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lax i totally agree with the fact that Purvi should not have exposed Punni's affair. However, I feel it was wrong not mean. She did it for what she thought were good reasons for Punni and not for personal gain, nevertheless, it was completely wrong in my opinion. It wasn't her business.And it's true that Manju did try to change. However, to compare Punni's affair with this man and Purvi's love for Arjun are like comparing apples and cell phones...nothing to compare. By her own admission, Punni was having sexual relations for career advancement. Purvi fell in love with a man whom she had NO idea had agreed to marry someone else...Her love for him was totally innocent.Punni was NOT telling the truth because she manipulated to look like it was the same kind of relationship she herself had had.. Maybe she even thought that is what is was...but that wasn't the truth, so why should Purvi lie and say it was? That makes no sense whatsoever.Archana has yet to learn the truth about Arjun and Purvi's relationship...she doesn't know at this point so she can't very well speak about it. She doesn't think Purvi is better than Punni, other than the fact that all mothers think their own children are "the best". In fact that is one of the big differences. When Punni was exposed, her own parent vilified her and Vinod physically abused her. They never once tried to find out why this happened. It was really about how it embarrassed the parents and made them look, not how sad it was for Punni. How would Punni ever feel loved by them. Archana was angry at Purvi for not telling her about her love for Arjun but Purvi still knew she was loved. As for Punni, Archana has always loved Punni.Punni's problems stem from the fact that she watched her mother so filled with hate and anger all the time...she was physically pushed & punished on more than one occasion for loving her own aunt Archana and grandmother Sulo ..Archana and Punni had a wonderful bonding, but Manju couldn't bear it. She was so jealous of Archana and wanted her children to hate the ones she hated. There are those that say that Sulo never treated Manju fairly, so she had a right to be jealous, but perhaps it's because Manju was so spiteful and hateful that it would be difficult. But even if someone has a right to be jealous, what right does a mother have to teach her child to be hateful? I'ts really very wrong.I've always felt sorry for Punni, but it's her own parents fault not Archana and Purvi's.
Naava, you make some vey valid points. But I somewhat understand Manju's feelings towards the Ks. Imagine as a daughter in law living with your inlaws and sister in laws. And the MIL and Sils constantly putting you down about your lack of sanskars. Varsha was always mocking Manju. I agree Archana was always kind to Manju but Sulo and Varsha overstepped their bounds. The fact is that Vinod and Manju were the ones earning money and running the household with their money. None of the 3 sisters were married, and they were all living off their brother's & sis in laws earnings. Varsha got a job later on, but not sure that she contributed financially to the household. Manju wanted to provide well for her kids but always felt that their hard earned money was going for Vinod's sisters wedding, jewelry, etc. It's a touchy situation when it comes to finances. I find it ironic that when Manav wanted to help Vandu financially, Archana stopped him. But Sulo never stopped asking Vinod to provide for his sisters. It's very hypocritical to say the least. That is why Manju couldn't' stand her inlaws. But i'm not supporting Manju completely, she did some very wrong and nasty things. But no mother would like to see their children bond more with their sister in law than with their own mother. Sulo and Archana had no business trying to be mother figure to Punni and Ruchi. That was Manju's right as a mom. I would hate it if my sis in law ever tried to replace my position with my children. That's the point is that Archana is always trying to be mother figure to everyone's kids but her own. What is wrong with this picture? I have no doubt that Manju loved her daughters more than anything and she always tried to do best for them. But unfortunately she was caught up in a household where all three sisters, despite being married kept coming back into the household and causing drama all the time. Manju and Vinod couldn't live separately which any married couple nowadays wants. That was a sore spot for Manju. Sulo was always comparing Manju to her daughters and putting her down. Her daughters turned out no better. Look at Varsha, perfect example of bad upbringing.
I agree that poor Punni got the raw end of the deal. She had to grow up in a dysfunctional family, its not wonder she turned out the way she did. She never got proper father's love and that is why she probably turned to an older man. She constantly saw her father take sides with his mom and sisters against his wife. When Manav listens to Savita everyone on this board always calls him "mama's boy". But in fact Manav has stood up to Savita far more times than Vinod has ever stood up to Sulo. Manav always took Archana's side over Savita, to the point when he moved out of his house and left his mother to be with Archana. Vinod always yelled at Manju. I know Manju deserved it a lot of the time, but once a man gets married the wife should get priority. All Manju ever wanted to was to live separately, and he should've done that from the beginning.
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