Dear Jyothi,
What can I do but mourn with you? There seems to be little else left to do. The problem is that our sensibilities, like those of the original Arjun and Purvi, are very far removed from those of the PR CVs. I now begin to understand that the original Arjun-Purvi were an aberration, not a fresh, attractive way of developing characters. Now they have been pruned and fitted into the old Procrustean bed made to order by Ekta Kapoor's legion of 'creatives', and so here we are.
Yes, for you and for me, it was always Arjun. I had watched PR for over 2 1/2 years, with a few months break, and I never had any involvement with any of the characters, and their joys and sorrows barely touched me. That changed with the leap and Arjun (and to a lesser extent Purvi). He was, for me a sort of Sasha II, and I really loved him.
Now he seems like a stranger, though it is the same face and the same charm. It is not even that I cannot forgive him for his idiocy in letting Purvi dispose of him for her own ends. It is that he does not seem to be able to decide WHAT he wants to do - stay with Ovi and manage as best as he can, or break free (I don't say go back to Purvi for she is too
sanskaari to go back to where they were) and go his own way at last. He oscillates between the two aimlessly and brainlessly. It is this that gets my goat.
His picking a fight with that Sarvesh Industries chap was the height of folly, and I cringed when I watched our boy make such a idiot of himself. And all for a girl who cannot see beyond her
aai, who cannot see beyond her Soham, who cannot see beyond his mayee - and so it goes, like the
dhobhi, the
dhoban and the
gadha. Jyothi , it is not just Archana who takes Purvi for granted, Purvi takes Arjun for granted in precisely the same way, and the worst is that he does not seem to mind it at all! Why does he not cut loose from her; she does not deserve him at all.
Why then do we blame Ovi for selfishness, when Purvi is just as selfish or worse? Does it make it better that she dumps Arjun for her mother, whereas Ovi buys him for herself? I am reminded of what Vijay(Amitabh)'s mother in
Deewaar tells him:
The others who committed all those wrongs, what were they to me? Nothing. But you were my son. How then did you commit the same sins?". One expected more from Purvi because she was Arjun's beloved, and she owed Arjun for loving her so deeply - and she let him and us down big time.
We expected nothing from Ovi, and now I really begin to think she is beginning to shape up - please see my response to xoxoarvi above. She was not shamming today, she apologises to all and sundry unreservedly. and voices her regret at having suspected Arjun and Purvi groundlessly. They also bring out the fact that Ovi and Arjun have shared memories that are exclusive to them, that is something that had never registered with me before. He obviously has no notion of breaking up their marriage either. So where does that leave us?
Moreover, just as you, and many others, feel that Ovi should not go scot free and have a successful marriage, so do I feel that Purvi should not go scot free, and get Arjun back. If she suffers now because of her
mahaan tyaag - which I sometimes doubt, for she is a self-satisfied martyr, and martyrs do not suffer as we lesser mortals do, they rejoice in their miseries- it is nowhere near enough for what she did to Arjun. So she has not paid yet, not by any manner of means. I only hope that the payback does not come in that ultra-ugly fashion, for that would just about put the lid on it. But as every rumour that we scoffed at has come true, I have a horrid feeling that this will too, and it will be the final nail in the coffin for Purvi.
No, not for Arjun, for even if he and Purvi had a fling before their planned marriage (which I find VERY hard to believe), it is not HIS fault that he ended up marrying Ovi. Why should he be blamed for the mess? I loved your "for I cannot leave our boy alone, with all his faults, he is still ours 😊..". I would say the same, except that I am tired of being miserable for a feckless idiot whom I cannot reach and teach. If it had been my Sasha, I would have straightened him out.
Well, Jyothi my dear, let us wait for the story to leap forward, or rather stumble forward, once more. And for the other shoe to drop. I plan to watch PR anyway, and since nothing that happens there really bothers me any more, I am in an enviable position of serene detachment . That is not quite true, as you are undoubtedly saying to yourself after reading my post of today, but that is what I am aiming to achieve!
Warm regards.
Shyamala
Originally posted by: jdronamraju
Dear Shyamala,
Reading this post and seeing our friends on it, reminds me of the good old days.. That is what they have become, the good old days.. But, what a glorious time we had .. and what have times become now.. so dismal !!
The train wreck that hit the glorious world of Arjun-Purvi, caused by one main driver and her two brainless assistants, has caused an irrevocable damage and I do not see any good recovery from it. It is getting worse by the day. PR has become a dabacle now, that we are forced to endure. I really dont care much for how the rest of the PR story goes, even though they are the main characters, I have never been able to really ever relate to that story or even the characters. I dont mean to lessen its importance, but stating my position on it. I have started watching PR for ARVI caught my attention, sometime early last year, and have sustained it all this time. It was a story that was weaved so well and the relationship evolved slowly but surely and had an undeniable charm to it until recent times.
For me, as for you, it was always Arjun who drew me to it.
But alas, what have they done to our boy now !! He is betrayed, shattered, lost in this loveless marriage, and I have no clue why he is still there, and has no hope of happiness in his life ever. What has he done to deserve this from both the sisters? Why does he not get out of this idiotic marriage? why does he want to make it "work"? For that idiotic girl who dumped him? What Rubbish !! She doesnt even have a tinge of remorse for what she put him through. Neither of the girls deserve him, neither Purvi nor least of all Ovi. Why does he not have any anger towards either of them? You are right, when you said, we had hopes when he said "Face it" to Purvi. It looked like he was gonna go that way, but why did the writers do an about turn and wimp him out? Is it shift the focus from them to the Vishnu track? Nothing explains it, for what he is now is totally against his character and what we all believed the kind of man he is. why have the writers done such a damage to him, still baffles me.
As far as Purvi, I can never forgive her for what she did to Arjun for whatever be her reason. For me, that is the ultimate deception, that one can do to the person whom u claimed to have loved, and promised to never leave him even the day before. CV's are trying to put a halo around her, as the mahaan tyaagi, and now the 'reformer' of all. But however thick this halo is, it will never banish the image of the hilltop scene, and what she did to Arjun, for me atleast. All said and done, since then she has not taken any wrong steps, out of her sanskaar world. She falls for the wrong people again, brings those snakes into her house. In the coming weeks, Purvi is going to be hounded by the snakes, Ovi and the rest of them until she has nowhere else to go. Her mother and aaji care less for her. They were not even concerned that she was accosted by Goondas and what could have happened to her, they were all into Soham, the golden boy. Such is her state right now, and the sad part is, she is not even aware of it. The orphan girl will remain orphan in that family. Her self-absored mother has no time to even think about this girl who has given up everything for her and still does and will too in the future.
Coming to my main grouch, Ms. Ovi.. What I cannot accept is that even though, she is the main reason for all the destruction, she is going "scot-free". Arjun and Purvi have and are suffering for all that is done, more so Arjun the most. But, what about Ovi? why does she not have to face the consequences of her actions? why is HER marriage the accepted thing? Why is her family, her self absorbed parents, her sister, DK and everyone involved, have absolved her of all her deeds? Why is it that everyone forgot what she did and how she did it? And now, she expects it to be a normal marraige and she is all hurt and pained by Arjun's actions? Did she not go into this with open eyes? Just because she serves him those unending supply of juices, parades around with her medals of honor in those strapless horrid dresses, acts all wifely, we are supposed to forget her karnamaas? I am surprised at the ready acceptance of Ovi and her expectations by some of us. When Arjun and Purvi are constantly questioned and criticized, why not Ovi? what makes her right and them wrong? I am not pointing at anyone in particular, but am just wondering at the general opinion. What she is facing right now, is just because of her insecurity and not enough retribution for me. She needs to pay big time for this, like the rest of them have.
Well, I have said enough, probably..😊... As far as the double pregnancy track goes, if it happens, it is the most disgusting thing they could come up with and the writers would have fallen to their lowest. And, then for me, PR is finished in that case. For, that will be the death of Arjun, that I know of. Until then, I will be around, for I cannot leave our boy alone, with all his faults, he is still ours 😊..
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
