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I was about to write abt the same..Lunzi take the example of a chain smoker, if v suddenly ask him to leave smoking, can he leave that??
How ever bad varsha is , she was attached to saham and at one shot she cant get detached to him, and this is not the right way to treat her.. she needs either medical help or change of place..
Im still feeling all this sudden break to any madness will worse the situation, such cases should be handled delicately, and by giving some time to change gradually..
Varsha is addicted to Soham like an smoker is addicted to cigarettes or alchoholic to drink.
There is no slow or gradual way of quitting. In both cases addicted has to go cold turkey. Than they follow 12 step program. First they need to admit to their addiction and wanting help. Counselling needs to take place to find out what makes them crave for a drink or smoke. In this case Soham. Which is Varsha's need for a child. But why Soham and not any other child? Million $ mystery. Varsha has alot to deal with from within working with Dr. a professional.
I am no expert but know this much Varsha seeing Soham twice a week or even twice a month is not a good thing right now. In past all 4 ArMan and SaSha are to be blamed for putting Soham in this type of arrangement-situation. Going forward Varsha needs psychiatric help-couselling to understand and accept her mental situation. Needs to understand and accept Soham is not her child. He is ArMan's son and she has no right on him. It was wrong of her to take and keep him for so long even though ArMan pacified her behavior. Satish needs to support her in that. Others should only do what is recommended by the psychiatrist. I can bet million $ that per professionals Soham visiting Varsha at this point is harming and hurting them both than helping.
ArMan should enjoy and protect their child by taking care of him. Varsha changing her position from Mom to Mausi is going to take a while and not anytime soon. None of the family member is an expert so they should not do their own cockamime way of treating Varsha. No need to feel sorry or guilty period unless there is a reason for it. Let SaSha handle Varsha's condition. Let Joshi family take care of that while Deshmukhs handle and enjoy their own family.
I am against Archana taking Soham to Varsha or Varsha coming to Archana at times to visit Soham at this juncture as it will not help but hurt this lil innocent child.
BTW What Varsha is going thru crying, not eating and all is her way of grieving process for losing a child. She thinks she has lost her child which is not true. She is lost mentally. not thinking intellectually or logically. Her thinking process is scewed. So she needs help.
and even you can come 😆.. See again sharing..😉
