apart. She doesn't want her mother to grieve for Ovi. She doesn't want her Manav baba to think wrong of Purvi. Or for that anybody in the D house. And not for once, she thinks about Arjun.
I hope Arjun realizes this and chooses to quit from both the girls who simply never give an ounce of a thought to his feelings or emotions. he chose to be putty in Purvi's hands and give in to Ovi's demands. He should now walk out on both. Purvi can marry Onir, make his life happy or miserable and make as many babies with him as she likes, conveniently forgetting Arjun and his misery in the process. I would like Arjun to move on this time.
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