and what about all the times when he hurt Archana .No one has hurt Archana as bad as he has ...It was not savita who proposed to Shraavni , it was not savita who told him to break his marriage vows even without telling his wife ...he did all this on his own .He was the one who kept saying yes yes yes to girish every time Girish came up with some idea that would hurt Archana ...
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My opinions here r slightly different. The time period ur talking about .........was when Archana had fallen for him in a real bad way ..........like I explained in the post u liked so much .about how and when she fell in love ..............but he had NOT fallen for her in such a big way then . She was to him the girl he was attracted to , and he had luckily actually landed her , but she had quickly gone away from his life just like she had come in it .
Girish did not come up with plans to hurt Archana at all . Girish did not even THINK of Archana . Girish only thought of and for HIS daughter . Archana had made the decision to divorce Manav ..........Girish did not bring about the divorce .
When she came back it was TOO LATE and she realised it and decided to play WIFEY to her heart's content in the 3 month stay so she cud collect memories .She thre and threw herself at Manav to earn his goodwill JUST LIKE BEFORE and then , when she fyi stirred him , left him , content as a woman , although losing him legally . In the process she WRECKED Shravani's chance at happiness .Shravani , who had neither told her to divorce Manav and go with her mom , or invited her to come back , or told her to collect memories .
Girish and Shravani were victims of Archana's single minded focussed activity ..........Gaining Manav's goodwill somehow Back again ..JUST LIKE BEFORE .
Girish had no personal interest in doing ANYTHING to Archana and Manav was NOT his yes man . Sachins child was the issue there and Manav was as worried about it as Girish was ..........infact Girish didnt even WANT it in the world , perhaps knowing more about life .His experience proves RIGHT today ...Manav has turned BACK on his word , discarded his responsibility and is dancing with Archus maaika .CVs have sent Girish away and Shravani away listening to viewers demands .
No one had ASKED Archana to be around a situation she clearly wasn't even wanted in ...........If people cud ask Why is Shravani there still although she has realised she is unwanted , why not apply that to Archna during 3 month stay ? She was NOT WANTED is the blunt bitter truth . Not once did Manav encourage her or gave her slightest hope , SAvita too wanted her out . Yet she stayed there for 'SAVING" HIM . Did she restrict herself to that legality then ?No she went ahead and played WIFE . Her suffering was self made and completely her own doing . Neither was Girish responsible for it , nor Manav nor Savita . This Vaishali whom I am criticissing today so much had very sanely told her U cannot have it both ways ..........either fight for him or just leave him .
Archana left of her own accord , came back of her own accord and bore the suffering of her own accord . NO ONE FORCED HER FOR ANYTHING .
Manav fell for her AFTER the 3 month stay . She ensured it . Till that point he 'loved' her but was in control . She ensured it that he was stirred . Thats the way I saw the story .
I absolutely agree with u that Manav is an extremist and a very stupid man who feels his decisions are the best . Archana is a stupid woman who loves this stupid man is the story .
And both are good people . Stupid , but good people .
Regarding Manav being responsible for Savita.........can he really set boundaries for SAvita ? i think NOT . Human nature pretty much doesnt change as u urself said . Savita will never change , she will be humanized more and more due to her own self contemplation .
If Manav cud not set boundaries for archana's unbounded crazy love , he cannot set boundaries for Savita's nature too .Neither can Damodar .Neither can Satish control Varsha . No one can control anyone .
But yes .he cud have controlled HIS OWN responses to Savita's atrocious proposals of putting sindoor in Shravnis maang or the engagement proposed by Girish . He didnt say YES to both coz he was a YES MAN at that point , he said YES coz it was HIS GOAL to get Archana OUT FROM THERE as he confided to Tarun .
But I agree with u that Manav is an extremist and needs a sharp talk on balancing relation ships .
Mannat Har Khushi Paane Ki
Veer Hanuman
