The problem isn't the abortion but Varsha's lie

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Posted: 14 years ago
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I'm surprised that so many of you are blaming Manav for speaking the truth about the matter.

Firstly, Varsha should have been upfront and honest about the abortion issue. The adoption agents might have looked at her differently but they would have probably given her a chance to explain her actions.

Because Varsha did not speak the truth, the agency isn't going to give her a child not because of the abortion but due to the fact that she was dishonest.

Would you have preferred that Varsha lied on her application and when the truth came out, the agents would have to take action?

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Posted: 14 years ago
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i agree that varsha was at fault,but i understnd her pov cause she was rather scred to tell,if sasha wld have tld about this to th agency before the agency wld have still gaven them a chance but now in front of dem sashas proved wrong.ARMAAN also agreed for lieing in the agency,wen varsha tld archu to tell manav to lie she agreed even manav tld if he wld know he dint had to tell abot the abortion he wldnt have,archu shld have explain varsha that go and tell the truth rther den agreeing to lie,d way manv tld the agency wala about the abortion was rther foolish,he cld have said so many things,he said she was career oriented,tat was dumb
HERE all 4 are at fault,but satish isnt blaming armaan cause he is a balance person but varsha isnt,she aborted her baby just cause of a fight between her and satish.
Posted: 14 years ago
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i totally agree with you.varsha should tell the truth.if she tell the truth to the orphanage commite they will surely consider it.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Nowadays Honesty is not the best policy...

Why should varsha tell the truth?

Varsha knew that regarding the abortion case no one would give her. It is not that easy.




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Posted: 14 years ago
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i thought the lie was unnecessary ... i dont think having an abortion makes you ineligible to adopt a child .. SaSha panicked and goofed up big time.. they couldnt adopt bcuz they were caught lying ... not bcuz of the abortion ...
satish realizes this .. hope varsha does too...
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Having an abortion raises a million questions which impact on the aspect of "adoption", specially in Europe (and more explicitly in Poland, as I can confirm this due to once having been in Catholic girls group, and being Polish). They have shown a very weak committee for adoption, or maybe this is the Indian system. Back in Poland, it used to be a popular destination for westerners (Western europe or USA) to come and adopt, now its almost impossible for them, because fulfilling all the clause is quite a task. Thats why perhaps now they move Africa. Adoption must come from child's aspect, not from the aspect of the adopter parents. There are many lists, including psychiatric tests needed.

Well, I really think that Varsha's main problem is her obsession with her mind, beyond which she sees blank. This is the root of all problems, and it gives daily discomforting fruits such as this new one.

I personally never felt that she really ever changed. It was perhaps that she felt the pain of a previous reckless motion and bump ... she did express pain and said she shouldn't have bumped ... but the problem was with her way of walking and her mind, which she never seem to be willing to address.

It is now her obsession to get an adopted baby, after getting whatever happens is not the goal right now.

Very disappointed of Satish as a man without a motive it seems. He is man or not internally for me is a thing to ponder ... but in anyway, it is another debate. He seems to have surrendered all his existence already. He is a good resource for Varsha to use for a life where she would continue her mind! Good luck to her! (is it goodluck? ... not that I think it is, but for her perhaps).



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Posted: 14 years ago
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Agreed, Varsha should have told the truth and explained that it was a phase in her life that she now regrets terribly. Satish also seemed shocked that the agency did not know.
Of course, I do question the brains of the CVs ... the agency found out Varsha couldn't become a mother again, however couldn't find out that she had an abortion. Wah CVs you are creative!
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Posted: 14 years ago
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It is true that Varsha should have told agency the truth in the first place. However, honesty and truth does not do any good in today's world. Manav should have used his common sense in telling about the abortion. He always talk wbout sensibility and all, then where did his sense go when it came to this matter. Also I feel that if this would have happen to anyone in real life, they would have reacted same as Varsha. People do make mistakes and noone is perfect. Archana should stop minding others business and trying to be devi all the time.

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